14+Sexy Power Moves Women Can Use to Dominate Him in Bed

 Want to turn him into putty in your hands—without saying a word? In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’m sharing 14+ playful power moves that will have your man gasping, grinding, and flat-out begging for more. This isn’t about leather whips and dungeon gear (unless you're into that). It’s about seductive control—grip strength, pu$$y pulses, whispered commands, and little things you can do with your voice, your eyes, even your silence—that flip the switch in his brain from “I’ve got this” to “Take me, I’m yours.” Inspired by a hot listener email from Kelly, this episode is packed with step-by-step instructions for subtle domination, starting with peni$ play (because that’s what Kelly asked for)—and ending with next-level power moves that will make you unforgettable. 

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Chapters

• 1:28 Introduction to Talk Sex with Annette
• 2:00 Power Moves with a Penis
• 5:05 Erotic Domination Beyond the Dick
• 9:18 Next-Level Escalation Techniques
• 12:26 Closing Thoughts and Contact Info

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:44

Do the sex. Welcome to Masturbation Monday with me, annette Benedetti, your host for Locker Room Talk and Chats. This is your invitation to join me for coffee in bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental, physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams. Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure, better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life. Welcome back to Talk Sex with Annette, where we turn good and mess sex into unforgettable sex. Today we're diving into a sexy ass. Listener request from Kelly. Hey Kelly, thanks for the inspiration. We're talking about playful power moves you can use to erotically dominate your man. Let's be real Taking control in the bedroom isn't about doming him like a drill sergeant. It's about confidence, subtle seduction and erotic intelligence. Today I'm going to be giving you playful power moves that will have him gasping, gripping the sheets and handing over the reins with a smile. These aren't just fun. They're hot and, when done right, he'll remember the way you touched him forever. But before we dive in, I want to remind you that I'm on OnlyFans, where I just dropped a how-to demonstration on how to use the Womanizer blend. But that's not all. That's there. There are more how-tos there. There are audio-guided erotic self-pleasure meditations and tons of content that's designed to make sure your intimate life only gets better. You can also find me over on Substack doing the same, dropping lots of great content you don't want to miss, and you can find me in either place under my handle at TalkSexWithAnEye. You can also scroll down and you will find all the links you need to find me wherever you want to find me there. Now let's make you a soft dom goddess in the sheets.

Speaker 1: 2:52

This one's for you, kelly Cheers. Here's part one. We are going to start with power moves with a penis. Yes, we're starting there because that's what Kelly asked for. Number one is the pressure play hand job. Start slow and soft. Lube up, of course, because we're good partners. Use a light grip, like you're just getting to know it. Now here's the game With every stroke, very slowly, increase your grip, inch it up until he gasps or moans or says that's too much or drops a safe word. Then back off slightly, tease that edge, watch him squirm. Bonus use your other hand to cup and massage his balls or lightly press the area just behind them, the perineum, for that added pressure. Why it works. This plays with his nervous system. Light strokes build anticipation and the slow squeeze floods his body with intensity. It trains him to focus on every inch of sensation. The edge play. That's how you make him ache for you.

Speaker 1: 3:56

The next one is the finger curl submission. This one's a sneaky power play. Place your hand over the head of his penis like a dome, fingers curling over, slowly, pull downward, gently stretching the skin as you go. It's not about pain, it's about control. That slow tug says I've got you. Pair it with eye contact and a raised eyebrow like what are you going to do about it? Here's why it works. This move isn't overtly sexual, it's dominant. That controlled, deliberate pressure tells his body to submit. It creates a subtle ache and puts you in command without saying a word.

Speaker 1: 4:34

The next one is one of my favorites. It's called the cowgirl. Grip and grind when you're on top, take full control of depth, speed and angle. But here's the power move. Squeeze your vaginal muscles mid-thrust. Move. Squeeze your vaginal muscles mid-thrust, then release. Then do it again Even better. Pause while you're deep and just pulse. He will not survive this one. Here's why it works. That rhythmic squeeze turns your body into a stroking machine Tight, responsive and impossible to ignore. The internal pulsing creates deep, involuntary pleasure that no hand or mouth can match. This is a form of milking, and it's hot.

Speaker 1: 5:16

Moving on to the pussy, tease when he's not even inside. You Lay him down, straddle him, but keep his penis just barely against your vaginal opening. This is going to feel great for you. Rub yourself against him without letting him inside Tease circle. Dip just the head in and pull away. Whisper, not yet Watch his mind unravel. Here's why it works. Yes, it's a reverse form of just the tip. You're weaponizing anticipation. This move activates every nerve in his body. With denial, his brain starts banging long before his mouth. Does that frustration Deliciously erotic.

