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Premature Ejaculation? Last Longer AND Finish Stronger
Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual struggle men face—yet almost no one is talking about it honestly.
In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I sit down with Jeff Bennett, CEO of Morari, to unpack what really causes PE and explore the many solutions men can try. From lifestyle shifts and breathwork to cutting-edge sexual health tech, we dig into how you can last longer, reduce performance anxiety, and actually enjoy sex without the pressure.
Because let’s be real: PE isn’t just about control—it’s about confidence, connection, and pleasure for both partners.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- Why premature ejaculation is so common (and nothing to be ashamed of)
- The science behind PE: mind, body, and nervous system
- Simple strategies you can try tonight to last longer
- Emerging solutions that combine technology and pleasure
- How lasting longer changes not just sex, but your relationship
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Speaker 2:Topic is premature ejaculation, why you finish too fast and how to fix it. Premature ejaculation it's one of the number one sexual concerns for men and it's one of the most misunderstood. For too long, guys have been told it's all in their head or given a numbing spray and told to just last longer. But here's the truth Premature ejaculation is a real condition. It's more common than you think and it doesn't have to ruin your sex life. Today I'm joined by Jeff Bennett, ceo and founder of Morari Incorporated, a company pioneering science-based solutions for male sexual health. Jeff has spent his career in the medical device industry and is now tackling one of the most taboo and important issues in men's sexual wellness. We're going to dig into why premature ejaculation happens, the science behind it, the impact on relationships and, most importantly, what can actually be done about it. So if you or your partner have ever struggled with finishing too fast, this episode could change the way you see sex intimacy. With finishing too fast, this episode could change the way you see sex intimacy and your own body.
Speaker 2:But before we dive in, I have to remind you that I'm over on OnlyFans and there I'm sharing my sex and intimacy how-tos and audio-guided self-pleasure meditations. But in addition to that, I'm also offering one-off sex and intimacy coaching questions and answers. Sex and intimacy coaching questions and answers. So if you're not ready to commit to a full coaching regimen, you can ask me single questions or multiple questions over there and get some guidance right away, and you can find me there with my handle at TalkSexWithAnette. You can also find me on Substack doing a whole lot of the same, minus the coaching, at my handle at TalkSexWithAnnette, and you can scroll down to the notes below this episode and find the links to everywhere you want to find me. I can't wait to see you there, but for now I want to hand the mic over to Jeff and I want to give him an opportunity to tell you a little bit more about who he is.
Speaker 1:Welcome, jeff. Well thanks, annette, and congratulations on all your success. A lot of different ways to get ahold of you. That's awesome to see, so congrats, thank you. Got a BS degree from a private Catholic college here in Minnesota, went on to get my MBA and nowhere in that MBA did I think of Mike Drewpath being a sex tech CEO. But here I am and happy to be in this role, so, more than that, really excited to be with you and your listeners today. So thanks for the opportunity.
Speaker 2:Well, I'm excited to tackle this topic because I know it's one that affects not only men and people with penises, but it also affects couples, their partners, and it can affect mental and whole health just the stress and shame around it.
Speaker 2:And, guys, I want you to stay to the end because we're really going to go in depth here. We're going to talk about what it is. We're going to cover the myths and the truths, we're going to help you figure out how to know if it's something you're really struggling with, and also we're going to provide information about real solutions and ways you can start changing the way you have sex, starting tonight. So this episode is going to help soothe a lot of the stress, tension and anxiety you're all suffering from right now if this is something you're dealing with, and we're going to also cover how many people are suffering from this. So I'm ready to dive in and give my listeners the information I know they want, and also remember you're going to get those takeaways at the end. So stick with us. I'm ready to talk about sex and premature ejaculation. How about you?
Speaker 1:I'm ready. Let about sex and premature ejaculation how about you.
Speaker 2:I'm ready, let's go. All right, cheers. Let's talk about coming too soon and how to last longer. All right, I just want to start with the basics. What is your definition of premature ejaculation?
