3 Moves That Make You Last Longer in Bed (No Pills, No Sprays)

Want to last longer in bed—without numbing creams, pills, or awkward distractions?

You’ve been told to count backwards, think about baseball, or change positions… but none of that actually works. And worse? It disconnects you from your partner.

In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’ll show you 3 science-backed moves you can use tonight to control your arousal, boost her orgasms, and turn ordinary sex into the kind she replays in her head for days.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

• The truth about why you finish too fast (and how to retrain your nervous system)
• The Grind & Anchor: How slow circles can align with her clitoral network and keep you in control
• The Edge & Tease Reset: How to build anticipation while resetting your arousal
• The Root Lock Pulse: A pelvic floor hack that intensifies her orgasm while giving you stamina

No gimmicks. No distractions. Just moves that make you unforgettable in her bed and her brain.

By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly how to last longer, keep your erection strong, and give her orgasms that feel deeper and more intense.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome to Talk Sex with Annette
• 2:22 The Science Behind Finishing Too Fast
• 5:01 Move 1: The Grind and Anchor
• 8:06 Move 2: The Edge and Tease Reset
• 10:12 Move 3: The Root Lock Pulse
• 11:56 Putting It All Together
• 13:24 Tonight's Challenge and Follow-up

Transcript

Speaker 1: 1:03

Do the sex pleasure and desire Around here. Nothing's off limits. These are the kinds of conversations we save for our boldest group chats, our most trusted friends and, of course, the women's locker room. Think raw, honest and sometimes unapologetically raunchy. If you've been here from the beginning, thank you. And if you're new, welcome to my podcast. Where desire meets disruption and pleasure becomes power. Now let's talk about sex Cheers.

Speaker 1: 1:38

Today's Talk Sex with Annette topic is three moves that help you last longer in bed without numbing creams or pills. Look, every guy wants stamina. Numbing creams or pills, look, every guy wants stamina. But what you've been told to do counting backwards, changing positions, thinking about baseball none of that actually works and it leaves your partner reeling in the feeling of being engaged in disconnected sex. None of us want that. You've been told it's just bad genetics. Or that you need numbing sprays, distraction tricks or pills. And here's the issue None of those actually fix the problem. They just mask it, which means you stay stuck in the same cycle you enter her, you pump fast and it's over before either of you are ready. That's the problem we're fixing today, because the truth is, stamina isn't something you're born with. It's something you can train into your body. And the good news you don't need to spend months meditating or squeezing a magic ring around your cock. You just need three moves that retrain your nervous system, make her orgasms feel stronger and leave her replaying you in her head for the next day and the day after that and the day after that. Stamina isn't about numbing yourself. It's about learning how to move in ways that control your arousal and turn ordinary sex and intimacy into the one thing she can't stop thinking about. By the end of this episode you'll know the science behind why you finish too fast and three unexpected moves you can use tonight to last longer. No pills, no sprays, just control.

Speaker 1: 3:17

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Speaker 1: 4:05

So now let's dive into how you're going to start lasting longer when you're in bed with your partner. Tonight. Cheers, we are going to start with the science of control. So here's what research tells us. Your nervous system is the gatekeeper. Fast, repetitive thrusting sends your sympathetic nervous system fight or flight into overdrive and that's why your heart races and your orgasm rockets forward.

Speaker 1: 4:33

To last longer, you have to activate the parasympathetic nervous system, the rest and digest mode that slows arousal and keeps your erection strong. Your pelvic floor is your hidden control switch. Muscles like the bulbous spongiosis and the PC muscles control ejaculation reflexes. Strengthening and learning to pulse these muscles gives you a built-in pause button. Most men and people with penises never use Dopamine and anticipation are performance enhancers. When you interrupt the script and build suspense, her dopamine spikes and that makes her wetter and more responsive For you. Switching the rhythm lowers overstimulation so you can go again and again, and again, and don't. We all want that when we're having really amazing intimacy, lasting longer isn't a bad distraction. It's about hacking your nervous system so you can stay in control while becoming unforgettable in her bed and her brain.

Speaker 1: 5:45

So here are the three moves that can help you retrain your body. I call the first move the grind and anchor right. When she expects thrusts, you are going to press deep and stop pumping, anchor your hips against hers and switch to grinding in slow circles. Now I want you to note this is a good time to be in communication with her. If she happens to be on the shallower side, you're gonna wanna make sure that the depth you anchor at is good for her and not painful. Also, those circles are not giant circles. They are small grinding circles that are going to hit her in all the right spots. Here's why it works. You're reducing friction on the most sensitive nerves of your penis, which slows your arousal curve. For her, you're aligning with her clitoral network what research calls the quittle alignment technique, which increases her chances of orgasm. Finally, you're going to layer it.

