Say THIS & She’s WET in Seconds! (Most Men Have No Clue)

 Most men think turning a woman on is all about physical touch—but what if I told you that the right words could make her crave you, fantasize about you, and get wet just from hearing your voice? In this episode, we’re diving into the science of verbal arousal, breaking down exactly what to say, how to say it, and the biggest mistakes men make that kill the mood. If you’ve ever wondered why some guys have women hanging onto their every word while others get ignored, this is the episode you can’t afford to miss. 

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Chapters

• 0:00 Introduction to Verbal Seduction
• 11:14 The Five
• 25:44 Common Mistakes and Hot Tips for Success

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:44

do the sex. Welcome to Masturbation Monday with me, annette Benedetti, your host for Locker Room Talk and Chats. This is your invitation to join me for coffee in bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental, physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams. Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure, better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life. Today's podcast episode is how to make her wet with words. Most men think that turning a woman on is all about touch, but what if I told you that you could make her wet, turned on and get her to crave you with words alone? It sounds like magic, right? Well, it's not science and by the end of this episode you are going to know exactly how to do it. But before we dive in, I want to remind you that I'm on OnlyFans, where I am sharing my intimacy, how-tos demonstrations and audio-guided self-pleasure meditations. You can find me there by my handle at TalkSexWithANet. I'm also over on Substack doing a lot of the same, and my handle there is at TalkSexWithANet. Of course, you can scroll down to the description of this video and you're going to find all the links you need to find me everywhere there. And, of course, if you are looking for someone to be your wing woman, your cheerleader in your own intimate journey, self-pleasure, discovery journey, my books are open and I would love to be your sex and intimacy coach. You can find out more about that at TalkSexWithAnettecom. You can also email me at Annette at TalkSexWithAnettecom.

Speaker 1: 2:39

All right, let's dive in. So here's what you're going to learn in this episode today. First, you're going to learn the psychology behind why words arouse women and why so many men get it wrong. You're also going to learn a five-step framework to making her body respond instinctively to your voice. Then I'm going to go over common mistakes that men make that kill the mood when they're trying to talk dirty instead of turning her on, and I'm going to give you word for word scripts that you can use and also what absolutely not to do. By the time you finish listening, you're going to have the power to turn her on anytime, anywhere, without even touching her.

Speaker 1: 3:24

Before we dive into techniques, let's break down the why Women's brains are wired for arousal through imagination. Studies show that women's arousal is significantly tied to mental stimulation, not just physical. A 2009 study published by the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that women's brains light up in response to anticipation and narrative-driven fantasies, meaning words have a direct impact on their sexual response. In addition, dopamine and oxytocin are the arousal chemicals, and when you say the right thing, you trigger the release of both oxytocin and dopamine. Now, dopamine is the pleasure chemical and oxytocin is the bonding chemical. This release creates both sexual arousal and deeper emotional connection, making her crave more. Finally, words activate the prefrontal cortex. This is the part of the brain that processes imagination and emotions. A woman's prefrontal cortex plays a key role in her sexual arousal. When you use vivid, sensory-driven language, you activate this part of her brain, turning her on before you've even touched her. The takeaway here is, if you master verbal seduction, you are going to control her arousal at a deeper level than physical touch alone.

Speaker 1: 4:54

Now let's go over the biggest mistakes that men make when they are trying to talk dirty. The biggest mistake that men make is thinking that dirty talk is all about being just explicit. A bad approach that is often used is jumping straight into graphic, porn style language before she's even aroused. This can make her shut down right away. An example of this is saying something like I want to fuck you right now. It's aggressive and there is absolutely no buildup. Another approach to avoid is overusing the same generic compliments. For example, you're so sexy, you're so hot. Yes, they're flattering, but they're boring, forgettable and overused. It sounds like something you could just say to any girl.

Speaker 1: 5:42

So what's the right approach? Build arousal through anticipation, emotional engagement and sensory rich detail. An example of something like this is I can't stop thinking about the way your body feels under my hands or the way your breath hitches when I kiss you. Why does this work? It's specific and it paints a picture that activates her imagination. All right, let's jump into the five-step framework that's going to make her wet with words. Step one set the tone with your voice. A deep, slow, confident voice is 10 times more effective than just words alone. Research from the University of Aberdeen found that women are naturally more attracted to lower pitched, slow, paced voices. They associate it with dominance and sensuality. Finally, use pauses. So an example is, instead of saying you're so sexy in a low, slow voice, say do you have any idea how hard it is to not touch you right now? That's going to work far better, I promise.

Speaker 1: 6:55

Step two is paint a picture in her mind. Women are turned on by mental imagery Instead of just saying what you want. Imagery Instead of just saying what you want. Describe how it feels. Use sensory details. Touch sight, sound, breath and speak in fragments. Let her mind fill in the gaps. An example is something like I can already picture the way your lips part when I lean in to kiss you, the way your breath hitches when I trace my fingers down your stomach inch by inch. Why does this work? The mind can't tell the difference between imagination and reality. So when you describe sensations, she feels them.

Speaker 1: 7:38

Step three make it about her, not just about what you want. Women love feeling desired. Instead of saying what you want, tell her what it is about her that drives you crazy. Be specific. Mention something that's unique to her. An example of this is something like the way you bite your lip when you're turned on. That kills me. Or something like that sound you make when I tease you. I've just got to hear it right now. What not to do? We've already gone over it. Avoid the generic, surface level compliments like you're so hot, it's just too vague. And don't just talk about what you want to do. Talk about how she makes you feel and why.

Speaker 1: 8:22

Step four tease with anticipation. Anticipation builds desire, make her wait for it. So how do you do this? Use unfinished sentences that leave her hanging, or ask questions that make her mind race. An example of this is something as simple as if I were there right now, do you know what I'd do to you? Why does it work? Delayed gratification intensifies arousal.

Speaker 1: 8:49

And finally, step five, get her to verbalize her arousal. When a woman says how turned on she is, it heightens her desire. So how do we get her to do this? Ask her open-ended, suggestive questions and encourage her to describe what she's feeling. Some examples of this are tell me how wet you are right now. Or if I told you not to touch yourself while we were talking, would you listen? So why does this work? Speaking her arousal out loud reinforces it in her mind, amplifying the desire. Okay, so there's the five-step framework, but here's the hot tip that's really going to seal the deal the aftershock. Most men stop after the moment, but the best seducers keep the desire alive. So send a follow-up text, something like I can still hear the way you gasped when I said that to you or when I did that to you. Another suggestion use voice memos instead of text for that extra intimate touch. So now you know the power of words and the science behind it. You've got a five-step framework, so use words wisely, make her ache for you, make her crave you. People who master this don't just make women crave them, they make them obsessed with them.

Speaker 1: 10:17

You want to take this even further Like and subscribe to my channel, because I'll be dropping episodes just like this one every week. And if you are looking for a wing woman, for someone to be your cheerleader and help you in your own intimacy journey, in your journey trying to find your next great love, in your journey just trying to have a better intimate and sex life, my books are open. You can find out more about that at talksexwithanettecom. I would love to be there for you. If you have any questions or comments, drop them in the comment section below this video. If you're on my YouTube channel at talksexwithanette, or if you are one of my wonderful listeners, just send me an email at Annette at TalkSexWithAnnettecom. Until next time, I'll see y'all in the locker room. Cheers.