Speaker 1:Well, let me answer that in reverse. I'm going to say what the societies the medical societies say premature ejaculation. Well, let me answer that in reverse. I'm going to say what the societies the medical societies say premature ejaculation is and then my take on that. And depending upon what medical society you're reading, it can be anywhere between one or two minutes of penetration prior to an ejaculation.
Speaker 1:However, I believe that it shouldn't be time-based, it should be personal and preference-based. So if something causes you and or your partner to be stressed in terms of ejaculation time, then I think that's premature ejaculation versus really focusing on a time of one minute and two minutes. But if you go back and you look at why that one and two minute were defined that way, is that there's been studies done with various different products and therapies out there to try to show the benefit that they have, and you need some sort of hard endpoint to be able to say whether or not it was effective or not. So I understand why the societies say time, but I think from a general consumer standpoint and from a male sexual health standpoint, if it causes the stress, it's premature ejaculation.
Speaker 2:Can you go back and explain that how that line for when it was defined as premature ejaculation happened? So you said that there were studies that were being put on for products. Is that correct?
Speaker 1:Correct, yeah, over the years, there have been a number of different companies trying to develop various different products to treat premature ejaculation, and if you want to go, for example, to the regulatory body called the FDA and get approval, you have to do studies to show that a given product is effective in treating a various different disorder and as part of that treating effectiveness, you need to put a hard endpoint in that, and in the case of premature ejaculation, it is time. So you basically have a stopwatch in the bedroom and you and your partner hit start and then you push the button and you hit stop when you ejaculated, and that time is then recorded in a diary and provided to your clinician as part of the study that you're engaged in to your clinician as part of the study that you're engaged in, and that's how they came up with that timeline.
Speaker 2:They looked at what, maybe what was average, and then what. Then they defined when you fell below the average, where they decided it was problematic Correct, correct.
Speaker 1:And then there's one society in Europe, for example, that calls it two minutes and I may have that wrong, it may be one or two minutes. And then there's another society based in the United States that calls it one minute. So, again, those hard endpoints are used to get various different clearances for products in the United States.
Speaker 2:That's good to know. That's good to know where that timeline was developed, right, Because I also know there are studies that say women would like penetration to last no more than like I don't know, was it five minutes I'm getting all my studies messed up, but pretty short time, Like women were like I don't want this to go over 10 minutes, Like that's too much. 15 minutes is killing me, which you know I've addressed in other podcast episodes. So it's fascinating to get that number. Do you have numbers on what male preference is, Like how long they want to last, to feel good about their performance in bed?
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, we know that on average men take about five minutes, a little over five minutes, to ejaculate. And again, that's on average, and 30% of men out there can't last more than two minutes in the bedroom. So you've got a gap of anywhere from 30 seconds to two minutes, which is considered medically premature ejaculation. And then you got the average ejaculation time being five minutes. So there's a gap there between two and five minutes that most men are hoping to get to. And then you look at the partner side of things and this is where we had done some research with female partners and we asked them ideally, on average, how long do you want your partner to last before ejaculation? And they reported on average it was eight minutes. So that female partner is looking for eight minutes of penetration and someone that has premature ejaculation, again medically is defined as two minutes and or under. So you've got a gap of about six minutes that you know female partners are looking to close in terms of that penetration.
Speaker 1:But to your point about longer the penetration, you know many guys are out there thinking, oh, I want to last 10 minutes or 15 minutes. Well, probably not likely. But also your partner probably doesn't want 10 minutes of penetration, as much as you think that he or she may want 20 minutes or 10 minutes of penetration, no, not going to happen, and you could probably address that better than I can. But again, it's one of those misconceptions that I think a lot of guys have that I want to go in and get this solved so that I can you know, I can you know, the last 10 plus minutes of ejaculation and penetration. Well, that's just not realistic.