Speaker 1: 6:47

I've talked a lot about layering in my intimacy how-to videos. You're going to want to go back and watch all of those videos or listen to them to really understand what layering is. But you're going to layer it, so you're going to sync your circles with her breath. Every exhale, grind deeper. Every inhale, slow down. Grinding isn't lazy sex, it's a science-backed way to last longer while hitting her clit at the same time.

Speaker 1: 7:18

So the second move I'm going to teach you is called the edge and tease reset. When you feel yourself building too fast, pull almost all the way out, hold, press your hips against her and tease with just your tip, maybe rub along her fold, breathe, let her squirm. This is going to feel amazing to her and it's going to give you a moment, a moment to reset. Here's why it works. You're stepping off the gas, you're giving your nervous system time to reset and for her, the anticipation spikes. Dopamine and science shows delayed gratification triggers more intense orgasms. We all love that. Once again, we are going to layer this move, so we're going to pair the tease with whispering exactly what you're about to do when you slide back in Language or Second language or sex talk plus touch recruits more neural pathways. Edging isn't just for you, it's foreplay that makes her wetter while you take control of your orgasm.

Speaker 1: 8:28

And finally, the third move I'm going to teach you is called the root lock pulse Instead of holding your breath or clenching your abs. Tighten your pelvic floor like you're stopping your stream mid-pee. Hold for two seconds, release. Do this while you're inside her. Here's why it works. This interrupts the ejaculatory reflex and forces your body to reset. Studies on pelvic floor training show men who practice this gain significant stamina control. For her, every pulse makes your shaft flex inside her, which she feels as extra thickness and pressure that intensifies her orgasm, while you stay calm. Once again, we're going to layer it. So you're going to sink your pulses to your thrust squeeze on entry, release on exit. It feels intentional, controlled and unforgettable. The root lock pulse is the difference between your orgasm controlling you and you imprinting yourself in her memory.

Speaker 1: 9:31

So now let's put it all together. Here's how you turn this into a stamina loop. She'll replay in her mind. First, start deep and slow, with a grind and anchor. Again, remember to check in with her about the depth. Make sure it feels good to her. Second, when you get close, switch to the edge and tease reset. And then finally layer in the root lock pulse as you slide back in. Now let's put it all together. Here's how you turn this into a stamina loop. She'll replay in her mind over and over again. First, you're going to start deep with the grind and anchor. Remember we're going to check in with her about the depth and make sure it feels good to her. We're going to keep those circles. Next, when you get close to having an orgasm, we're going to switch to the edge and tease reset and then finally, you're going to layer in the root lock pulse as you slide back in. Repeat that cycle and you'll notice two things. First, you're going to last way longer and her orgasms are going to get stronger every single time because you're giving her variety, anticipation and depth.

Speaker 1: 10:48

So here's what not to do Don't just stop cold without touching her. That feels awkward and not hot at all. Don't overdo the pauses Once or twice per round. Keeps it sexy and not robotic. And finally, don't skip communication. Check in, especially if you're playing with teasing or control or depth. Make sure it's working for her so she feels like she is connected to you and part of this amazing intimacy that's taking place.

Speaker 1: 11:20

So here's my challenge to you tonight Don't use pills or sprays or excuses. Don't escape into your mind and start counting sheep or playing baseball or whatever sport you like to bring into the bedroom. Use these three moves the grind and anchor, the edge and tease, reset, root, lock and pulse. Do them in one night and take note of how much longer you're able to last. But also watch her for her reaction. See how she reacts to these new moves, as opposed to you thrusting away at her and then coming too soon. That's not what any of us want in our bedroom experience. And then check back in with me and let me know how it goes. Look, it's not about numbing yourself out, it's about control. Three moves can flip your stamina from over too soon to unforgettable and the kind she replays in her mind tomorrow. This is going to help in any desire discrepancy you might have and it's going to bring her more pleasure in the bedroom while giving you the confidence you deserve when you're engaged in intimacy.

Speaker 1: 12:32

Now I'd like to hear back from you after you try these, so make sure to check back in. Drop your comment below the video if you are listening this on YouTube. If you are an audio listener, of course, you can run over to my YouTube channel at TalkSexWithAnette and you can drop your comment below the video, or you can email me at Annette at TalkSexWithAnettecom. Now, if you are looking for a cheerleader, a wing woman, if you will, in your intimacy journey. My coaching books are open. You can find out more about that at TalkSexWithAnettecom, or again you can head over to my OF page where you can just start by asking me questions there and seeing how that goes for you. But whatever you decide to do, remember pleasure is your birthright and you deserve to start having the best intimacy of your life, starting tonight. So until next time I'll see you in the locker room Ring loop.