How to F*ck Slower — and Leave Them Craving You for Days

 Most people think "slow sex" means sweet, romantic, or boring. Wrong. When you master slow sex the right way — the savage, dominant, craving-inducing way — you don't just turn someone on, you burn yourself into their memory. In this episode, I’m breaking down the science behind why fast sex short-circuits orgasmic satisfaction, and how slowing your movements, stacking sensations, and taking full control can leave your partner begging, shaking, and obsessed. Plus, I’ll teach you 5 real-world, research-backed techniques you can use tonight to make someone crave you for days. If you’re ready to turn slow into savage, let’s go. 

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Chapters

• 1:28 Masturbation Monday Introduction
• 1:56 Why Slow Sex Works Better
• 3:09 Five Slow Sex Techniques
• 6:49 Slow Sex Isn't Weak
• 12:39 Coaching Services and Contact Info
• 13:50 Closing Remarks

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:44

Do the sex. Welcome to Masturbation Monday with me, annette Benedetti, your host for Locker Room Talk and Chats. This is your invitation to join me for coffee in bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental, physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams. Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure, better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life. Today's Talk Sex with Annette topic is how to fuck slower and leave them craving you for days. To fuck slower and leave them craving you for days. Let me ask you something when was the last time you fucked someone so slow that they actually begged you to move faster? Not because you were teasing, not because you were holding back, but because every movement, every breath, every kiss had them losing their mind. If you don't know, or if you think slow sex sounds like some boring, sweet, romantic thing, you're about to find out why slowing down is the most savage, dominant orgasmic move you're not using nearly enough, and I'm not just talking from experience here. Research shows that slowing sex down can make it better for both partners. Women experience stronger orgasms when arousal is extended over time, and studies from the Journal of Sex Research confirm this. Men report longer-lasting erections and more powerful orgasms. When arousal builds slowly and when you slow your movements, oxytocin the pleasure and bonding hormone spikes, making your partner feel more connected, more aroused and more obsessed with you. Today I'm breaking down why slow sex works and giving you five no BS moves you can use tonight to make someone crave you like they've never craved anyone before. This isn't about being gentle. This is about taking control, and after tonight you will never think about sex the same way again. But before we dive in, I want to remind you that I am dropping my sex and intimacy how-tos over on my OnlyFans page. There you're going to find how-tos, demonstrations and audio-guided self-pleasure meditations, along with lots of other information to help you start having better sex and intimacy tonight. So check it out. My handle is at TalkSexWithAnette and of course, you can find links to everywhere you want to find me or need to get a hold of me in the description of this episode. So scroll down to the notes below and start clicking away.

Speaker 1: 3:42

Now let's get ready to dive in and talk about slow sex Cheers. So here's why fast sex is failing you. Here's the deal. Most people rush through sex without even realizing it. But according to a 2021 study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, faster intercourse is associated with decreased orgasm satisfaction in women. Meaning fast thrusting doesn't just shorten the experience, it literally short-circuits the full orgasm potential.

Speaker 1: 4:17

Fast movement causes nerve fatigue. Research from the Kinsey Institute shows that excessive friction overstimulates the clitoral and penile nerve endings, leading to numbing out instead of intensifying sensation. Slowing down, on the other hand, keeps nerves highly sensitive, extends erotic focus and allows for deeper psychological arousal. And that's just the surface. When you go slow, your body is seeing breath and heartbeat, triggering a release in oxytocin. This has been shown in multiple studies. Now this deepens emotional connection and enhances sexual satisfaction.

Speaker 1: 5:01

Fast feels good, but slow well, it builds a sexy addiction. This is how slow sex triggers craving, both neurological and emotional. When you slow everything down your hips, your mouth, your hands you're hacking your partner's brain. Neurologically, slow stimulation activates anticipation circuits in the brain, not just the reward center. Studies on sexual anticipation in the Journal of Neuroscience show it lights up more pleasure centers than orgasm itself. Anticipation equals craving, craving equals obsession. When you stretch out the buildup, you're creating a cocktail of dopamine and oxytocin that leaves them drunk on wanting more. Slow sex is a mind game and it's one most people lose because they rush. So here are five slow sex techniques that you need to have in your sex toolkit starting tonight.

