Giving Head With Confidence: How to Blow His Mind! With Girls Gone Deep!

We talk about blowjobs like they’re a performance — like there’s a “right way,” a secret move, or something you’re supposed to magically know.

But most advice doesn’t actually make oral sex feel better.
 It just makes people anxious.

In this episode, I’m joined by Girls Gone Deep for a real, explicit, shame-free conversation about giving oral sex that actually feels incredible — without porn scripts, pressure, or performative nonsense.

We talk about:
 – Where confidence actually comes from
– Why enthusiasm matters more than technique
– Communication during oral (yes, during)
– Givers vs receivers: etiquette, consent, and boundaries
– Rhythm, variety, and why switching it up matters
– Circumcised vs uncircumcised anatomy
– Positions that make oral easier (and hotter)
– What people get wrong about “being good at it”

This episode is explicit, honest, and deeply sex-positive — meant to help you enjoy giving and receiving without anxiety or shame.

Find Girls Gone Deep On Their Website: https://www.girlsgonedeep.com/

Find them on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/girlsgonedeeppod

👉 Join me for 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/

Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com.

Experience the Pheromone Advantage at 15% off  with my code LRT15
Use code LRT15  at Eyeoflove.com 
And you'll get 15% off pheromone powered perfumes, colognes, and more.

Check out my Diaries on OF. Enjoy exclusive access to intimacy video how-tos, guided self-pleasure meditations, and more!
https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/

Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti

Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.
https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/

Chapters

• 1:30 New Name, Same Locker Room Energy
• 4:00 Why Most Blowjob Advice Misses The Point
• 6:20 Meet Elle And V: Girls Gone Deep
• 9:56 Confidence, Experience, And Enthusiasm
• 14:43 Showing Real Enthusiasm Without Faking It
• 20:17 Lube, Spit, And Sensory Preferences
• 26:34 Techniques: Pepper Grinder, Cadence, And Tongue
• 31:42 Rhythm For Him vs Rhythm For Her
• 35:29 Deep Throat Training And Gag Reflex Tips
• 39:58 Taboo Play, Limits, And Aftercare
• 44:22 Uncircumcised Vs Circumcised: Foreskin Basics
• 49:41 Positioning, Comfort, And 69 Benefits
• 53:31 Vibrators For The Giver And Staying Aroused
• 55:52 Receiver Etiquette: Hygiene, Consent, And Finish
• 1:00:27 Shoving, Face Fucking, And Boundaries

Transcript

SPEAKER_02: 0:46

I'm Annette Benedetti, host of the podcast formerly known as Locker Room Talk and Shots. The show has a new name, Talk Sex with Annette. But at its core, this is still your locker room. It's where we strip away shame, get curious, and speak the unspoken about sex, kink, dating, pleasure, and desire. Around here, nothing's off limits. These are the kinds of conversations we save for our boldest group chats, our most trusted friends, and of course, the women's locker room. Think raw, honest, and sometimes unapologetically raunchy. If you've been here from the beginning, thank you. And if you're new, welcome to my podcast where desire meets disruption and pleasure becomes power. Now, let's talk about sex. Cheers. Right, Low. Today's talk Sex with the Net topic is how to give a blowjob that actually feels incredible with girls gone deep. Look, we talk about blowjobs like they're a performance. Like there's a right way and a wrong way, and some secret move you're supposed to magically know. But the truth is, most of the advice out there doesn't actually make oral feel better. It makes people anxious, whether you are receiving or giving. And today we are slowing this conversation down, or we're heating it up, depending on which you prefer. Not to give you porn scripts, but to give you some direction when trying to give a good blow job. This is from people who love to give what I can only assume are really good blowjobs. I'm really excited about today's guests because this topic deserves more depth. Yes, more depth than it usually gets. And these are the exact people I'd want to have in this conversation. I'm joined by L and V, the host of Girls Gone Deep, a podcast that explores dating, intimacy, and sexuality and personal growth through a deeply sex positive, shame-free lens. What I love about their work is that they don't teach scripts or pressure people into doing it right. They focus on curiosity, embodiment, communication, and letting pleasure be something you experience, not perform. And I know they love this topic. I don't know exactly where they're going to take the conversation today, which is my favorite place to start. But I do know we're going to talk about blowjobs in a way that feels real and actually useful. Now, before we dive in, I gotta remind you that I'm over on OnlyFans, and that is where I'm sharing my sex and intimacy how-tos detailed and demos along with audio guided self-pleasure meditations. You can also get a little taste of my intimacy coaching over there with your one-off questions. Y'all have questions, just send them to me on OnlyFans. You can find me there with my handle at TalkSex within it. You can find me on Substack doing a whole lot of the same with my handle at TalkSexwithanit. And good news for you, if you can't remember all that, you can scroll down to the show notes below and you're gonna find all of the links you need to find me wherever you want to, and girls gone deep as well. And I can't wait to see you there. But for now, I'm gonna hand the mic over to L and V and I'm gonna give them an opportunity to tell you a little bit more about each of them.

SPEAKER_00: 4:05

Hi, everybody. I'm so excited to be here. I am Elle and I am in an EM relationship, so open with a husband. We've been married for about 12 years in the lifestyle for about the same amount of time. And I'm excited to come on here to talk about my favorite thing in the world, which is giving blowjobs, sucking dick, and cock worship. And it's one of my favorite things to do. I'm such a giver, and I'm excited to share the tips and tricks that we have with you. And I'm I'm excited to have a little girl chat. We're all going to talk about what we like and don't like about this and everything. So thanks for being here.

SPEAKER_01: 4:44

And I am V, and I am also very excited to be here and talk about what we refer to as our sexual superpowers. We love deep throating, we love cock worship, I love face fucking. So we're gonna talk about all of that. I have been in the ethically non-monogamous scene and kink scene for about six years now, and I just love using sex as a tool for self-growth and introspection and fucking fun.