Speaker 2:Right, yeah, no, we've talked a lot on this podcast about. You know, when we talk about sex lasting a half hour an hour, that's not penetration, folks. That's not all penetration. We're talking about connection and play and all of the stuff that goes around it, and penetration happens somewhere in there for some people, but that's rarely what someone wants to last for. You know, half hour, that sounds painful from my end as someone with a vagina. So that's good, we've cleared up. Guys, you've got some numbers and you've got some times. And you've got some times and you've got some truths around it. I want to go over really quickly all the stats. So you covered some of the stats on how many men struggle. Can you give me, like the exact stats on how many men think or are concerned about struggling with premature ejaculation?
Speaker 1:about struggling with premature ejaculation. Yeah, there's very little hard data out there to pinpoint that, but anecdotally, our research and looking at others again, I'll say 30% of men can't last more than two minutes in the bedroom. We estimate there's another 40% of men that don't meet that clinical definition of premature ejaculation but want to simply last longer. So that's 70% of men at some point in time looking to extend ejaculation time and again. It's really, we believe, about partner satisfaction.
Speaker 1:So, yes, it's important from a time perspective for some guys, but ultimately, what is it that the partner's desiring and what are your expectations? Because one of the things that we try to do is set expectations and that if you're thinking that you're going to be able to get your partner to orgasm through penetration alone probably not going to happen, because roughly 20% of women you know can orgasm through penetration alone, 80% can't there's additional needs to get the female partner to an orgasmic state. So that's another misconception out there that we tried to really set that expectation is that A don't expect to go from 30 seconds to 10 minutes right away not going to happen and B don't expect to get your partner to orgasm through penetration alone. And I'd be curious to get your thoughts on that, because obviously you're a much more expert than I am on that, but that's a key message that we continue to hear from men and couples around the world.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. I mean, even when a woman can eventually have an orgasm from penetration meaning you're not stimulating the external clitoris or other parts of her body it usually still starts with foreplay that gets her aroused enough to the point where you're getting to penetration that can pleasure her, and that's where I think that even that 20% comes in, that can orgasm from penetration alone. There's just so much more, and I think the reason why it's important to share these stats with men and their partners is that it takes the pressure up. Relax, right. Relax, because the reality you've been sold is false, which means all the things you're thinking are wrong with your body is also false, right.
Speaker 2:And there are a lot of ways to have really amazing sex that don't require you to be like this rabbit in bed who can pound away for like 20 minutes. That is not the gold standard for good sex from a woman's point of view. I can promise you. You know, I can promise you. But it's understandable to want to last longer and just to be able to enjoy that penetrative intimacy for a longer period of time. Yeah, let's go down some myths that you are ready to bust about premature ejaculation. I'm sure that you have plenty.
Speaker 1:Yeah, there's several out there. You know one myth it's all in the mind and in the head. Well, that's not necessarily the case. I mean, there's physiological data out there not much, but data out there that suggests that this is a neural response and the more nerve endings that you have in the penis, the more likely you're going to be more sensitive and therefore ejaculate early. So for many years it was well you need to go see a mental therapist. This is mental health. This is a mind issue. No, not necessarily Physiologically as well. Can the mental state help or hurt in terms of the time to ejaculation? Sure, but there's a physiological reason for it. But that's one myth out there, right?
Speaker 1:Other myths are there's all kinds of different products on the marketplace supplements, gas station type things that you can get. Most of those haven't been studied. So whether or not they can or cannot deliver a satisfactory outcome, everybody should be cautious of that and do their own homework. Because, again, there's lots of different options out there and you want to make sure that you're choosing something that's been at least validated from the medical standpoint and scientific standpoint and ideally, you know, evaluated by regulatory agencies, whether that's here in the United States, the FDA or by regulatory agencies, whether that's here in the United States the FDA, or in Europe there's something called the CE mark. These are all regulatory bodies that regulate products and anything that goes in the body, you know, I believe, should have some sort of regulatory clearance or review before you use them on personal spaces such as vaginas or penises.
Speaker 2:Right. So when you were saying that there are physiological reasons for premature ejaculation, can you share what those are as far?