Speaker 1: 6:04

Number one is the hover, and it's used for building erotic tension. Instead of rushing straight into her body, I want you to practice hovering. Hover your mouth, your hand, your hips just above her skin. Let your breath brush her. Let the heat of your body tease her nerves without touching. Here's why it works. The skin has C-tactile fibers, specialized nerve endings that respond to late teasing stimulation. These fibers aren't activated by rough fibers aren't activated by rough, fast touch. They are activated by slow, barely there contact. When you hover, her body becomes hypersensitive, so her brain anticipates touch so strongly that when you finally make contact it's electric. The longer you hover without touching, the deeper you wire her brain into craving you.

Speaker 1: 7:04

The second slow sex technique is called the grind, not the thrust, and it's used for maximizing sensory pressure. Most men are conditioned to think thrusting harder and faster equals better sex. But if you actually want her to orgasm, grind, press your hips into hers and make very small, deliberate grinding circles. Melt into her, don't jackhammer why. Only about 18% of women reliably orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. Clitoral stimulation, external and internal, is the key for most women to reach climax. Grinding gives constant rhythmic pressure across the clitoris, labia, g-spot and pelvic floor all at once. You're not moving in and out, you are drenching her in sensation she can't escape from.

Speaker 1: 8:01

The third slow sex technique that will make her crave more is called the stillness trick, and it's used for neurological overload. The moment you slide inside of her, stop, hold yourself there and breathe. Feel her muscles flutter around you. Let her body ache for you to move. Here's why this is devastatingly effective. Studies on sexual tension show that delayed gratification activates the brain's pleasure anticipation circuits, including dopamine-rich areas like the nucleus accumbens. Keeping still inside of her increases internal pressure against the vaginal walls, stimulating more nerve endings without overstimulating them into numbness. Stillness isn't passive, stillness is dominance. Stillness is a good kind of torture that builds worship.

Speaker 1: 8:59

The fourth slow sex technique that will keep her coming back for more is called sensation stacking, and it is used for overwhelming the pleasure centers. Slow sex isn't just slowing your hips down, it's overwhelming her senses at a pace she can barely handle. Kiss her lips, brush your fingers along her inner thigh, circle your thumb on her nipple, all at the same time. Science shows that when multiple senses are activated simultaneously, the brain's sensory processing hubs, like the insular cortex, go into pleasure overload, amplifying emotional and physical reactions. Stack touches, stack sounds, stack breaths make her body so flooded with stimulation that she forgets where one sensation ends and the next begins.

Speaker 1: 9:54

And the fifth slow sex technique that will drive her absolutely wild is the verbal edge. This is slow sex, dirty talk with psychological domination. When you slow down your sex, your words become your next most effective tool. Dirty talk during slow sex should feel like a low seductive current running right under her skin. Use phrases like stay still, I want to feel you fall apart around me, or I'm not going to move until you beg. Or show me what a good girl you can be and say please.

Speaker 1: 10:36

So why does this work? Well, according to several studies that were published in the Journal of Sex Research, psychological dominance, control and delayed reward significantly enhances sexual arousal, especially for women. When you talk slowly, commandingly, while denying her immediate gratification, her arousal doesn't just simmer, it boils. Your voice becomes a second set of hands, and every word stretches her orgasm even further out of her control. So there you go.

Speaker 1: 11:09

Those are five slow sex techniques you can start using tonight that are going to revolutionize the kind of sex that you're having and improve your intimate connection with your partner. So tonight I dare you go slower than you think you should Hover, grind, stack sensations, talk slower, breathe slower. Slow is not weak. Slow is not boring. Slow is not weak. Slow is not boring. Slow is dangerous. Slow sucks is what makes body crave, souls bond and orgasms break. You Master this and they will never, ever forget. You Give it a try and let me know how it goes.

Speaker 1: 11:55

And if you are looking for a cheerleader, a coach, a sidekick in your own intimate journey, whether it is with a partner or with yourself, my books are open and I'm currently still accepting new sex and intimacy coaching clients. So if you would like to work with me, just head over to my website, talksexwithanettecom, and check out my offerings, or you can email me at Annette at TalkSexWithAnettecom, and I will get back to you. You can also scroll down to the notes below and leave a comment under this video. If you are on my YouTube channel, which is at TalkSexWithAnette, you can also send me a voice note on my speak pipe, and again, it is linked below. And don't forget to sign up for my e-newsletter or check out my sub stack at TalkSexWithANet, where I'm sitting at advice like this every week and hooking you up with some of my best intimacy discounts on products that I love and use too well. Enjoy a very orgasmic life, so make sure to sign up for that, and until next time, I will see y'all in the locker room. Cheers.