SPEAKER_02: 5:16

All right. Well, guys, I already know I chose the right people for this conversation. I'm really excited about it because I tend to talk about pussy a lot, and I've got two women who are really eager and excited about talking about the dicks. So let's do it. Look, I I I always give you why you should stay to the end, but I'm A, for the fun of the ride of the conversation. B, if you are either the giver of blowjobs or the receiver, someone who wants to receive, you're going to get some great tips on giving and being good at it. But also, I plan on making sure that if you're the person receiving, maybe you get some tips on how to be a good receiver. I would like to cover that topic today. So, you know, let's just dive right in. By the end of this, we will all be experts in blowjobs. That's my goal. All right. At least we'll hit intermediate level knowledge, right?

SPEAKER_01: 6:16

We're spreading the gospel of good blowjobs. Yes.

SPEAKER_00: 6:20

Yeah, you at least upgrade some skills to some extent. I love that.

SPEAKER_02: 6:25

Spreading the gospel of good blowjobs. Yeah. Cheers to that, period. Cheers.

SPEAKER_00: 6:34

And I want to read what's on my mug. It says, What you call morning wood is what I call breakfast in bed. Appropriate for this podcast today. I mean.

SPEAKER_02: 6:46

Well, so I want to start with a truth that I've talked about on my podcast a lot. Like I, as I'm a pansexual woman, I date and fuck people of all gen genders. And where my confidence is strongest is in bed with women. I think it's fair to say I'm pretty good with a pussy. I feel confident pleasuring a pussy.

SPEAKER_00: 7:15

After I talked, we had our talk, I called you the pussy connoisseur. You are the all all-knowing of how to pleasure a pussy, your own and others.

SPEAKER_02: 7:24

Yeah, FYI for a reference, folks. I and you're so you're going to want to after this go to Girls Gone Deep and bookmark. They interviewed me on my relationship with pussies, basically. So you're definitely gonna want to go and check that out. And I spoke about there, of course, what I know about pussies, giving orgasms. And I do feel really skilled at knowing how to give women pleasure and different types, whether it's G spot, A spot. But I admitted to them that when it comes to talks, specifically blowjobs, that's not where I'm like, hey man, I'm an expert because I don't have one. So I don't really understand, and maybe that's why I feel confident with women, because that's how I learn and how I interact during sex. I kind of feel it in my body as I do it to someone else, right? But if I don't have a cock, which oh my God, if you could give me one for a week or a month, it would be wonderful. I would love that. I'd put it in everything. So I get it. Like if I'm if I'm with a man and I'm going down, I'm kind of like, I'm just hoping, like I look, listen and and hope I'm hitting the right spot. But today, you both feel and told me you feel eager about giving blowjobs and you feel a lot of confidence there. Can you talk to me first about where that confidence comes from?

SPEAKER_01: 8:51

Al, go for it.

SPEAKER_00: 8:53

That's that's a great question. Where does it come from? I think that obviously I'm I didn't mention this in my intro, but I am bisexual. However, I started playing with men first, and so a lot of my experience was there. And I think that I became confident because it's something that I probably do in almost 98% of my sexual encounters, at least with my partner and even with others. I think oral is just a really great way for foreplay and just kind of slowing things down. And it's something that I like to do because I'm a giver. And so through all that those experiences have made me more confident. And then obviously tuning into your partner during the experience. How are they responding? How are they breathing? You know, I've just learned along the way how to the moves that I'm doing, who likes what? And this is not just with my partner, you know, I'm I am in an open relationship. So we do play with other people. So it becomes this attunement when you're doing it to listen and even to ask questions. I'll say, do you like that? What do you want more of? You know, it's it's in the moment asking questions and then adjusting and attuning to your partner. So I think that of the years that I've been doing this, it's just been a lot of practice, a lot of experience, and a lot of different partners that I enjoy figuring out my partner and pleasing them. And that gets me off. It's like that conversion, you know, that feels so good for them. I know it feels good for me to do that. How about you, V? What do you think?

SPEAKER_01: 10:18

I'm gonna echo all of that. And what I heard in there too is the enthusiasm that you have for it, which is actually also my number one tip. So I have gotten a lot of feedback that my oral skills are really good. So that gives me confidence. And then when I dig deeper into, well, why, why was it so good? What made it so good? We can go into the techniques that I use. However, something that has always been said across the board is my enthusiasm for it. And whenever we've asked people on our podcast, like, what makes good oral? And this is women and men, you know, or female vulvas and penises, it's everybody just wants enthusiasm about their genitals. You know, when someone goes down on you and it's lackluster, like you can feel when they're not into it. And so that's where I get my confidence. I'm like when I'm into it, I am one with the dick. And I'm just loving it. And so I think also it is having sucked a lot of dicks, both circumcised and uncircumcised, small, big, you name it. I feel like I know my way around a dick. So I think experience and feedback has given me the confidence that I have now.

SPEAKER_00: 12:41

I I want to ask you, how do you show your partner enthusiasm that you really like and enjoy sucking their dick? What are some things that you do?

SPEAKER_01: 12:50

I'll make noises that really show my enthusiasm while it's in my mouth, and I'll use a lot of spit. I think like when you're slobbering, it's the the energy with which you do it. And it doesn't necessarily need to be fast and hard. It can also be you can show enthusiasm with slowness and yeah.

SPEAKER_00: 13:11

Yeah, your energy behind it. That's what I and I I wanted to think like, how do I show enthusiasm? And definitely noises, like you said, it's that humming sound, it's the mmm, it's definitely the speed at which you do it and the energy behind it. And then I was also thinking that you could use your hands in other ways. So, for example, if a guy is standing, you could grab his thighs or grab his behind and just push him into you or squeeze him. You're not just using your mouth or using your hands in different ways too, to show that you're really into it and you really like it. And so that's probably my main, my main ways that I do it is a lot of noise and a lot of touching and grabbing and rubbing all over, not just in the genitals, it's other areas too.

