How to Keep the Pleasure Going After You’ve Come – 3 Tips for Women to Unlock Multiple Orgasms

 So you’ve hit that first orgasm—amazing! But what if I told you the fun doesn’t have to stop there? In this episode, we’re talking about how to keep the pleasure going after you’ve come, with three game-changing tips to help you tap into your body’s full orgasmic potential. Whether you’re chasing round two (or three… or four) or just want to make sex last longer, I’ve got you covered. Trust me, once you unlock this, you’ll never want to stop. 

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Chapters

• 0:00 Exploring Pleasure Beyond Clitoral Stimulation
• 6:07 Exploring Multiple Orgasms and Pleasure

Transcript

Speaker 1: 1:01

do the sex. Welcome to Masturbation Monday with me, annette Benedetti, your host for Locker Room Talk and Chats. This is your invitation to join me for coffee in bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental, physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams. Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure, better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life. Today's topic is three tips that will get you closer to having multiple O's, if you are not already having them Now. This episode is going to apply primarily to women and people with vulvas, but the three tips I'm going to share with you are also super useful for anybody, so they will help men as well. This is going to be super useful for you, whether or not your goal is to have multiple O's. It's going to be useful for anyone who wants to keep going after they've already come. If you know what I mean, these tips will help you continue to give your partner pleasure. If you are ever in a situation where you know you're having a good time and maybe you're done before she or he is, this will help you make a night full of passion, rather than your sexual encounters being those that are just, you know, a half hour long, and then you roll over and go to bed. Yeah, these tips are going to help you just keep enjoying yourself again and again, and they may get you closer to having multiple O's. But even if they don't get you to where you're having multiple O's, they're going to get you to where you can have erotic experiences that last a long time and are a whole lot of fun for both you and your partner. Now I just want to remind you. If you would like more in-depth instructions or demonstrations, you can find those over on my page or on my sub stack, where I am sharing articles and video, how to's and so much more. Scroll down to the description of this podcast episode and you are going to find links to all of the other places. You can find all of the other tutorials, audio visual and written information I'm sharing with my listeners and followers that are going to help you have a better, intimate life. Starting tonight, that includes my OnlyFans page, where I am sharing how-to demonstrations, sharing how-to demonstrations, audio guided self-pleasure meditations and so much more. Also, if you have questions you would like me to answer personally, you can go to my OnlyFans, which is at TalkSexWithAnette. I am at TalkSexWithAnette everywhere you go. That's on OF, that's on Substack, youtube and everywhere else all of my socials but if you sign up for my OnlyFans, I am offering one-on-one questions and answers from an intimacy coach there, so you can ask me a singular question and I will try and get you the answers you need to start having better sex tonight.

Speaker 1: 4:25

Okay, let's dive into my three tips for getting closer to having, or giving your partner, multiple O's Cheers. Now, the very first tip I want to share with you, if you are looking to hopefully eventually experience or give multiple O's, is this One of the first things you need to start working on in your own body or with your partner is finding ways to experience pleasure beyond whatever you are doing now. So for a lot of women, we are told to really focus on clitoral stimulation and clitoral pleasure, and that's wonderful for sure. Learning about clitoral pleasure has made it possible for more women to start having big O's, but it's super important that you don't stop there, because that is just one pleasure center that women have that can lead to orgasms. Now, if you are only focusing on the clitoris, it's going to be really, really hard to have multiple orgasms, and here's why, after you give someone or receive a clitoral orgasm, what happens for many of us is that we become too sensitive or we become a little numb in that area, and so, right after we orgasm, we don't want to be touched there anymore. It doesn't feel good anymore, it can feel painful, it can feel numb, it can just feel annoying, and so it's really important to know other areas of the body that still can bring you pleasure, that still feel good, that can still turn you on and that can still get you off.