Speaker 1:as we know, yep, there was one study, and I forget how many years ago it was. It was done in China, where and how they got these men, I don't know, but it was published in peer-reviewed journal. They did autopsies of men who had self-reported premature ejaculation and they found that there was a significant increase in the number of nerve endings in the head of the penis in men that had self-reported premature ejaculation versus those that didn't. Again, how they did this I don't know, but again, physiologically it makes sense. Right, you have more nerve fibers and more nerve endings. It leads to greater sensitivity and therefore the brain's like, okay, this feels really, really good and let me trigger an ejaculation. So that's one option out there, or one study that I should say.
Speaker 1:But then I think if you look at the evolution of all species, human and non ejaculation should be quick, right In nature. You know animals out there, whatever animal that is, they want to get done quickly. So they're not, you know, launched on the Sahara Desert. So in a weird way, you know, humans are the one of a few species that want to ejaculate longer. Every other species is about let's get it done quick so I can move on to XYZ activity. So I think that's just another interesting thing when you think about it. So for those people that suffer from it, hey, you're the top of the food chain, right, you're the ones that want to last longer and move on. It's the others out there that want to last way too long and then could be susceptible to being killed wherever.
Speaker 2:Right, that's true. Yeah, You're pretty vulnerable when you're having sex, so it would be a prime time in the wild to be offed by your predator. You'd be perfect prey. Maybe that's why people like outdoor sex so much. Maybe they get that primal like rush of something really bad could happen right now. I don't know. It's an interesting thought. Is affected by having and struggling with premature ejaculation. Just so my listeners know they're not alone in their experience, whether they truly aren't lasting long enough or they just feel like they aren't. You know it has an effect on people, their mental health, spiritual health, their intimate relationships.
Speaker 1:So yeah, it's an interesting question because it is so personal. I mean, everybody has their own definition of what premature ejaculation is considered. I was talking to an investor earlier today and I was mentioning that 30% of men can't last more than two minutes and there's a lot of men out there that ejaculate within 30 seconds and he was like, well, what's wrong with that? And it was kind of like I think it was joking. But I think there are a number of men out there that they'd be just fine, you know, lasting a minute so they can go and watch the football game or wherever. But ultimately, how does that help your relationship, if you are in a relationship? Because ultimately, I think you know, what we're focused on is satisfaction for the couple. And for men that ejaculate early, they may be satisfied with it, but your partner is probably not. So you need to have that conversation.
Speaker 1:But for someone that experiences this, there's that embarrassment of, you know, being together and being intimate, maybe for the the first time with a new partner and you ejaculate within 30 seconds or less, and in some cases men can't even, you know, take down their pants and penetrate without ejaculating. So there's that embarrassment, that humiliation that then translate to a lot of anxiety in the future. So it's in the head of like, oh my gosh, am I going to ejaculate really, really early? So I think it's that embarrassment, that humiliation for the partner standpoint, it's that lack of satisfaction and ultimately in the relationship if you're in a committed relationship, it really in some cases put a strain on that relationship. So many different factors. And you know all of this has been published in peer-reviewed journals and scientific articles and it's very clear that there's a overall health and well-being impact by someone that experiences premature ejaculation.
Speaker 2:Right. So you would get in the person with PE. You would get anxiety, I'm sure, depression, over not being able to have the sex life they want to. Then within the relationship there's going to be stress, maybe avoiding sex or not being able to have that conversation with your partner or your partner not feeling like they can say to you you know, I'm not feeling sexually satisfied in this relationship, so it creates strain on your relationship as well. And then that, as I talk about on this podcast all the time, that everything isn't about sex necessarily, but sex is in everything you do.
Speaker 2:So when you have that lack of confidence in your personal life, it's going to carry over into other areas of your life. When you feel like you're deficient at home and in your intimacy, it's definitely going to show up in other areas of your life, affect the confidence in other areas of your life. So finding a way to deal with premature ejaculation, finding a way to create an intimate life that is fulfilling and builds confidence, is a well worthwhile endeavor. So now that we've gone over all of the facts around premature ejaculation all of the facts around premature ejaculation cleared up some of the myths, and we've talked about how it can really affect someone's life, whole health and life. Let's talk about the solutions, because I'm confident. I know these people are getting lots and lots of products thrown at them and probably experience disappointment again and again and again. What are some of the solutions? If they go to the doctor, what is the doctor going to say to them?