SPEAKER_02: 13:56

Mm-hmm. And the noises you're making and the movements, I'm assuming they're authentic. Cause here's what I can say. I've definitely been involved in sex where someone's getting really loud and making what I call porn noises. And I'm like, it doesn't, I feel like real passion, especially if you're being authentic, it doesn't always sound like the sex noises on TV or in porn. It can be really animalistic and really guttural and kind of ugly in some ways. Like when I started having real deep orgasms, I was like, what sound did I just make? And it reminded me of giving birth. It reminded me of giving birth the first time I had a really deep internal orgasm. And afterwards I was like, oh my God, with that, my partner at the time, I'm like, oh, oh, what the fuck was that sound, right? Yeah.

SPEAKER_00: 14:51

Those are the best, though. And that's how you know it's it is authentic when it doesn't sound perfect, you know. And that's kind of what I would agree with you. Like when I'm when when I'm giving it, it's it's an authentic moan or a sound or like gagging on the dick or gurgling on it or the spit hitting it, or sometimes I even cough on it. Like there's there's there's embarrassing things that happen, but it's V, like you said, it's like you don't even want to stop to adjust yourself or to pause or to swallow, that you're just gonna keep going. And as long as they're enjoying it and you're enjoying giving it, then that's all that matters, right? So I think it's supposed to sound not perfect.

SPEAKER_01: 15:28

I kind of think of it as, you know, licking a delicious ice cream cone that's like melting really quickly. But you know, not my so you have to lick it, you have to put your whole mouth on it, you have to just make sure that you devour the whole thing before it's gone. Um yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 15:49

What I love most about this interview is your the difficulty you both are having on video not making the motions to put it out sucking. I just don't have that problem when I talk about sucking dick. And I think that that talking about the energy also behind the enthusiasm. That is something that doesn't necessarily come natural to everybody. I think you also talked about the kind of the energetic arousal of it for the giver. And a lot of people don't understand. I'm a top in bed. Most often with women, but also sometimes with men, which means I and and I like to top and dominate and give pleasure. I don't need to be touched and I don't need to come, but I get what I call an energetic orgasm out of the giving, which sounds like what you're experiencing as the blowjob giver. Like you're getting that charge that's so deeply satisfying and orgasmic without maybe the physical climax. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00: 16:53

I definitely resonate with that for sure. And I think that the one thing that you're mentioning with lack of confidence. I'm wondering, do you I mean, obviously, if you're doming and topping, are you speaking throughout your interaction? Are you asking questions, or are you talking beforehand with your partners to understand what they like and don't like? Or even just letting them know, hey, as I'm sucking your dick, let me know what you want more of or what you like to see or feel or direct me a little bit. Or is that hard to receive those directions because you're topping? Does that uh block you?

SPEAKER_02: 17:31

Well, I'm trying to think about topping men. Oftentimes when I'm doming a man, I'm not doing as much giving. Meaning like sucking dick and stuff like that. I'm more telling them what to do to me. And then of course, there's pegging and all of those things. So that's interesting. Like, I have to think about that headspace a little bit different. Like I'm in control of it, and essentially I know what they get off of is me telling them what to do, and I have a lot of like confidence in that space, and I'm getting off on it. So I'm not so worried about performance in that situation because my performance in that situation is being a DOM and them liking what I'm telling them. Does that make sense?

SPEAKER_00: 18:22

Absolutely. Absolutely. Yeah, so at that point, it's almost as if when you're topping, who cares? They're gonna love it anyway. You're they're like you're lucky exactly what you're giving.

SPEAKER_02: 18:33

Yeah, exactly. It's like you're just fucking lucky that I'm here.

SPEAKER_01: 18:37

Well, so then if you're bottoming, how are you feeling the confidence then?

SPEAKER_02: 18:43

That's where I'm more like, oh, I hope I'm doing a good job. And and I'll ask, like, when I'm giving to a man, does that make you happy? All of that stuff. And I don't think I'm bad. I've not gotten complaints. Okay. But it's not the same level of confidence I have when I'm going into fucking a woman. It's just not at the same level. If someone called me right now and said, Hey, can you come on my podcast to talk about giving a good blowjob? I'd be like, can we talk about something else? I wouldn't be like, I'm the expert on like blowjobs. I'd be like, hey, I can tell you about how to go down on a woman. I can tell you about how to like do a blended orgasm for a woman, but I would not say that that's where I'm gonna be the person you're gonna want to call for inside information.

SPEAKER_01: 19:34

So what I would say to that is I feel the exact same way, opposite, because if someone were to ask me to talk about going down on a woman, I do not feel confident in that at all. And actually, we've had people on the podcast where I've picked their brains about it because yeah, I think it's lack of experience. And so the more experience that you have, the more you can feel confident in your skills because you have the experience under your belt, of course. And you have more people that you can pull from kind of like what they've liked, right? I also think that doing research beforehand, it sounds so sex nerdy to do that, but listen to a podcast like this, like, all right, what are some techniques that I can use? And I remember I got my first techniques after listening to Call Her Daddy. And she talks about the Gluck Luck 9000. And I never looked back. I remember the first time I did the gluckluck 9000, and she talks about like the twisting of the hands on the dick. Call it like the pepper grinder. Let's say that.

SPEAKER_03: 21:39

Like that.

SPEAKER_01: 21:40

You want to pepper grind it on the dick. And I think ever since I started incorporating that and just really being enthusiastic and lots and lots of spit, like people have said they love messy blowjobs. I started to get that really great feedback. And so doing your research, I think it's really great too.

SPEAKER_02: 22:02

Oh, maybe it's also a sensory thing for me. Spit. I'm not a big fan of spit. If you spit on my pussy, you and I are not gonna be in a good place. Do not spit on my pussy. I know some people really love that. How do you feel about using lube? Is that the same thing? Oh, yeah. That's the whole thing is use lube, but don't you like, oh my God. I once and I've talked about this a long time ago on this podcast, had a man, we were having sex, and he looked down and he just spat on my pussy, and I was not ready for it. And I was like, it makes me gag, it makes me like heave a little bit. You know, I know I just had a reaction to it, but Lube. Lube is great, but it sounds to me like, and I believe this is true, can you verify? I actually think men, while they'd appreciate lube if you're not going to spit, but I actually think a lot of them really saliva heavy play over, hey, let me squirt a bunch of lube on your dick.