Speaker 1: 6:08

So some of the experimentation and exploration you can do in your own private life right now, or with your partner, is exploring areas of your body that bring you pleasure and or can give you an orgasm. Now I've shared several tutorials on how to find the G spot, how to find the A spot and how to have those types of big O's, so that is going to be sort of the number one thing you need to start doing for yourself is finding these other areas, and beyond the A spot and the G spot, there's the U spot. There are a lot of places on your body that can actually bring you very close to, or give you an orgasm. Some people can have orgasms from nipple stimulation, but regardless of whether or not these areas on your body that provide pleasure for you can get you to big O, what you're really wanting to do is just find the areas on your body that get you excited, that bring you pleasure, that make you feel sexy and sensual, and get to know not only where they are but how they like to be stimulated, what kind of pleasure they bring you, so that you can share that with your partner and, of course, know it better for yourself. If you are on this journey by yourself, you will need to know more than one place on your body that can really really get you going and bring you pleasure and satisfaction.

Speaker 1: 7:34

This brings me to my second tip, which is very closely tied to my first tip, which is it's important to learn to have more than one kind of orgasm or big O. So most women learn to orgasm through clitoral stimulation. You are going to want to start to learn how to orgasm through G-spot stimulation, a-spot stimulation and blended orgasms, and that is a journey in and of itself. Again, I have already shared some tutorials on that, so you can scroll back and you can find those tutorials and I'm going to be diving into them deeper. I'm going to be sharing demonstrations, helping you really learn how to find those parts of your body that light you up and can bring you to the big O.

Speaker 1: 8:22

In your journey to have big O's, being able to experience an orgasm through more than one pleasure spot is super important. Again, we're going to go back to the fact that clitoral stimulation can become overwhelming and sort of numb you out and make it hard to get to that next orgasm. But if you have multiple arousal zones and pleasure spots in your body that can get you close to and give you orgasms, it's going to make it a lot easier for you to have multiple orgasms. Now, I'm not saying you can't have two clitoral orgasms in a row you most certainly can. I'm just saying that multiple O's are going to come a lot easier if you have different types that are accessible to you and that you know how to experience. Now, for many women this is going to be a big, long journey and overcoming some conditioning both mental, emotional and physical that we've had since. You know, we were young and became sexual beings and were indoctrinated with the idea that internal orgasms weren't something we had access to. I guarantee you you have access to that kind of pleasure and that kind of orgasm, but again, it is a process of discovery and learning how to have them.

Speaker 1: 9:54

Now we are to my third and final tip for people who want to work towards experiencing multiple O's. But this tip is also going to be great for anyone who wants to keep the fun going after they've already come. Now this applies to people of all bodies and I'm going to be talking to you about the refractory period. Now, if you don't know what the refractory period is, I'm going to tell you right now. A lot of people think it only applies to men and the male body. That is absolutely not true.

Speaker 1: 10:20

Every body can experience this after climaxing or having an orgasm, and the way I like to describe it to people is it's just an immediate drop in that turned on feeling after you've had that big, explosive release. Oftentimes you go from thinking like really dirty thoughts and being really excited to just wanting to roll over and go to sleep. Oftentimes it goes from, yeah, like being in that erotic, like fantasizing about things you never typically would state of mind, to suddenly being like I can't believe I was thinking about that. It's just a drop in eroticism. Your body is kind of coming down off of that big you know, endorphin release, oxytocin release, and what you need to do when that happens is not just stop everything. Right, this is where my first two tips are going to come into play for you. You are going to move from stimulating whatever you were stimulating to a different pleasure zone and while you may not still be super turned on and thinking all of those dirty sexy thoughts, you are going to continue to give your body pleasure. Right, you're going to continue to feel good.

Speaker 1: 11:38

Now, pleasure is not always erotic. One way to think of it is a massage. A massage is super pleasurable and a massage can go from being pleasurable to being erotic. So when you have that first big orgasm, instead of just stopping everything, shutting down, rolling over and going to bed or moving away from one another, you're just going to change it up a little and you're going to move from erotic pleasure into just pleasure, pleasure, things that feel good with one another, and you're going to sit in that really wonderful sort of loving zone of touch and stimulation and continue to give your body or your partner's body pleasure and, of course, as that pleasure sort of, stabilizes and relaxes, it will have the opportunity to rebuild right is. It will have the opportunity to rebuild right. And what you can do then is use a different pleasure zone to start building eroticism after you've had a little downtime Now. For some people this could be one minute, five minutes, 10 minutes, it could be 20 minutes there is no time clock on this but the most important thing to do is not to move completely out of that aura of eroticism, sexiness, connection.

