Make Her CRAVE Penetration—5 Powerful Science-Backed Tricks That Work Instantly

 In this episode, we dive deep into what it truly takes to make penetration pleasurable—not just tolerable, not just “fine,” but deeply, mind-blowingly good. From physical preparation to the power of relaxation, arousal, and full-body engagement, we explore the key elements that turn penetration into an experience of pure pleasure. Whether you're looking to enhance your own enjoyment or better understand how to please a partner, this conversation unpacks the techniques, mindset shifts, and erotic intelligence needed to unlock deeper, more satisfying penetration. 

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Chapters

• 0:00 Exploring Penetrative Pleasure in Sex
• 5:41 Enhancing Penetrative Pleasure for Her
• 12:44 Embracing Pleasure and Connection

Transcript

Speaker 1: 1:01

do the sex. Welcome to Masturbation Monday with me, annette Benedetti, your host for Locker Room Talk and Chats. This is your invitation to join me for coffee in bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental, physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams. Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure, better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life. Today we're diving into a topic that is often misunderstood but so important to pleasure and intimacy. It is how to help women not just tolerate penetration but find deep, satisfying pleasure out of it and even crave it in their sex life. But before we dive in, I want to remind you that I have an OF page where I am posting my erotic how-to demonstrations and tips, along with audio-guided self-pleasure meditations that are going to help you discover your own pleasure better. Along with all of that, over there, I share erotic readings and so much more. You can find me there at my handle, where you can find me almost everywhere, which is at TalkSexWithAnette. You can find me there at my handle, where you can find me almost everywhere, which is at TalkSexWithAnette. You can also find me on Substack, where I am doing a lot of writing, diving into some how-tos, giving more information, and it's a free subscription over there, and you can find me there again at TalkSexWithAnette. So head over there and join me if you are looking to improve your sex life. Go on your own self-pleasure journey. Expand your relationship with pleasure, whether alone or with a partner. I'd love to see you there. All right, let's dive in to our topic.

Speaker 1: 3:01

For years, the primary focus around women's pleasure has been the external clitoris and the stimulation of the external clitoris, and for good reason. 18 to 25% of women claim that they cannot orgasm at all or consistently from penetrative sex. 75% of women say they need external clitoral stimulation to climax, and many, many women believe that orgasm and pleasure from penetration alone is not possible, and this leads to a lot of frustration, not only for women, but for women and their partners in partnered sex. Here's the thing Penetrative pleasure is possible and we need to start talking about it. Instead of reinforcing the idea that women are simply built for external stimulation and pleasure, we need to change our approach. We need to start talking about looking at penetration, understanding it better and learning how to enhance penetrative pleasure. What if women could not only achieve penetrative pleasure, but they could orgasm from it. I'm here to tell you that that's not a myth, that's a reality. And today we are going to be exploring penetrative pleasure and how to achieve it with your partner or how to achieve it yourself, whether you are in a long-term relationship or you have just started a new relationship with someone and you're going to get intimate.

Speaker 1: 4:34

I have five science-backed strategies for exploring, discovering and enjoying penetrative pleasure, and I can tell you enjoying penetrative pleasure. And I can tell you I'm not grabbing these just from the research papers that I've read, the research I've done on studies. I have put these strategies into practice myself and with my clients, and I have seen people achieve success over and over again and over again and not just learn to enjoy penetrative pleasure, but crave it in their sex life as an essential part of their sex life, leading to more satisfaction for both partners in bed. So let's dive into these five tricks, tips, strategies for exploring and discovering and growing the penetrative pleasure in your sex life. Get ready to crave more, deeper and sometimes even harder Cheers.

Speaker 1: 5:41

My first tip for enjoying more penetrative intimacy is just the tip, a psychological reframe. Let's start with something counterintuitive, just the tip, and no, I'm not talking about teasing. New research shows that when penetrative sex is framed as an option rather than an expectation, women experience less performance, anxiety and more arousal. A 2023 study found that removing the pressure to go all in actually heightens arousal and relaxation. So instead of pushing for deep penetration right off the bat, take your time. Try some external teasing, then push in an inch and back out, while focusing on other pleasure points. That could be her inner thighs. It could be the clitoris. This builds anticipation and increases natural lubrication. Pro tip try whispering in her ear that you want to go deeper, but that you're savoring the moment. It flips the dynamic, making her want more instead of feeling like she has to accommodate for penetration.