SPEAKER_00: 22:59

Yeah, I would agree with that. I think I I just sometimes there's not always lubes available, plus what lubes taste good enough. I I personally love coconut oil as a really good lube to help with the hand job and blowjobs. That's probably the one thing we always have nearby and on hand. And I would say, but more often than not, it's mostly just spit. What about you, V? What do you think?

SPEAKER_01: 23:19

Yeah, I think the men that I've encountered do spit. And what what I was thinking when you were speaking, Annette, is it reminds me kind of of the the reaction that I used to have around squirting. And I'm wondering what it is behind this disgust for you. And maybe that's something that you could get curious about. What is it that I don't like about spit so much? And you don't have to change it, but like maybe there's something there that you could work on changing the relationship around.

SPEAKER_02: 23:50

Like when I've been in threesomes where there's me and another woman and maybe one dick. Like if there's still spit on it and I'm going back, I'm like, I need a towel. I need a wet nap over here. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00: 24:06

I mean, look, after you've been sucking dick for a while, yeah. It's like it can taste different. It's not the most pleasant sometimes, especially if you're you're you're bringing spit up from behind. It's it's not that it ever tastes repulsive or awful, but it's like this could taste a little better right now. Like I could be enjoying. So that's why I kind of like the coconut oil because it does add some flavor and I like it. And I'm getting some energy and calories as I'm working hard. That's fantastic.

SPEAKER_02: 24:32

Yeah. So maybe some of my barrier to is like this. I mean, if it's just me and a partner, you know, I can manage it a little, go up and kiss them and maybe like carefully use my body or something to get the spit off.

SPEAKER_01: 24:46

Yeah, right. And hands to kind of like gather it is is that YouTube saying, Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02: 24:55

I mean, in the moment, in the heated moment when things are hot and I'm excited, I I can get out of that head space a little bit and enjoy it. But yeah, maybe it's a sensory thing, which you would think is interesting because pussies also have a lot going on down here. But I think because there's so much like lube and stuff like that, I just don't have the as much of the same reaction. I love that you bring in enthusiasm. So for tips for other people out there who are who are into giving blowjobs, I want to sum up sort of little things we've already said. I love both hands pepper grind. You are pepper, you're gonna you're pepper grinding, you are spicing things up for the final meal, right? Yes. You mentioned that I think a lot of spit and saliva. I do know that I mean from the data from my past experience, I would say that does seem to be something that's a real turn on. And I think that that's also a signal of enthusiasm, right? Think about it when you're gonna go eat a meal and it's a really tasty meal, you drool, you get saliva, you have that excitement. And I imagine that's sort of the same feeling for the receiver, right? Yeah. Sound you guys brought up like making a lot of noise, right?

SPEAKER_01: 26:14

Yep. I would also say a mixture of sucking, hands, ball play, and licking. So you're not just doing one thing the whole time. So I've I've been given compliments on the changing of the cadence that I do, and I'm gonna try not to use my hands while I thought and so okay. So basically, I'll put the cock in my mouth and I'll have two hands on the the base of the dick, and I'll be pepper grinding. Sometimes that's a little bit too much for some men. And so make sure you ask, like, how does this feel? And L, you've spoken about saying yes or no questions, right? Or versus saying, like, how do you like XYZ? Right.

SPEAKER_00: 27:04

Yeah, because it just gets them out of their head a little bit, more just staying present of yes, more of that, or do you like this? Yes. Should I go slower or faster? Just like one-word answers just help keep it. You're not having a conversation at this time. You're not gonna stop. I mean, you could if you wanted to, but you know, keep it, keep it sexy.

SPEAKER_01: 27:23

So then you're you're grinding. Ask, do you like this faster, harder, slower, whatever?

SPEAKER_02: 27:29

You're hilarious to me because you are just trying to give a blowjob right now.

SPEAKER_01: 27:34

Okay, if you I'm gonna pretend like my dom has told me do not move, and I'm gonna be a good girl. I like it. All right, I'll do it. Okay. So you're going up and down on the the top of the head of the dick, and then your hands are pepper grinding, and then I'll take a breath because you're you're starting to lose breath. And so I'll I'll come out and I'll just do basically jerking off hand job while I'm like kind of licking some of the excess spit that's dripping down to your point and not maybe licking the balls and licking the spit off of the balls. Obviously, see if they like ball play beforehand. We know a couple of our friends who are not, they're very sensitive around their balls. So ask beforehand to do your balls played with, and then go back in. And usually I start a little bit shallow with you know, bobbing up and down on the head, and I'm using my tongue inside of my mouth while I'm doing it too. So lots of spit, a lot of tongue action on that frenulum, which is the the place where the head of the dick and the shaft meet. It's that little, is there any better way to describe that? It's like uh I think it's perfect. Yeah, yeah. And then go deep. So Ellen I love deep throating. And so we could go on about this, but then I'll I'll go deep and then start that whole cadence again. So go deep until I can't breathe anymore, come out, take a break, hand job, licking, yum, yum, yum, go boom, boom, bellow, deep, etc.

SPEAKER_02: 29:15

Do you try and keep the same pattern? Do you keep a do you set up a pattern that you're repeating?

SPEAKER_01: 29:20

So there's kind of I don't do it on purpose. I think sometimes it just happens, but no. Yeah, the short answer to that.