Speaker 1: 5:58

Now for part two erotic domination that goes beyond his dick. We're going to start with eye contact and verbal tease. A strong gaze is underrated. Lock eyes while you're touching him, or even just while he's undressing. Don't look away. Then speak your desires slowly. You've been thinking about me all day, haven't you? Or I haven't decided if you've earned it yet. Confidence is everything, even if you're shaking inside. Say it like you mean it. Here's why it works. Eye contact creates psychological intimacy and arousal. Add verbal dominance and you've hijacked his fantasy life. You're not just in the room, you're in his head.

Speaker 1: 6:39

Now let's go over the slow undress command. It's a power. Move his head. Now let's go over the slow undress command. It's a power move. Don't undress yourself. Make him do the work, but give him rules. Take off my shirt, but only my shirt. Or unzip me, please, but don't touch yet.

Speaker 1: 6:54

Build tension with boundaries. Men crave structure, especially if it ends with release. Here's why it works. This flips the script. He's used to being in control, now he's the one following your lead. Creating roles builds erotic tension and gives you the upper hand, literally and figuratively.

Speaker 1: 7:14

The next one is the lap ride without permission. Sit on his lap, clothes on, or maybe just panties and some lingerie. Grind slowly, move your hips like you're already fucking, but when he reaches for you, stop his hands and say not yet. That restraint, it's hot for both of you. Here's why it works. Simulated sex without full contact creates overwhelming tension. Stopping him mid-movement signals that you decide when pleasure escalates. That moment of restraint, it's pure fire. The next one is whisper and earplay domination. Take control with your voice. Whisper dirty instructions into his ear while grazing your teeth against his earlobe Example while grazing your teeth against his earlobe Example you're not allowed to come until I say, do you understand? Even if you let him come five minutes later, that psychological dominance will leave a deep erotic imprint. Here's why it works. The ears are one of the most underrated erogenous sounds. Combine whispering, teasing and a low growl with authority and you create mental submission that hits harder than any physical act.

Speaker 1: 8:30

Here's a bonus non-sexual power move that builds heat. It's the confident silence At dinner or during conversation. Just lean back, make eye contact and don't rush to fill the silence. Let him feel you in the room. Your stillness becomes its own kind of power. Here's why it works. Silence makes space for desire. When you stop performing or over-explaining, overperforming or over explaining, he has to lean in, to feel you, that quiet confidence. It lingers in his mind long after the moment is over. And then there's the slow kiss, withdrawal, mid-kiss. Pull away before he's ready, lick his bottom lip and then pause. Let him chase your. That kind of control is magnetic. And and here's why it works Withholding pleasure, mid-flow builds hunger. The retreat creates craving. His lips start longing for more before he even realizes he's hooked.

Speaker 1: 9:34

Now for part three. We're going to take it to the next level. This is escalation for the brave. Option one use restraints, try some ties under the bed, cuffs or even just your hands on his wrists. Start by pinning him down and saying You're mine tonight If he's into it. Keep him there and explore his body while he can't touch you back. Here's why it works. Restraints flip the power viscerally. Even light bondage awakens vulnerability and increases sensation. He's not just submitting, he's feeling everything more. Option two and this one shouldn't surprise you coming from me Add toys to your takeover.

Speaker 1: 10:18

Use a cock ring to heighten his sensitivity while you tease or throw in some sensation play, use a vibe on him. This is tons of fun, especially when he's restrained. And here's why it works. Toys aren't just props, they are power tools. The right toy pushes him beyond his usual orgasm pattern and reminds him that you're in control of the pleasure dial.

Speaker 1: 10:42

Option three for dialing up your domination is try erotic role play. You're the intern, I'm the boss, you broke the rules and I'm here to punish you. This doesn't need props or costumes, just tone, confidence and a little backstory. Here's why it works. Roleplay creates psychological distance, which means freedom. He gets to explore submission without ego interference and you get to embody your full erotic range.

Speaker 1: 11:13

Option four is erotic denial. Edge him for 20 minutes without letting him come. Tell him I want you to beg, not with words, with your body. Watch how quickly he gives in to your game. Here's why it works. Denial builds anticipation to the point of desperation. Holding him on the edge taps into primal arousal and when you finally get permission, it's next level release. Okay, let's wrap it up. He wants you in charge. Remember, this kind of playful dominance doesn't diminish his masculinity, it enhances it. It lets him feel safe enough to surrender. And when a man surrenders to your pleasure game, you both win and get to enjoy next-level connection, eroticism and orgasms.

Speaker 1: 12:04

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