Speaker 1: 6:48

Tip number two for helping a woman discover penetrative pleasure is exploring the A-spot connection. This is one of the most overlooked erogenous zones and it is a powerful one. You've heard of the G-spot, but have you heard of the A-spot? If not, I have a video tutorial on it. You're going to want to go back and check that out. The A-spot is one of the most overlooked erogenous zones in the vaginal canal and it's located near the cervix. Stimulating this erogenous zone can lead to deep orgasmic pleasure, sometimes even more intense than clitoral stimulation. A recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that women who experience A-spot pleasure and orgasms report feeling more sexually satisfied than their peers who are only experiencing clitoral orgasms.

Speaker 1: 7:45

The key Long, deep strokes or a curved toy that reaches the anterior fornix. But don't just dive into it. Slowly, warm up and build up to it. Remember just the tip we're going to want to start there. Before we start trying to discover that A spot Pro tip, try some deep breathing exercises together while you to discover that A spot Pro tip. Try some deep breathing exercises together while you're exploring the A spot. When she inhales, push in deeper slightly. When she exhales, withdraw just a little bit. This helps her feel the whole sensation and relax into it rather than tensing against it.

Speaker 1: 8:23

My third tip for exploring penetrative pleasure is the slow withdrawal technique. Most people focus on the thrust, but what about the pullback? Now? Research shows that the way you exit the body is just as important as how you enter the body. A study on neural sensitivity found that the vaginal walls actually have a heightened response to slow, deliberate withdrawal, as it activates deep, sensitive nerve endings that activate arousal. Instead of quick, repetitive thrusts. Try a method where you withdraw slowly and almost completely, hovering there for just a second before pushing back in at an angle. This prevents overstimulation and creates a wave-like motion that builds deeper desire. Pro tip pair this with deep eye contact. Slow movement combined with a sensual gaze builds a sense of intimacy and closeness and increases a psychological craving for more.

Speaker 1: 9:24

My fourth tip for building penetrative pleasure is sensory expansion beyond penetration. Here's something that's overlooked. How a woman experiences penetration is directly linked to how engaged her other senses are. A 2022 study in sexual neuroscience found that women who engaged multiple senses during intimacy, such as sight, taste, scent and sound, experienced stronger vaginal contractions. How do you use this? Include elements like essential oils, now. This could be during a massage. It could be a candle that scents the room. You can include audio erotica Now. It could be music that's on or something you're listening to, or it could be the way you moan in her ear, giving her affirmations as you enter her. Another cool idea is tactile contrast, so you can cool her skin with ice cube right before penetration, or use warming oil to heat things up. Pro tip try blindfolding her and restraining her with silk scarves, not for control, but when you take away one sense, which is the sense of sight. It brings her into her body. So her focus is on all of the other physical sensations that are taking place.

Speaker 1: 10:45

And my fifth and final tip for enhancing penetrative pleasure is the post-sex integration trick. This one is a game changer and it is backed by some fascinating psychology. Most people focus on foreplay, but what happens after sex directly affects if she's going to want sex again. The brain links past experiences with future desire, which means what happens in aftercare is going to dictate her desire for penetration in the future. A study from the Kinsey Institute found that couples that engage in at least 15 minutes of aftercare and that could be cuddling it could be even just talking about the sex they just had report higher sexual satisfaction and more sex. Pro tip and this is a good one use an anchor phrase right after sex. Whisper something like I love the way your body responds to me or I can't wait to feel this again. Her brain will connect penetration with pleasure and emotional connection, making her eager for future encounters. So there you go. Those are my five tips for increasing penetrative pleasure for her. They are science-backed, I've given them a whirl myself and I'm here to tell you, if you do them consistently, she is going to enjoy penetration even more and even crave it. I know I do.

Speaker 1: 12:09

Now, if you have any questions or comments, you know you can drop them below this video. If you're watching me on YouTube at at TalkSexWithAnnette, you can email me at Annette at TalkSexWithAnnettecom. If you are looking for more help in your own sex life, whether that's with a partner or in your own personal pleasure journey, my intimacy and sex coaching books are open. You can find out more about that on my website, talksexwithanettecom. You can also email me. Just email me and ask me and I will get you set up with some coaching.

Speaker 1: 12:44

I would love to be your wing woman. I would love to be your trusty sidekick in your journey. Feel free to send me your questions and comments, also via the speak pipe. Head down to the notes below this podcast episode. You're going to find all the links you need to find all the places you can find me and to get in touch with me. You're going to find my speak pipe down there. You're going to find my newsletter link down there, and together we are going to get ourselves to a place where we're all experiencing more pleasure in our own bodies and with our partners. So until next time, folks, I'll see you in the locker room. Cheers.