SPEAKER_00: 29:31

Yeah, I I the way that I describe is you want to keep variety. So men, they will come quick if you do the same motion over and over again, right? So you need to change it up so that they don't actually come too soon. Women are different. We love patterns, we love rhythms, we need to hold it, we need to keep it, then we'll finally eventually come. Same thing for men, but if you don't want them to come, you gotta, you gotta switch it up. So I when I approach sucking a good dick, it's like making love to the dick. I am not thinking about me, I'm thinking about them and and again tuning into them. And so I always start off slow, just putting the mouth. You can roll your tongue around the head, and then I will always incorporate a hand together as I'm putting it deeper into my mouth. My hand is kind of following suit with my mouth in movement. So usually it's just one hand, sometimes it's two hands. You can again do that pepper shaker motion or just the one hand. And then your other hand could be on the balls, but there is a variety of motion. You are going fast, you can go slow. And then when I feel my mouth getting too dry, number one, keep some water nearby. It's super important to have something to wet your palate. Or, like V said, you can start to deep throat. And so you can start to touch the back of your throat and start to pass that point, and you'll start to bring up more spit that way, even if you if you gag a little bit. So that's sometimes where gagging can help because that brings up more saliva so that you can create more moist. But I would say, make love to the dick. I always think about it. If this were mine, what would I want done to it? So I always start off slow and then I'll start to go really fast. I'll tease. So sometimes I will pull the the cock out of my mouth, my hand is just on it, and I'll just blow on it with heat. And I'll just kind of slowly, or it'll do that right in the beginning to tease them because there's that intense anticipation. Please put this in your mouth, please go faster, please go deeper. And, you know, just teasing it, sticking your tongue out right in front of it. I'm not one for eye contact during blowjobs. We haven't talked about that yet, but sometimes I'll look up and sometimes I won't. But for me, if I look up, now I'm focusing on a different aspect and it takes me out of what I'm doing, and I start to lose focus and it's I'm not in my own rhythm anymore or my flow. So I don't particularly do a lot of eye contact. Sometimes I will, especially if I'm in that teasing or anticipating kind of emotion. But for the most part, my eyes are closed. I'm I'm I'm just thinking about what I'm doing and feeling what's happening.

SPEAKER_02: 32:00

Fantastic. You are a dick whisperer. Both are the dick whispers. I mean, I love that you pointed out that is such a learning moment for me in my sex and intimacy how-tos that I do every Monday on my podcast, which are focused on how to give women orgasms and and so on and so forth. I talk a lot about finding a rhythm and keeping it and holding that rhythm and not switching up because that will take that will kill her rise to the orgasm. And so their body obviously operates the same way, but the challenges are different for for men for the most part, right? Which is to keep that from happening too quick, you're gonna switch it up more often because it interrupts, it makes their nervous system reset every time you change it up, right? As opposed to like setting the nervous system back to where they're nice and calm and they can build to the orgasm, which is also maybe a good tip. Once you're tired of giving a blow job and you wanna get to the punchline, you maybe set a rhythm, back it up with a bunch of excitement and just take them over the edge, yeah.

SPEAKER_00: 33:14

Exactly. Exactly. When you're ready, just keep a rhythm, listen to his sounds, his breath. And sometimes partners aren't don't make noise, so you can actually ask them to do that, invite them to do that, you know, before you start or during it, you know, so that you know what's kind of happening and if they're gonna come soon. The one thing that I wanted to mention too was a lot of people feel like gagging and deep throating is like a goal. And again, not all people love that, and not all women can do it, and it's hard and it's difficult. And so you're not required to do that. I think as long as you have some of it in your mouth and the rest of it in your hand, and again, the rhythm is what matters and your enthusiasm what matters, you're absolutely fine. I think you will st you will get to the end point. But if you are trying to deep throat or it's a skill that you want to learn, one thing that I have learned is when you're when you are taking it deeper and you are about to gag, or you want to stop yourself from gagging, swallow. Actively swallow because it will it will switch the muscular reflexes in your throat and make it easier to bypass basically that reflex. And so I have effectively trained my gag reflex. It's actually really hard to make me gag. And eventually, obviously, once I start gagging, the more that it happens, the more sensitive it becomes, the more likely I would be to actually like vomit a little bit or throw up. I mean, I've never, I've only done it once or twice where some has come up, but it's it's been after long sessions. But for the most part, I know my limit. I know when it's becoming too much, and then I will stop, switch positions, go slower, stop deep throating, and then we do another activity at that point. But I B, I know you have different tricks, but mine is to swallow when I'm about to gag to kind of fight that. So what do you do?

SPEAKER_01: 35:02

My trick is I distract myself, basically. And so I tuck my thumb into my fist and squeeze it. Someone told this to me about going to the dentist. And basically, when they had discomfort going to the dentist, they would squeeze their thumb. And it kind of just is that idea of putting focus somewhere else. Sometimes I curl my toes like a lot while I'm like about to gag or something, just to put my brain somewhere else in my body, and that usually works for me. But then also I love deep threading to the point of throwing up. So sometimes I don't hack you guys.

SPEAKER_02: 35:46

Oh my god. Okay, so we're here. I was once in a situation, not where I threw up, but where another woman involved deep throated to the point of there was you know a little bit of getting sick. And it was funny because my first concern was for her because I didn't want her to be embarrassed. And of course it was all like very like no pace was broken, nothing. It was like keep going, clean up, but act like nothing happened. And afterwards talking to the man about it, I thought he would be fucking horrified. And he was like, he was like, it was so hot. Just the fact that someone went down on with me so much like enthusiasm that they puked on my dick. And I was like, Yeah, yeah, I cannot. I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_00: 36:44

Yeah, gagging on it because it's like I'm so big they can't even take it, or exactly that enthusiasm that wants to my mind.

SPEAKER_02: 36:52

Yeah, oh yeah. And then hearing you say that, I'm like, oh, okay, so this is something everybody else has known about. Like I feel, look, I don't feel very naive in a lot of spaces, sex positive spaces here, but I'm like, okay, I'm that you two are definitely the people to be talking to.

SPEAKER_01: 37:10

This is a new development for me. So it's not for everyone. I will caveat it with this is not for everyone. It's not even for Elle, really. I don't like it. I hate throwing up, it's the worst. I will I know my limits. I sup. For me, basically, I realized that I had a lot of hang-ups around smells and juices and like a lot of natural things that the body does. And so we had on this incredible dominatrix. Her name is Priestess Francesca, and she was talking about throwing up and stat play and everything. Like we were talking about all the top taboos. And so something in what she said really inspired me to just play with my limits when giving head to my dom. And we did it in the shower. That is the only way that I feel super comfortable with it because uh the smell is a problem for me. But if you can get rid of it quickly, it's really nice to just play around with your limits. And I feel it's very healing to be able to throw up in front of someone, pee in front of someone, and still have them find you sexy and not just still, but even more so, right? So it's been part of my journey of overcoming a lot of hangups that I've had. And I think it's hot. Yeah, I mean, I think that's interesting.