Speaker 1:Well, first of all, one of the myths is that hanging a picture of your mother-in-law up on your ceiling and looking at her while you're having sex is probably not going to work. So I don't know if you want to try that treatment option. But go for it if you want to. But yeah, no, seriously, I think that what a doctor will do is depending upon how the male presents themselves in terms of the condition and their preferences. There's one of two things that are basically frontline options right now, the first of which are drugs, and specifically antidepressants.
Speaker 1:Here in the United States, the FDA has not yet approved a drug to treat premature ejaculation, but what they'll do is they'll prescribe antidepressants which have a side effect of delaying an ejaculation, and that's good. But at the same time, antidepressants have all kinds of other side effects associated with them. So you may be solving for one problem, you know lasting longer in the bedroom but you have other problems and one of the side effects could be loss of sex drive. So you're kind of creating this solution, but then you have this problem like well, I don't even feel like having it, and then there's reports of dry mouth and weight gain, so all kinds of other side effects. But that's the current state and that's where you know we look at premature ejaculation.
Speaker 1:It's been one of those ignored areas and taboo topic for many years and forever actually. I mean, you see all kinds of commercials for erectile dysfunction and people know about that, and the treatments of Cialis and Viagra, et cetera, but here in the United States there's no drug approved, so that's the first line therapy in many cases drugs. The other option are sprays and creams that are lidocaine or benzocaine based and they desensitize the penis and while they work, if not completely absorbed it could rub off on the partner and then impact the partner as well. So you know there's all kinds of them. You can go to any you know, target, walmart, cvs and buy these sprays or creams and again, they're effective, they work. And then, on the other hand, it's the drugs that are also provided as an option.
Speaker 2:Right. So the numbing sprays can actually cause then your partner to go numb, and we already have a hard time getting women to come, and now you're numbing her out. So what's the point of lasting longer when she can't feel you right? So you've got those solutions. I assume there are some solutions that are based around meditation or lowering stress.
Speaker 1:There are absolutely and you know what I mentioned in terms of pills and sprays and creams are kind of those first-line therapies. But there are meditation, there's breathing exercises that are encouraged, there's edging, you know, getting yourself just up to the point where you feel like you're going to orgasm, and then backing off again. So that's more of maybe a training type of an option and there are some of those training tools available out there in the marketplace. And again, the psychological side of things, you know absolutely are options that people can pursue. But again, the primary ones are drugs and then sprays and creams.
Speaker 2:Sprays and creams, okay, and then, of course, you have a product that you are creating to try and deal with this right now, correct?
Speaker 1:We are. Yeah, we got FDA clearance for our product back in January and we just started shipments in May and our product's called More MOR and it's basically a neurostimulation-based product that temporarily interferes with the signals from the penis to the brain to the penis, Whereas ejaculation is a neural response. It's nerve signals at the head of the penis sending signals up to the brain like this feels good, the brain then triggering a message back down saying I should ejaculate. So what we're doing is we're basically just turning down the volume of nerve activity from the penis to the brain temporarily until ejaculations occurred, and it's targeting nerves, and the body is just one big neural network that controls all of our behavior. So why not try to use electricity to deal with premature ejaculation? And that's what we're working on and we've developed and launched a product.
Speaker 2:That's fantastic. So what would you suggest to listeners who are listening to this right now and it sounds like, and they're like, oh, it doesn't sound like there's. I'm not feeling very hopeful right now With all of the research you've done. What would you tell my listeners right now to start doing that they could start doing right now, whether it's research or some of these retraining techniques? What are some things they can start doing right now to address the issue?
