How to Read Her Body (So She Actually Orgasms)

If she’s not coming and your first thought is “she’s just hard to please” — it’s time to rewrite the script.

Arousal isn’t guesswork. It’s science you can feel with your hands.

In this video, I’m breaking down the real physiological signs of arousal — including vaginal tenting, pelvic floor engagement, and breath/body shifts — so you can learn to read her body like a map and build the kind of orgasm she doesn’t forget.

You’ll learn:
 ✨ How to recognize when her body is opening up and ready
 ✋ What vaginal tenting is and how to feel it
 💓 How to sync your rhythm to her arousal (instead of guessing)
 🫁 How breath and subtle movement give you real-time feedback

When you stop guessing and start listening to the body, you stop hoping for her orgasm… and start making it inevitable.

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Chapters

• 0:00 New Name, Same Mission
• 1:22 Today’s Focus: Closing The Orgasm Gap
• 2:19 Offers: OnlyFans, Substack, Coaching
• 4:42 Physiology Over Friction
• 5:47 Four Signs: Tenting Explained
• 7:57 Pelvic Floor Pulses And What They Mean
• 9:18 External Arousal: Clitoral And Vulva Changes
• 10:23 Breath, Movement, Sound Cues
• 11:21 Responding To Cues Without Losing Rhythm
• 12:29 Sexual Science Snapshot
• 13:33 The Big O Strategy
• 15:05 Requests, Demos, And How To Learn More