SPEAKER_02: 38:36

I because I think about, you know, I I've done I I enjoy anal play. And when I've domed people, like there's been different play that definitely involves some body fluids, and I haven't had the same feeling. Like I look, if you're gonna do but play, there's likely gonna be poo at some point in time.

SPEAKER_00: 39:00

Yeah, it comes with the territory, and it doesn't freak me out at all.

SPEAKER_02: 39:03

It is like an act of vulnerability to engage in something. So yeah, I think that's a that makes a lot of sense to me. That resonates, you know. Also, the idea, like I will get off on I really get off on watching other women suck dick, and especially so from a submissive point of view. I've been fortunate enough to be in a situation where I was able to dom and direct a woman who was doing that. That was super fucking hot.

SPEAKER_01: 39:30

Okay, so two other things that I feel like I want to make sure that we hit before we're before we run out of time. Number one, I think I would be remiss not to talk about the difference between a circumcised and an uncircumcised penis. Yes, good call, baby. I had a British partner for many years and he was uncircumcised. And he would tell me, we were open, and he would tell me about how many women he would go on dates with who didn't know what to do with the foreskin. So anyone who doesn't know out there, pull it back so that the head is out and about. Sometimes it'll just do that naturally, depending on how much foreskin they have. But personally, I love giving a blowjob with to someone with foreskin because it it's a sleeve, it's a pleasure sleeve that you can kind of just like jerk up and down the dick while you're sucking it. So you don't have to worry so much about all the spit we're talking about and all the lube we're talking about, right? It's almost built-in lube, but just make sure that you pull that skin back and then use it.

SPEAKER_00: 40:38

Perfect.

SPEAKER_02: 40:38

Yeah, I think it's great that you bring that up because I am always surprised when people women seem unsure about uh uncircumcised penises. I'm like, yeah, that's very natural state, folks. You should be aware of that. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, right? Not having part of your body removed from you, in my very biased opinion. But also then there's the bonuses, right? There's there's you can use it to improve the experience for yourself and for your partner. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00: 41:15

I yeah, it's a I was one of those. Yeah. I was one of those women that being when I got into this lifestyle, I didn't know how to play with uncircumcised penises. And so I remember in the moment, it was with you, V, actually, and your partner, your British partner. And I was like, Oh my gosh, I does this feel okay. I'm not sure what to do here. And in the moment, you just kind of jumped in, was like, okay, here, this is what you do. And it became this erotic, well, let me show you how to do this, pull this back, you know, do that. And then I would look up at him and say, Is this okay? And he'd be like, Yes, just like that. And it was like this confirmation of you're doing such a good job. This is great. But in the moment, I had to ask. And that's like the one thing that I think could be a theme of this is if you're just if you're not sure in the moment, it's okay to ask a quick question. At the end of the day, we all want to be pleasured. So just talk about it real quick. So, really good point. Thank you for bringing that up, V. And then another thing that I wanted to add is dicks are all different sizes and they curve in different ways. And so some positions are uncomfortable to give a blowjob in or even deep throating in. You know, the one example that's coming to mind is like a man who points upward and is curved up. That's not the easiest position. So that's where 69 could be more advantageous because now it's following the natural curve of your mouth and throat as well. And that's actually the better position to deep throat in. So do Just thinking about what the shape of their penis is and then where you are, and just find a way to make it more comfortable. Change positions. It's okay to stop and say, hey, can you sit up a little bit more? Can you tuck a pillow under your butt so you're a little bit higher? It's it's a workout. Your neck gets a workout, your arms get a workout, you're holding yourself up, like your jaw gets a workout.

SPEAKER_01: 43:58

Oh my God. Yes. To that point, positions is what I wanted to talk about. And like, even if you're not thinking of it in terms of like where the dick is pointing or curving or whatever, it's also like, what positions can you be in where you can have your hands free? What positions can you be in where it is easier on your back? I think I grew up like always giving blowjobs on my knees, or not grew up, but you know what I mean? My formative experience as giving blowjobs was like on a bed, hunched over on my knees, right? And like you're using your abs to kind of hold yourself up and using your hands, and it doesn't feel great. So if they're elevated sitting on the bed and you're kneeling in front of them, that automatically feels better in that kneeling position. If they do want to lay down, again, could their legs be off the side of the bed so that you can still be below them and not have to worry about your back? Also, if they stand on the side of the bed and you put your head off the back of it, so you're laying on your back, that's a really good one. 69, like Elle said, have I missed any really good ones?

SPEAKER_00: 45:08

Those are all really great ones. Nope, you hit them all.

SPEAKER_02: 45:11

I I I wanna I want to discuss 69 real quick because it is one of my favorite positions. And I was just talking to my girlfriend the other night, and we're like, I mean, so many people act like it's oh, isn't that a 1980s move or something like that? Like it's outdated. I'm like, does I think this is like a fantastic position? I don't understand people who are like, well, then I have to think about giving at the end, they don't feel as much. And I'm like, I like the mouth pussy connection. I like feel like it's a perfect circle of energy. And I love giving a blow job in that position. I can really get into it in that position.

SPEAKER_01: 45:53

Yeah, I think that helps you get into it in that position.

SPEAKER_02: 45:58

Yeah, I'm like, I'm gonna sit on your face, fucker. And yeah, you're a dick, but you're getting me off. You know what I mean? Like, I just didn't know. So separate. Yeah, and I can get off pretty fucking quick that way. I can get off really quick. I mean, and that's like I'm speaking to this experience with this position with a penis owner, right? It's different. It feels a little different when I'm with another Volvo owner, but I love a blow in that position.