Speaker 1: 12:57

I want you all to understand. It doesn't mean that moving to a different pleasure zone means it has to be a genital based pleasure zone, right. This could be, again, massaging your partner's back or tickling their back or their thighs or their arms or their chest, it could be the neck, it could just be holding each other close and, you know, doing some grinding movements. It could be a lot of different things. But the whole point is that you're not going to just shut down and let the body shut down. You're going to keep it stimulated, not overstimulated to where it's painful. So, yes, back off the clitoris or the G spot or penetration if it's become too much, and move to a new place.

Speaker 1: 13:42

Right Now, if you've been practicing the other steps and you already know how to give yourself different types of O's, then you can try to build towards a new type of O, right? So if your first one was a clitoral orgasm, then maybe your next one could be a blended orgasm or more G-spot oriented or A-spot oriented, having variety in your skill set and knowledge base of your own body, right? So this is on the person with a body that wants to have multiple O's. Primarily. In this case we're talking about women and people with vulvas. Knowing how to achieve different types of orgasms helps you, after the refractory period passes, to know what you want to rebuild towards Now. If your clitoris remains pretty sensitive, then you can maybe stimulate the U-spot, which is right below the urethra, is located and can be very stimulating and orgasmic, and simultaneously stimulating the G-spot orgasmic and simultaneously stimulating the G spot, and you're going to move more towards a blended O.

Speaker 1: 14:57

But this third tip is primarily about don't stop receiving or giving each other pleasure. Continue to explore each other's eroticism. Now. If one of you hasn't already come, then you can do that for yourself and for them and keep things spicy and exciting and possibly move into a secondary orgasm. I think especially for men, this is important. Oftentimes your refractory period lasts longer and you aren't able to regain an erection. It's all right. You can still stimulate your partner using your hands or toys or whatever and get her to where she wants to go. Just because you go down doesn't mean she has to be done as well.

Speaker 1: 15:44

And here a really important point is that part of receiving pleasure for a lot of people can be receiving visual stimulation as pleasure. A lot of people get pleasure from giving pleasure. If you haven't explored that, like the energetic charge you can get just from pleasuring someone else, that is a good skill set to grow in yourself as well. I talked earlier about learning how to give yourself different types of orgasms. Some people can have sort of an energetic orgasm just from giving pleasure. So for men especially I'm going to say especially here, because oftentimes after you have an initial orgasm it's really hard to get that erection so that you can continue to have sex it could be really satisfying to build that access to experiencing pleasure through the energetic exchange of giving your partner pleasure. Once you build this skill and you learn to really enjoy what that feels like, your intimacy with your partner can last and last and last and last as long as you want it to, or until you're both exhausted and you want to go to bed.

Speaker 1: 17:02

So those are my three tips. I'm going to recap them really quickly. A you need to start learning all of the different pleasure spots on your body, things that feel really good to you and bring you pleasure. Whether it's erotic or not, Almost any kind of pleasure can be connected to eroticism once you have explored them and understand them better. Number two if you are a vulva owner in particular I'm talking to women here You're going to want to learn how to have different types of orgasms. Do not stay stuck in the place of feeling like or believing you can only have clitoral orgasms. It's going to take time, it's going to take energy, but it is a journey and skill set that has the payoff, is well worth the work you're going to put into learning how to have orgasms in different ways. And then, three, you are going to want to learn how to navigate that refractory period after you have your initial orgasm and learn not to just give into it and give up, but to continue to sit in pleasure, share pleasure, exchange pleasure and then rebuild to whatever kind of big O comes next. Uh, I hope this helps. I hope this at least gets you started moving in the right direction.

Speaker 1: 18:25

If you have any questions or comments, you know what to do. You can reach out to me at Annette, at TalkSexWithAnnettecom. You can scroll down and leave me a voice note on my voice pipe below and you know all the different places you can find me Now. If you want a partner, a cheerleader, a wing woman in your pleasure journey or your intimacy journey with your partner, my books are open. I am a sex and intimacy coach. It's one of my most favorite things to do. Feel free to reach out to me. You can find out more about that at talksexwithanettecom. I'd love to hear from you and I'd love to help you have a more pleasure filled, orgasmic life. So until next time, folks, I'll see you in the locker room. Cheers.