What To Do After Sex To Make Her Crave You Even More

You think she wants you because of how good you were during sex?

Think again.

What you do after sex is what sets you apart—and makes her crave you all over again.

In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, we’re flipping the script and diving into what happens in the 5 minutes after you come. Because that window? It’s not downtime—it’s prime time.

You’ll learn:

• 🔥 How to use touch, talk, and energy to leave her shaking for more
• 🧠 The science behind afterglow oxytocin—and how to use it to deepen connection
• 💋 What “praise kink” actually looks like in vanilla and kinkier dynamics
• 🧖‍♀️ 5 unexpected aftercare moves that make you unforgettable in bed
• 🛏️ How to set up round two before she even asks for it

Whether you're looking to level up your intimacy, turn casual sex into something magnetic, or become the lover she can't stop thinking about—this episode is your new playbook.

Touch her body, her mind, and her heart. Not just during sex—but after.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Podcast Introduction and Overview
• 4:19 The Science Behind Post-Sex Chemistry
• 6:14 Technique 1: The Erotic Come Down
• 8:46 Technique 2: The Praise Kink
• 9:57 Techniques 3-4: Aftercare Triad & Memory Seeding
• 12:19 Bonus: Five Unexpected Aftercare Moves
• 15:26 Final Thoughts and Call to Action

Transcript

Speaker 1: 1:03

Do the sex pleasure and desire Around here. Nothing's off limits. These are the kinds of conversations we save for our boldest group chats, our most trusted friends and, of course, the women's locker room. Think raw, honest and sometimes unapologetically raunchy. If you've been here from the beginning, thank you, and if you're new, welcome to my podcast. Where desire meets disruption and pleasure becomes power. Now let's talk about sex Cheers.

Speaker 1: 1:37

Today's Talk Sex with Annette topic is how to touch her after sex so that she begs for more. If you think great sex is only about what you do during, you're wrong. The truth is the most powerful move you can make, the one that leaves her aching for round two, happens after you finish. It's not your dick or dildo, it's not your rhythm, it's not your stamina. It's what you do when her body is still trembling, breath is still shallow and her heart is wide open, because in the five minutes after sex, her brain is bathing in oxytocin, her nervous system is buzzing and what you do next determines whether she feels cherished or dismissed, desired or done with. Today, I'm teaching you how to touch her after sex in a way that makes her want you again and again, deeper, louder and longer. This isn't about performance. It's about presence If you want to be the lover she craves not just once, but again and again. You're going to want to hear this. But before we dive in, I want to remind you that I'm over on OnlyFans and there I am sharing my sex and intimacy how-tos, demonstrations and audio-guided self-pleasure meditations and so much more more all designed to help you start having more pleasure in your life and better sex, starting tonight. Now you can find me there with my handle at TalkSexWithAnette. I'm also over on Substack doing a whole lot of the same, and you can find me there with my handle at TalkSexWithAnette as well. And, of course, you can always scroll down to the notes in the description of this podcast, and you're going to find all the links you need to find me wherever you want to find me and join me. So hopefully I will see you there. Now let's dive into it and talk about what you can do in those critical five minutes minutes after you've come, to seal the deal for your next date. Cheers After sex is a prime time for seduction, and this is backed by science.

Speaker 1: 3:58

After orgasm, your brain floods with oxytocin and prolactin. Oxytocin equals the cuddle hormone. Prolactin is the chemical that induces feeling satiated and bonding. But here's the twist Women's oxytocin spikes higher and lasts longer. Now, if you are a man or a person with a penis, you are likely biologically winding down while her body is primed for connection, and that's why what you do after sex determines whether she feels deeply wanted or emotionally dismissed.

Speaker 1: 4:36

Emotional dismissal is a mood killer and ends your night on a note that makes her think twice about ever coming back for seconds, or thirds or fourths. Don't believe me. Listen to this. Research from the Kinsey Institute shows the partners who engage in affectionate post-sex behavior report higher sexual satisfaction and stronger emotional bonding across the board. How does this translate? Aftercare equals foreplay for the next time. That's right. You're already engaging in foreplay for your next sex session or lovemaking session, whatever you want to call it. Now I'm going to share four aftercare techniques that will have her craving you so hard she'll start freeing up time on her calendar for your next hot romp before the night has even ended. So let's get into them.

Speaker 1: 5:33

The first aftercare technique I'm going to share with you that is guaranteed to have her coming back for more is the erotic come down. It's a touch that teases round two. Okay, so the minute you come. Don't freeze, don't pull away and don't flop and roll. Instead, touch her like you're still turned on. Your orgasm is not the cue to exit, it's the invitation to linger. So here's what you're going to do. You can use your whole hand, laying flat and warm, against her lower belly. You can cup her vulva and add light pressure. You can run it over her chest or her inner thighs, or you can use light, tickly fingertips and trace the same path. Your tongue, your cock or your toy followed and you can trace that path over her labia, clitoral hood, through her wetness, if she's not overstimulated, or over her nipples. But you're going to do it in a slower, lazier, more reverent fashion.

Speaker 1: 6:44

Note the touch you use after sex will differ depending on her needs, her desires. Tune in to her physical reaction. Does she crave warm, firm, grounding touch or slow, light, sensual movements that create sparks across her body? Of course, you can have a conversation about this ahead of time, but it's also just this beautiful act of discovery and bonding after sex. So make sure you are tuning in to her physical reactions when you do either of these. You can also use your breath and breathe into her neck, her ear or her shoulder. Let her feel your exhale like a whisper that says I'm still here. This is nervous system foreplay. It extends the high, the eroticism, and bonus that kind of slow sensual grounding can trigger aftershocks, many orgasms that ripple through the body.