SPEAKER_00: 46:26

I love 69 blowjobs too, and I think it's for that reason we're both having fun, we're both enjoying it. I do agree that it does with whoever said, okay, I can't focus on what I'm receiving, or maybe I lose distraction when I'm giving. Your partner's probably going through the same thing. So it's, you know, nothing's perfect, right? But I think it's like spending moments to take time to stop and receive, and then spending moments to focus on giving. I love the variety. And personally, this is another good point to bring up. When I am giving a blowjob, I almost 99% of the time have a vibrator on myself, though. Because I need some something happening to me to juice me up and keep me going. V, what about you? Would you say that 100% of the time you have it? You know, what is your I mean, CG?

SPEAKER_01: 47:09

I'm more submissive than you are. And so I'm usually just focused on their pleasure when I'm giving head. But whenever you remind me of that tool, I'm like, oh damn, that is a good idea. So I'll stick the wand on my clit and like I'll just kind of like sit down on it so that it can stay there by itself. And so I'm still like hands-free and I can still use both of my hands. But you're right, it is nice to pleasure myself while I'm also pleasuring them. And that helps with the mmms, right? Because you're starting to make those sounds both for yourself and for how delicious the stick is in your mouth. And those vibrations really help too.

SPEAKER_02: 47:52

Yeah. Well, so now we've talked about tips for the givers. Can we talk about etiquette for the receivers? Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_00: 48:02

Oh boy, this is a good one.

SPEAKER_01: 48:04

So as far as etiquette, what are you specifically like thinking of? Don't be rude at it.

SPEAKER_02: 48:12

Like I'm like, okay, okay. So just like etiquette things. No, so I'm I mean, here's a good one. When it comes to coming, like, when should someone should someone ask ahead of time? Can I come in your mouth? Should you tell someone when they're coming? You know what I mean? Permission and consent around that. How does the big bang happen and consent around that? Maybe etiquette. Let's talk about cleanliness ahead of time. You know, talks are kind of inherently, if the person's hygienic, more like in a nice little clean package. Whereas vulvas, we, you know, they're wetter, they're moisture, there's more going on. But still, I've definitely started to go down on someone and been like, maybe there's a step.

SPEAKER_01: 49:02

I have done that too. And I I have a very strong sense of smell. So I am the first person to say, Hey, let's go wash up. Or I say, like, when was the last time you washed yourself? Was it this morning? Do you mind giving it a little rinse right now? And then I'm gonna lick it all off, you know?

SPEAKER_02: 49:20

So etiquette is like clean yourself, like be like I dial my shit in if I think there's even a chance someone's gonna want to go down on 100%. Also, etiquette with shoving someone's head down, or you know what I mean? Shoving your dick down their throat. I guess those are the kind of topics I want to hit with you guys. What do you think like a reasonable set of etiquette tips for the person getting the blowjob would be?

SPEAKER_00: 49:50

I'm gonna jump in here because there's a few things that you touched on. So let's talk about where to come, right? So that's the first thing. And so I think it's appropriate that you men, when you're receiving a blowjob, that you say out loud, oh, that feels so good. I'm close to coming, you know, careful, I'm close to coming, letting them know that it's coming, it's approaching. And then the woman can, if she feels ready for it, is to say, Oh, come in my mouth, come come here, come there, or he could say, if you want, you know, if you want to fuck me, if you want to get fucked next, you need to stop, right? So let's switch positions, you know, and then that gives the woman the decision of, no, I'm gonna keep going and you're gonna come in my mouth, or you're gonna come on my belly or my chest or wherever it might be. Or or they say, Let's go have sex now, let's go have intercourse, you know. And so I think the men should announce when he's going to come. And then at that point, you can have a little discussion to say, like, where to come next. You know, can I come in your mouth is another great question. Or where can I come? Um, and then just being honest about that. So the woman needs to be vocal about what she truly wants, right? Do I want to get fucked next? Let's do that. The other thing that I want to talk about is shoving. Actually, V, do you have any comments on that? Because I want to go to different topics.

SPEAKER_01: 51:08

So we can I'm just thinking of keeping it in scene and like dirty talk. So the way you can do that is so the receiver can say, you know, and then while I'm still giving a blowjob, I'll be like, Oh, I want you in my mouth, you know, just pull it out for just a second and tell, tell them. So giving them that option. And then also for the giver, if they say, I'm gonna come and they don't ask you where you want them, where you want them to come, as the giver, you can say, Oh, yeah, like where do you I want you in my mouth, or oh, I want to see your come all over my tits or something. So you can dirty talk it so that it goes where you want it. Oh, that'd be so hot if you just come all over my belly. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00: 51:51

Yeah, perfect. Yeah, so just asking the question. And you can do this beforehand too, right? But I I typically will will my partner and I typically discuss it in the moment because it's just hot, heavy, it's going really great, or it's, you know, I, you know, we'll just figure it out at the moment. Then the next thing I want to talk about was shoving. So pushing hands. This is where I'm sensitive. I don't typically like when a guy surprised shoves my head onto himself. I hate that actually. And it's a turn-off, it takes me out of the moment, particularly because I'm the one giving. This is my show. I'm giving to you. This is me, you know, making love to your dick. I want to give it to you the way that I want to. Now, it doesn't always mean that shoving is always bad, but you need to understand your partner because that could be a turn-off or it could be a turn on. Because some women love to be taken and love to be used. But for me, shoving switches it from giving a blowjob to face fucking. And that's a totally different energy behind those two. And so I see a blowjob is the woman is the whoever is giving the blowjob is the giver. And then with face fucking, it's the guy that's giving, right? He is giving it to her and she's just receiving and she's allowing.

SPEAKER_01: 53:02

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00: 53:03

She's allowing it. So there's two different energies behind that. So I think that that should be pre-discussed. Or if he does push on your head and you don't like it, just grab his hands and move it to a different sexual part on your body, like your tits or your ass or somewhere else, or hold his hand to let him know gently that I don't like when you do that. How about we do this instead? So I think that there's ways to approach it gently or just saying it, you know. So B, what do you what do you think about shoving?

SPEAKER_01: 53:29

I'm with you. And you can also say it as like a boundary beforehand when you're having a discussion before getting into it. It's like, what do you like? What don't you like? Same with when you're asking, like, do you like your balls played with, etc.? It's okay. So just so you know, I don't like when my head is pushed down. So it just speaking clearly and communicating your boundaries makes for a safe, safer container in which to receive and give pleasure. Perfect. Perfect.