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:45

Do the sex. I'm Annette Benedetti, host of the podcast formerly known as Locker Room Talk and Shots. The show has a new name, Talk Sex with Annette. But at its core, this is still your locker room. It's where we strip away shame, get curious, and speak the unspoken about sex, kink, dating, pleasure, and desire. Around here, nothing's off limits. These are the kinds of conversations we save for our boldest group chats, our most trusted friends, and of course, the women's locker room. Think raw, honest, and sometimes unapologetically raunchy. If you've been here from the beginning, thank you. And if you're new, welcome to my podcast where desire meets disruption and pleasure becomes power. Now, let's talk about sex. Cheers. Today's Talk Sex for the Net topic is how to read her body so she actually orgasms. If she is not climaxing during intimacy and your first thought is, she's just hard to please, I need you to stop right there. Because in most cases, it's not that her body is broken or not working. Nothing is wrong with her. It's that you're missing the map. Arousal for people with vulvas and women is a full-body multi-system experience. And if you know how to read the signs, you can take them from to oh my fucking god during intimacy without a single guess. Today I'm breaking down how to actually read her body, the real physiological signs of arousal, the vaginal changes you can feel with your fingers, and why understanding them will make you unforgettable in bed. And more importantly than that, what I'm going to teach you today is going to give you the ultimate confidence when you are in bed with a woman. If you can read her body, you can give her the kind of intimate experience and climax she will never forget. And if you want hands-on guidance for how to find and stimulate the G spot, A spot, and clitoris, my demos are waiting for you on my OnlyFans and Substack. So before we dive in, I want to remind you that you can find me on OnlyFans and there. I'm sharing my sex and intimacy how-tos and demos and my audio guided self-pleasure meditations, along with the opportunity to get a little taste of what sex and intimacy coaching are like, because I will be offering an opportunity for you to ask one-off questions there if you are not ready to dive into a full regimen of coaching. You can also find all this and more over on my Substack, except for, of course, the demos and the coaching. And you can find me in both places by my handle at TalkSex with the net, or you can scroll down to the show notes and you're going to find the links to everywhere you want to find me there. And I'm excited to see you there. But for now, let's dive in to how to make her come. We're going to start with the orgasm gap. Listen, guys, the orgasm gap is real. 95% of men orgasm during partnered intimacy compared to just 65% of women in heterosexual encounters. But here's the kicker those numbers flip in relationships where there's more foreplay and more communication and more body literacy, which is what we are going to be talking about today. Too often, people focused on penetrative intimacy chase friction, not physiology. Meanwhile, her body is giving clear signs when it's opening up, ready, and craving presence, not performance. Arousal for people with vulvas is not linear. It's blood flow, muscular changes, physiological buildup, and every bit of that shows up in her body long before she says a word. Her body will tell you when she's ready, if you know what to feel for. Think less about thrusting and more about decoding. So let's talk decoding. What her body is telling you is important. And this is where most people having penetrative intimacy with Vulva owners completely miss what's happening. Arousal isn't just wetness or moaning, it's measurable, physical, and yes, you can feel it with your fingers. And the easiest way to do that is stimulate her G spot or her A spot and pay attention. Look for the following four physical signs. Number one, tenting, the internal opening up. As arousal builds, the upper two-thirds of the vaginal canal expand and elongate. This is vaginal tenting. Sometimes it feels a bit like a balloon swelling on the inside. Here's why it matters it's one of the clearest signs that the body is preparing for deeper pleasure. So, how do you feel it? Slide one or two fingers inside, palm up. At early arousal, it'll feel snug and shallow. The cervix is going to be lower. As arousal builds, the canal lengthens and you're gonna feel a subtle upward movement. That's your green light, but also your invitation to go slow and let their body bloom. Tinting isn't just sexy, and it is sexy, it's also science. The second sign I want you to look for is pelvic floor engagement or the squeeze. The pelvic floor is one of the clearest indicators of rising arousal. The PC muscles start to pulse involuntarily during turn-on and contract more intensely as orgasm nears. So here's how you're gonna feel it. With your fingers inside, especially at the G spot or A spot, pause. You'll feel subtle squeezes or rhythmic pulses. That's the orgasm building beneath your hands. When you can feel the pulse, they're already halfway there. And remember, if you're not sure how to find a G spot or the A spot, I have full podcast episodes and actual demos you can watch here on YouTube and on my OF page. So make sure to check them out if you're not sure. Those tiny squeezes are her body giving you a play by play. So now we're on to the third thing you should be looking for, and that is clitoral and external signs. So before internal changes kick in, blood flow to the clitoris and vulva increases. The clitoral glands swell, getting more sensitive, and the labia engorge. The whole vulva warms and softens. A simple way to feel it is to cup your hand gently over the vulva and let it warm into your touch before anything else. If you want to learn how to touch the clitoris without overwhelming it, and if you specifically want to learn my cupping technique, I've got a step-by-step demo that covers it all. You can literally feel their blood flow change. Alright, the fourth thing I want you to look for that is a clear signal that she's aroused and heading towards climax are breath movement and sound. Arousal shows up in breath before words. So what you're gonna hear is shallow breathing, deeper breathing, sharp exhales as they climb. Hips are gonna shift towards you when you're doing something right. It's almost like an invitation. And there are going to be soft, involuntary sounds that spill out before dirty talk kicks in. So sync up with that energy. If the hips lean in, hold your rhythm. If the breath catches, don't switch it up. You don't need to guess when to speed up or slow down. Their body is gonna tell you. Okay, I've given you the four signs, signals, physical cues to look for in order to know that you're doing something right and that you are well on your way to giving her a climax. So, how do you respond to what you're feeling? Most people sense these shifts, but don't adjust. They keep moving like they're on a timer. Instead, when tending starts, slow down. Let them open up around you. When the pelvic floor engages, mirror it. Match that pulse. When breath shifts, sink your pace. When they're arching or pulsing, stay consistent. Don't switch up when they're crusting. Most people lose the orgasm because they don't know what they're feeling. And if you want to learn how to keep the rhythm locked in, my tutorials on the G spot and A spot show you exactly how to hold the sweet spot. So here's my sexual science snapshot. Masters and Johnson documented the four stages of sexual response: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. Tinting happens in the excitement and plateau before climax. Blood flow increases up to 50% in genital tissue during arousal, and clitoral swelling is a more reliable sign of readiness than verbal cues. The pelvic floor contractions are part of the orgasmic reflex well before climax. Science backs what your fingers already feel. So here's your new big O strategy. Number one, start with external touch. I'm talking full body clitoral teasing. Number two, read the signs, tinting, warmth, pelvic squeezes, breath. Three, respond, mirror, match, and follow through. Four, build waves. Don't chase the finish line. Hold her there and arousal. She'll appreciate it. And five, let her body lead. When you stop trying to force it, you make it inevitable. The orgasm isn't something you give them, it's something you stop getting in the way of. The difference between intimacy that fizzles and intimacy that makes someone crave you isn't magic. It's anatomy, attention, and timing. And when you start reading their arousal cues, you stop hoping they climax and you start making it inevitable. If you would like more content that locks into each of those physical cues and tells you how to respond precisely, drop a more please in the comment section below this video on my YouTube channel at TalkSexWithanette. If I get enough responses, I will create a video for each of these physical cues that tells you exactly what you should do as soon as you feel them happen. So remember that's more pleas under the comment section of my video on YouTube at Talk Sex with Anne. And look, if you want the specific demos that show you how to do all the things I mentioned above, including finding and stimulating the G spot and A spot, also how to touch the clitoris, I have full how-to videos and tutorials, meaning demos, here and on my OF page. If you are looking for a cheerleader, a wingwoman, if you will, on your own intimate journey, remember my books are open and I would love to work with you. You can find out more about that at my website, talksexwithinet.com. You can also drop me an email at Annette at talksexwitha-net.com. You can scroll down to the notes section below. You are going to find a speak pipe link and you can send me your thoughts and questions there as well. And don't forget to hit subscribe if you want more sex and intimacy, how tos and information that is going to start helping you have the best sex of your life starting tonight. Until next time, I'll see y'all in the locker room.