Speaker 1: 7:50

Post-climax Aftercare technique number two that will keep her thinking about you until the next time you're together is well, the praise, kink, the gentle dom version. This is where most people fail. If you want her to remember the sex, you have to tell her how unforgettable she was, not generic compliments like that was hot. We're going to go deeper. Try these or some version of these. You looked so fucking beautiful when you came, or the way your body moved under mine I could barely keep it together. Or you made me feel like I've never been touched before. Why does it work? Studies on erotic praise show that verbal reinforcement of desirability increases arousal, post-sex satisfaction and long-term attraction, especially in female-bodied. People Want to really flip the switch. Say it while stroking her cheek, kissing her shoulder or pressing your body into hers, because when you pair intimate touch with specific affirmations, you're building sexual trust, and sexual trust equals sexual freedom.

Speaker 1: 9:12

The third aftercare technique that she is going to carry with her and cherish until the next time she gets to be with you is the aftercare triad water, warmth and words yes, you are tired, but here's where you stand out. Give her comfort, like a dom who knows what they're doing. Water bring it, don't ask, just show up with it. She's going to need it and so are you. Warmth grab a towel, pull her to your chest, cover her with a blanket, give her warmth. That is grounding and reassuring Words. Say things like are you good? And then tell her you are incredible. I love how open you are with me. She doesn't need a caretaker. She needs to know that she's still wanted, even when the sex is done. This is intimacy that goes beyond the physical. This is where casual sex becomes magnetic sex and relationships get sexier over time.

Speaker 1: 10:22

Aftercare technique number four is going to pretty much guarantee that next sexy get-together. It is called sexual memory seeding. If you want her thinking about you hours or days later, then end the night by planting a sensory sex seed in her brain. Try this while you're holding her whisper the next time I'm going to eat you so slow. I'm going to eat you so slow you're going to beg me to stop, just so you can catch your breath. Boom, that's an erotic anchor. It creates anticipation, desire and a dopamine drip every time she thinks about it. That's science and that's seduction. So there are four solid aftercare techniques that are going to change your sex life for the better and guarantee that you get her back in bed again. But I'm not going to stop there. I have a bonus for you An aftercare to-go bag, if you will, of five unexpected moves that seal the deal and keep her coming back.

Speaker 1: 11:31

For you, an aftercare to go bag, if you will, of five unexpected moves that seal the deal and keep her coming back for more. If you want to blow her mind after an orgasm, try slipping one of these into your aftercare. The first one is the tethered touch. Think of it as a vanilla upgrade. Gently tie a soft scarf or sash around her wrist and hold it. While you cuddle, it says you're mine, I'm not letting go of you yet I mean you can even say that to her. It's a subtle power play that feels safe and sexy and a little bit kinky. The second move is called the whispered recap. Consider it an erotic debriefing if you will Tell her exactly what you loved, in order. I loved when you pulled me in and the way you gasped when I touched your thigh and the way your legs shook when I finished, and the way your legs shook when I finished. It turns memory into foreplay and it'll live rent free in her head all week long.

Speaker 1: 12:36

The third aftercare move is the just for you treat. Think of it as an aftercare gift. Stash her favorite snack chocolate or drink in your nightstand. Pull it out after sex and let her know you got it just for her. It's nurturing, unexpected and downright swoon-worthy.

Speaker 1: 12:57

The fourth aftercare move that is personally one of my favorites like this is a net certified both on the giving end and on the receiving end is the clean up as worship. Instead of handing her a towel, warm one up and clean her yourself, slowly, gently, like you're touching sacred ground. She'll feel like a goddess because you're treating her like one, and this is a technique that can go both ways. So, ladies, this is a great move to use on your man. It whispers of cock worship and every guy wants a little bit of that. And the fifth aftercare move that will have her talking to all of her friends is the sensory reset. It's a little bit of a kinky twist if you will Light a candle, brush her hair, massage her scalp or spritz her favorite scent Do them all together. You're grounding her senses and helping her come down from high with care. It's intimate as fuck and it makes the whole experience feel ceremonial.

Speaker 1: 14:11

These moves aren't about perfection. They're about presence, because when you show her that sex isn't just something you do and that it's something you care for, you become unforgettable. So this week I want you to be unforgettable after sex, and that means you touch her like you're still inside her. You praise her like you're still inside her. You praise her like she's a goddess. You check in like a man who cares about her climax not just yours and you tease the next round, not with pressure, but with presence. That's how you become the lover she bakes for, not because of what you did during sex, but because of what you did after.

Speaker 1: 14:49

Now, if you have any questions about aftercare and how to do aftercare like a sexual master, you know what to do. You can drop a comment in the comment section below this episode on YouTube. If you're listening right now, head over to at TalkSexWithAnette on YouTube and send me your comment or question. You can email me at Annette at TalkSexWithAnnettecom If you are looking for a wing woman, a cheerleader, if you will, or someone to just help guide you on your own intimacy, sex or relationship path. My intimacy and sex coaching books are open and I would love to work with you Now. You can find out more about that by going to my website at TalkSexWithAnnette, and you can also just reach out to me at Annette at TalkSexWithAnnettecom and we will get started. Thank you for joining me today. This is Talk Sex With Annette, where desire meets disruption. Now go make your afterglow legendary today. Cheers, I'll see you in the locker room Ring loop.