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I think one thing and it depends upon if you're single or in a committed relationship let's talk about committed relationships right now. You know this is a topic that I believe strongly you need to have a conversation with your partner about. You may think it's an issue for your partner, but your partner may not think it's an issue at all, or vice versa. So it's an opportunity to have a really good, engaging conversation about what your goals are collectively together. So I think that conversation needs to happen and then that also can be the entry point to say, okay, what about the different options? What if I tried the sprays and creams? You know, would you help in that? Or can you apply that for me? Do we incorporate that into the foreplay? Or, if you're going to go down the drug option, talk about that. Make sure you're comfortable with those side effects, because the side effects that you're experiencing could affect your partner, and not directly, but just what you're going through could be impacting how they think and feel at that time. So have that conversation, explore the different options and try different things, because you know, I consider, you know, premature ejaculation options as a toolbox. There's different tools that you can choose for whatever you're considering and to include ours. You know some people are not going to be comfortable wearing a patch that we have with our product to delay an ejaculation, but they may be just fine trying sprays and creams. So have that conversation.
Speaker 1:And then, from a male perspective, I think it's just make sure you have expectations in line. You know, don't expect to go from 30 seconds to 10 minutes to 20 minutes. It's not going to happen and, as we talked about before, your partner probably doesn't want that much penetration. So you need to set your expectations and make sure that your partner's expectations are set as well and together, you know, figure out how you can reach that goal. And it may not be overnight. You may need several sessions or several drugs or several attempts it's raising greens or are chronic to get to that point. I'm not a marathon runner, but if I was, I'm not going to go from running a 5K to a 26 mile marathon overnight. It's going to take some time and some training and this is, you know, premature ejaculation is no different in my opinion.
Speaker 2:Right, right, so it sounds like what you're saying is and I've always said, if you can't talk to your partner about sex, you probably shouldn't be having sex with them. But to sit down and now reflecting back to the beginning of our podcast, like you said in your mind, whether your ejaculation time or the length of time you last is problematic or not is really up to you and your partner. Is it problematic or not If you are feeling shame around how long you last? Have you sat down with your partner and had a discussion with them and said, like I'm worried I'm not lasting long enough. How do you feel about it? Right, Maybe they're like I like the amount of time we have penetrative sex, but I'd like you to go down on me a little bit longer. You know, these are conversations that will help you figure out if you really do have a problem or not. Maybe you don't, Maybe you'll be surprised, right? So, having that conversation, and if you're both like yeah, like we'd like a little bit longer penetrative sex, then you're looking at the different options.
Speaker 2:I didn't realize, actually, that I'm just learning now that they use antidepressants to treat this. Definitely want to talk about that with your partner before you do it because that's going to affect the whole meal deal, right? It's not just going to affect how soon you ejaculate, it's going to be changing everything in all of your life. So that is an option, of course. And then you've got your sprays and creams that numb and give you a little extra time. That way, I like how you talked about incorporating those into foreplay but seeing if they work and if they numb her out, maybe she likes that. Maybe she's like if you're going to be pounding me longer, I want to be numb. I don't know, that's up to you two. And then you've got your device, which let me understand. So it's a patch that you put on the person that helps. Can you explain that a little bit more?
Speaker 1:Yeah, so it's a skin patch that's worn in what's called the perineum, and that's the area between the scrotum and the anus. Some people call it the tate or the gooch, but that's where the the gooch. Gooch yeah.
Speaker 1:My 24-year-old son said Dad, that's the gooch. I'm not putting that on my gooch tab, you test it on me. So I'm like I'd never heard that term before, but so different slang terms out there. But yes, it's, it's a patch that word is worn between the scrotum and the anus and that's the area where the ejaculatory nerves combine before going up to the brain to trigger an ejaculation. So the product is put on prior to penetration, it's worn during intercourse and after an ejaculation has occurred you simply take the patch and you throw it away and then next time you have intercourse you use a new patch. So these are single-use devices.
Speaker 1:We had to get FDA clearance for this and one of the requirements that the FDA had they were concerned about infections is make sure that your label says it's for single-use only. So it is for single-use. And again, it's worn in the perineum. You do need to do some manscaping down there, guys. So you need to. You know, clip, not necessarily shave, because shaving can nick the skin and if you get a little bit of electrical current in there that might hurt. But if you clip at a two to four millimeter clipper size then you should be all good to go, but definitely need to do manscaping down there.
