Size Doesn’t Matter If You Use These 3 Sex Positions

If you’ve ever worried that pleasure depends on size, this episode will completely change how you think about intimacy.

In this video, Annette breaks down three sex positions that feel incredible—no matter your size—because they work with anatomy, angle, rhythm, and the nervous system, not performance pressure.

This is not about going harder, deeper, or faster.
It’s about understanding what actually helps bodies respond, relax, and experience more pleasure.

You’ll learn:

• Why size is rarely the reason intimacy doesn’t feel great
• How angle and positioning matter more than depth
• Three positions that increase comfort, connection, and sensation
• How to enhance partnered pleasure safely using supportive tools
• Why reducing anxiety and pressure makes pleasure more accessible for both partners

This episode is educational, body-positive, and focused on connection over performance—designed for anyone who wants intimacy that feels better, not more stressful.

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Chapters

• 1:29 New Name, Same Candid Mission
• 2:21 The Size Myth Debunked
• 3:13 Tools, Coaching, And Resources
• 3:55 Anatomy And What Actually Feels Good
• 4:32 Position One: Elevated Missionary
• 6:01 Enhancing With Couples Vibes
• 6:25 Position Two: Sidelying For Steady Sensation
• 7:46 Air Tech And Layered Stimulation
• 8:21 Position Three: Seated And Grounded Control
• 9:47 Blood Flow Support And Confidence
• 10:19 Why These Positions Work
• 11:16 Next Steps, Coaching, And Sign-Off