SPEAKER_02: 54:01

Well, guys, I don't know. I feel like I've learned a lot in this conversation alone that I certainly hadn't thought about before we covered your tips for givers and receivers. Receivers, I hope you really listened to that. Also work around like confidence, right? Which I really think is what it all comes down to. Like really good sex, being good in bed, being a good lover is all about confidence. And you know, when you don't have confidence in something like I didn't, it's good to say, I don't have confidence in this, and then seek out people who do and listen to them, right? So hopefully this conversation has given some of my listeners more confidence. But before we leave, if you guys just want to give one or two, I mean you've given so many tips, but maybe each of you can give one piece of advice that you could say, if you aren't feeling confident with giving blowjobs right now, here's where you can start tonight at home or with your partner the next time at changing that and shifting your either your mindset or how you're giving a blowjob to make it a better experience for everyone involved.

SPEAKER_01: 55:15

I would say here's where you can start tonight. Just start loving your partner's cock, give them some cock worship, and it doesn't even need to feel like your typical sexual moment and go into a blowjob. Just look at it, touch it, see what it does, just get curious and feel the skin, look at the balls close up, need the insides of their thighs. It's like bread dough. Like just really love the cock and you'll start to get to know it more, and he'll feel like seen in this way. That this is very like tantric, I think. So I hope your listeners are into this kind of stuff. But yeah, just love the cock in a in a different way and get curious.

SPEAKER_02: 56:07

That's a I'm gonna jump in real quick because what I hope to do, and I thought about this at the beginning, is invite I have not done a cock worship video. And I would love to invite you guys back to explain what that is to me and my listeners and to give a really good how-to on that. Oh, I would love to put that from here because I do think that's gonna be key, knowing how to do that and helping people understand what it is in this really sex-positive, body-positive, human positive way. So thank you for throwing that out. But go we have one more tip before.

SPEAKER_00: 56:47

Yes. So I would say, V, those were great. And I I love the getting curious. And I would say what you're currently doing with your current blowjobs, I want you to challenge yourself to do something totally different, but in an open communication style with your partner. So having a talk before, during, you know, ask him, Do you want more of this? Do you want less of this? And then even afterwards, when it's done, having a conversation and saying, What did you like about that? I, you know, at this one part, I my teeth came out and I tried to get it out, but what did you think about that? Did you like it? You might be surprised. Some men like teeth, right? And and that's a that's a surprise for many women. So, so it's it's the questions during, before, during, and even after, and approaching it like a curious, fun play session of just devouring each other and understanding each other a little bit more. So it becomes like a little date night.

SPEAKER_01: 57:41

And that after, I think, is the most important part. Yeah, not to say that the before and during are not important too, but like that after that debrief, that replay of the hot stuff and the not so hot stuff for you. So key.

SPEAKER_02: 57:57

I like to bite a dick. Interesting. I forgot to bring that up, but yeah, I like to chomp down on a dick. I had a partner who was into that, so that was fun.

SPEAKER_00: 58:07

That was that is fun, right? To get a little rough. They're not as sensitive as we think that they are. But I had my partner who loves his balls pulled really hard to the point where I didn't know until afterwards where he, I was like, I was really pulling hard. He was like, You could pull like 50% harder. And I'm like, What? I'm like, wow, okay, I'll try that next time, you know. And then when I try it, I obviously check in in the moment, but you'd be surprised. It's they're not so sensitive.

SPEAKER_01: 58:34

And we haven't even talked about putting a finger up the bum hole while getting a blowjob.

SPEAKER_02: 58:40

We didn't.

SPEAKER_01: 58:41

Yeah, there's so many things. So, guys, maybe there will be a bit two. Who knows?

SPEAKER_02: 58:46

Yeah, yeah, there's so much more, but I feel like these were some really solid basics to just the blowjob without without all the extras. We definitely need to cover the extras, and there's so much more to it. And I appreciate you guys. You guys are a great little balance to each other, sort of energetic and then a little more clinical. And it was it, I think this was a really informative episode for my listeners. But uh, for now, because I know they're gonna want to hear a lot more from you, can you tell everybody where to find you, where to follow you, and where to go for more information like this?

SPEAKER_00: 59:22

Okay, everyone, you can find us on Instagram at girlsgone deep pod. You can go on our website, girlsgonedeep.com, and email us at girlsgone deep at gmail. So check us out. Follow us on Instagram for sure. We always put up polls and questions, and we include your answers in our podcast. And you make us better lovers, teachers, friends, everything. So join in on the conversation.

SPEAKER_01: 59:45

And you can find our podcast anywhere where you find your podcast. Um but not YouTube like Annette. So we gotta get on this, man. We're gonna get canceled really quickly. It's true. We are very, very explicit. So, and that is why we have these masks on, guys.

SPEAKER_02: 1:00:04

So yeah, but I think that that those are the conversations that need to be had. They're real and they're raw and human. And sex is a very human, raw experience. So, and I I think it's what people need in order to feel more confident, comfortable, and enjoy sex more. So, I do hope to have you on. There are so many more things on this subject that I think would be fun to to talk about for my listeners. If you have a cock-specific topic you'd like the three of us to cover, or you have questions after listening to or watching this podcast for my audio listeners, you can go over to my YouTube channel and you can find me there at TalkSex with Annette. You can drop a comment below the video and it will make it to me. If your comment's too explicit, it doesn't get published. FYI, I can't, I can't. So, but I will get it and I'll do our my my best to make sure we get those those answered. So, do that. You can always email me at talk sex with Annette, Annette at talksexwithanette.com. Thank you guys so much. I learned a lot from this. I know my listeners did too, and you guys were just so much fun to sit and talk to. So thank you for being here. Thank you, Annette. And thank you for having us. And to my listeners, I'll see you in the locker room. Cheers, cheers, cheers.

SPEAKER_00: 1:01:32

Ring low.