Speaker 2:Right, and you're going to want to talk to your partner about that. I mean, she's probably going to like that you have to manscape. I'm not going to lie, we like, we like generally spam it every once in a while. We're kind of like we want you primal, like let let it go, but I don't mind a manscaped guy. But again, this is going to be something you're going to want to talk to your partner about, right, because that is going to also be part. Well, maybe you can make part of your foreplay, slap that patch on, you could do a little femdomming and or you know.
Speaker 2:However that's going to look for you, it's a partner decision, right? So we're going to talk to the partner and then try all of the different options. It sounds like that's kind of your advice, like give them a shot. And then also there are, I think, regardless of what option you're using, as far as creams or your device, or even antidepressants. I think there's a lot of value in the self-training options because either way, that's going to help you with whatever you're using. Edging is very effective at you learning your body better and learning how to like hold back when you want to. I actually have created audio guided self-pleasure meditations to practice slowing down ejaculation and lasting anger. So those kind of exercises are meditating, deep breathing, when you think you're going to explode.
Speaker 2:The mother-in-law thing now, it might cause ED you must not be able to get up at all, so you may be permanently harmed by that Right.
Speaker 1:So right.
Speaker 2:Right Option there so you then be paying for therapy. So, I love. I love your approach to this, though, and I think that that's those are some great takeaways for my listeners. Start by having a conversation. If you are single, like, sit down and have a conversation with yourself or start writing out like what are my worries? What proof is there that I'm not lasting long enough? And if you still just feel like you want to, like, have solutions before you meet your next partner, you can test these by yourself.
Speaker 1:Right, right, and that's the beauty of these right, I mean, they can all be used by yourself in a solo environment and you can get comfortable with what you're comfortable with. So test whether or not you have significant side effects by taking an antidepressant, try the sprays and creams, and that way you'll be further down the road in terms of being comfortable with different options with that partner. And for us again, I can't stress enough, and you've done it as well is the partner is so important. You need to have that conversation, you need to open up with it, and that's why, for us, our initial target market are couples in committed relationships who have or are using sexual enhancers.
Speaker 1:And why sexual enhancers? Well, that couple's already had that conversation. They're willing to bring something new into the bedroom. So it's easier than perhaps you know a couple that had never talked about their sex life before. That's a hard hurdle to overcome, but if we focus on those that have had those conversations, it just makes the job that much easier. And not to minimize the impact on someone that has it, but it's part of that conversation that you need to have and that's part of the foreplay experience as well.
Speaker 2:Right, I love how much emphasis you put on communication. I am consistently shocked by how many people are having sex with people that they don't talk about sex with, and how detrimental that is to the relationship, the intimacy, and then your own internal conversation about one of the most vulnerable acts that you have, which is sex, and you don't even have a partner in that while you're having sex with them. So communication is so key, and I know that it can be hard to learn how to talk to your partner. That's why I put out a lot of content about how to do that, but that being one of your top takeaways, is great. So, guys, we have, I think in this podcast, clearly defined what premature ejaculation is, and I think you did a great job of shining a light on how little real information there is out about it. I love what you say about how to decide if you are coming too quick. Right, it's really like figure out what that really means, have the conversations and then you know your options out there for treatment.
Speaker 1:So go, experiment, right go experiment, try different things and it may lead to things that you never expected. And we found that early in our studies, before we submitted the FDA, was we were looking for a study to show how long people would last longer and then we had several guys say, yeah, I'm lasting longer, but wow, the intensity of the ejaculation. I'd never felt something that felt that good before. So we were kind of struggling like, is this real, is it not? I experienced it early on, but I kind of blew it off to being biased.
Speaker 1:We went to our medical advisor and said we're hearing these reports of an increase in intensity, is this real? And he's like, well, yeah, especially if the patch is placed more towards the anus. That's where the prostate area is. The prostate is surrounded by a bunch of smooth muscle which contracts during ejaculation and you're probably having the neurosimulation, the electrical current causing this contraction to be stronger and therefore more forceful ejaculate. So that was like wow.