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:45

Do the sex. I'm Annette Benedetti, host of the podcast formerly known as Locker Room Talk and Shots. The show has a new name, Talk Sex with Annette. But at its core, this is still your locker room. It's where we strip away shame, get curious, and speak the unspoken about sex, kink, dating, pleasure, and desire. Around here, nothing's off limits. These are the kinds of conversations we save for our boldest group chats, our most trusted friends, and of course, the women's locker room. Think raw, honest, and sometimes unapologetically raunchy. If you've been here from the beginning, thank you. And if you're new, welcome to my podcast where desire meets disruption and pleasure becomes power. Now, let's talk about sex. Cheers. Right low. Today's talk sex with the net topic is size doesn't matter if you use these three sex positions. Let me say something that a lot of people are terrified to hear, but desperately need to. If sex doesn't feel amazing, it's almost never because of size. The pleasure of intimacy can be ruined with even the largest and girthiest of anatomy. It's because most people were taught to focus on depth instead of direction, speed instead of sensation, and performance instead of presence. Today I'm going to show you three sex positions that feel incredible, no matter your size, because they work with her body's pleasure system instead of fighting it. And I'll also be showing you how to enhance each one safely with tools that support arousal, blood flow, and connection, not pressure. But before we dive in, I want to remind you that I'm over on EliteFans and there I'm sharing my sex and intimacy how-tos and demos. I'm also giving you the opportunity to test out what intimacy coaching is like. You can ask me your one-off questions there. I'm also over on Substack doing a whole lot of the same thing, minus coaching and how-tos. You can find me in both places with my handle at TalkSex within it. I'm also going to be linking them below in the show notes, along with tons of other resources. So make sure to scroll down and check out all of that information as well. Now let's dive into the three positions that are going to make sex awesome tonight, regardless of your size. Cheers. So here's what anatomy actually tells us. Most of the nerve innings responsible for her orgasm are not deep inside the body. They're concentrated around the external clitoris vulva and the front wall of the vagina, close to the entrance. That means pleasure responds best to angle, consistency, steady pressure, and a regulated nervous system. Not pounding, not depth, not trying harder. So when we choose positions that support these things, pleasure increases regardless of size. So let's get into the first position. The first position that is going to make intimacy great regardless of size is the elevated missionary. Now I've already created a great how-to video on missionary that I'm linking below if you want a little femme dom fun added to spice it up. But this is missionary done intentionally. So here's how you're going to set it up. You're going to place pillow or folded blanket under her hips. There are also great wedges that many places sell that I'm going to link below as well for doing exactly this. They're also useful in a ton of other positions. You're also going to keep your bodies close together, chest to chest. Think slow rocking instead of thrusting. Here's why this works: elevating the pelvis naturally changes the internal angle, making stimulation land where the nerve endings are most responsive without needing more depth. So you are more likely to get that external clitoral stimulation and G spot activation. This position also increases eye contact, supports nervous system safety, and helps her body stay open to sensation instead of bracing. We do not want any bracing during intimacy. Now, for my suggested optional enhancement, this is where a couple's a vibrator can elevate sensation without interrupting connection. I'm going to suggest one of the we vibes, couples vibrator, like the sink or the sink go. It's designed to sit comfortably between bodies and deliver gentle, consistent stimulation during movement. This can add pleasure for both partners, which is super fun. Again, optional. The goal here isn't intensity, it's layering sensations and staying connected. And I talk about layering sensations all of the time. This is a very simple way to do it without taking away from the main show, which is, of course, the two of you. Position number two is sideline. This is one of the most underrated pleasure positions and one of the most effective. So here's how it works: both partners lie on their sides facing the same direction, legs relaxed, movements stay small and controlled. And here's why it works: Sideline positions reduce performance pressure and allow the body to focus on steady sensation over time. This is especially powerful for people who need longer warm-up time, get overstimulated easily, orgasm from consistency, rather intensity, and it also leaves the external plitoris easily reachable for either partner to stimulate, which can be really, really important. A little adjustment you can do to this position, which is one of my favorite things to do, is to simply take her top leg and rest it on top of his top leg, which leaves a lot more room for accessing the external clitoris. My suggested optional enhancement is the womanizer enhance or another external pleasure air tech toy. Why? Because it stimulates externally where nerve density is highest without harsh pressure, and it can be used without disrupting rhythm or closeness. This supports arousal while allowing the body to stay relaxed and responsive. Now, the cool thing about the enhance is that it is pleasure air tech plus vibration. It's a two for one. So you get a good layering of sensation, along with, of course, the main show, which is the two of you together enjoying penetration. I have a full review of the enhance so you can understand it a little better. And I'm linking it below as well. Or make sure to subscribe to my e-newsletter because I'll be sending all of this information out there as well. Now on to position number three. This is the third position that's going to make intimacy amazing regardless of size. It is the seated and grounded. This position completely dismantles the depth myth. Here's how it works: one partner is seated against a headboard or wall. This can also take place on a chair, and the other is straddling. The movement is grinding and rocking, not bouncing. And here's why it works: grinding keeps stimulation focused toward the front of the body, where most pleasure receptors respond best, while allowing her to control the pace and the pressure. And this is where blood flow support becomes a powerful enhancer. The firm tech performance ring is the perfect optional enhancement here because firm tech isn't about size, it's about supporting blood flow for him, enhancing firmness and staying power, increasing confidence and staying present. It's going to support his erection so he can relax and she can have some fun. And then there's the ringmate add-on, which I highly recommend. It adds vibration and layered stimulation, heightening her pleasure and increasing her blood flow and arousal. This not only increases her sensation and arousal, increases her chance of having a big O, even a blended O, and both of your chances of having a mutual big O. And remember, when anxiety drops, pleasure rises for both of you. So here's why these three positions work. Notice what none of these rely on size, speed, and force. They work because they prioritize angle over depth, rhythm over thrusting, and regulation over performance. Bodies orgasm more easily when they feel safe, steady, and engaged. That's biology, not opinion. So no, size does not matter. But how you move and how you position bodies and how patient you are with sensation, that matters a lot. If you want intimacy that actually feels incredible, stop choosing depth and start mastering positioning, rhythm, and support. And if you want deeper tutorials on using toys together, supporting arousal without pressure, or choosing tools that actually improve connection, subscribe to this podcast and drop a comment below with what you want me to break down next. And then head over to my OnlyFans or Substack for more in-depth how-to's and tutorials. And if you are looking for an intimacy coach or someone to help you in your own pleasure journey, my books are open. Let's start the new year together. You can get a hold of me and find out more about that on my website, talksexwithanet.com. You can reach out to me via email at Annette at talkswithanette.com. Do the sex. I'm looking forward to working with you in the new year. And remember, better intimacy isn't about more effort, it's about smarter choices. Until next time, I'll see you in the locker room. Cheers.