Speaker 1:I mean, what guy wouldn't want to experience a more intense ejaculation if he could get it, whether you're in a committed relationship or not, that could be a nice little side benefit. So in the process of yourself, you know, trying to figure out what you like what you don't like. Where does the intensification of the ejaculate fit into that process? Right, and we know there's so many different products on the market for females that help with orgasm and we don't really have anything like that from a male sexual health standpoint. So perhaps delivering this neural stimulation not. Perhaps we know it provides a much stronger ejaculation, but is that something that you're comfortable with? You don't know until you try it.
Speaker 2:Right, right. So now I want to give you an opportunity to tell my listeners where they can find out more well, connect with you, find out more about your product. I also want to mention to my listeners and you can tell them a little bit more about this I know that you are trying to do your own study right now and you're looking to recruit people for that, so that you can continue to help people men with their sexual health. So if you could tell them a little bit about that, that would be great. And so, if they're interested, they can participate.
Speaker 1:Sure. Well, if I know more about our product, go to yourmorecom. That's Y-O-U-R-M-O-Rcom. More is our product name and why more. Well, I can't tell you what your more is. I don't know if you're looking for more intensity, more communication, more time for ejaculation. We're going to give you a product solution that you and your partner go figure out. What your more is we don't want to know. That's private. You go figure that out with your partner. So go to yourmorecom. You can order our product there. It's an e-commerce site set up to take and receive orders and this finding that I mentioned of intensified ejaculation we want to study that a little bit more and really understand that.
Speaker 1:The FDA clearance that we have allows us to look at enhancement benefit without being in part of a formal study where you have to go to the doctor and fill out all kinds of paperwork. But what we're including for here in the United States are 300 people to help test the product and give us subjective feedback. Again, you're not being asked to stop watch time anything, it's just did this help, did it not? So if you're interested in really understanding the benefits of intensification with our product, you know, go to yourmorecom. So, no paperwork that you have to find out. Everything is 100% confidential. You don't have to go to the doctor to be qualified. It's all post-market tests that we're looking for. Basic, no more than five questions at the end of the study.
Speaker 2:So if you're interested not only in trying out the product but in helping figure out if you can have more explosive ejaculation, which I mean in my mind I don't know, I don't have a penis, but that sounds great to me we definitely want to figure out how to give men more pleasure during ejaculation. So you're going to go to that link and you can get the discount 25% off with my code ANNETTE25. Thank you so much for joining me today and for helping me help my audience understand pre-ejaculation a little bit more. I know that there's a lot of shame with it, I know that it can cause a lot of frustration, but there's also just a lot of lack of knowledge and real information out there. So, guys, it is like it's kind of a murky area. I actually am a little bit surprised myself going through this conversation to discover how they've come up with a timeline for pre-ejaculation and you know all of the research around it. I just thought there would be a lot more sort of solid evidence and knowledge about it. So we've given you a roadmap to start dealing with it starting tonight, which is what I try and do with everybody with every one of these podcast episodes.
Speaker 2:If you have questions or comments, want to know more, please do what you know you need to do, which is, if you're an audio listener, you can go to my YouTube channel. You can find this video. You can drop a comment below and I will get to it as soon as possible. You can also email me at annette at talksexwithannettecom and, of course, if you have specific questions about the study, you can go over to the website mentioned before. I'm gonna put links below and you can get help there, but I would love to know your thoughts. I would love to know your experiences with premature ejaculation and what you've tried, what's worked and what's not. So don't be shy. You can also scroll down to my SpeakPipe link below and shoot me a voicemail. Thank you so much for joining me today, jeff.
Speaker 1:Well, thank you for the platform to discuss this important topic. You're doing great things about sexual health overall, so thank you for the opportunity.
Speaker 2:Thank you and until next time, listeners, I'll see you in the locker room. Cheers.