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Her Sexual Icks. 3 Women Share What Gives Them The Ick In Bed
This episode of Locker Room Talk & Shots is a riotous throwback to our early podcasting days when we came in hot and left a hilarious mess! Joined by my friends Andi, Sloan, and Carrie, we pop champagne and dive into the juicy topic of women's ultimate sexual "icks." From slobbery spit to unsolicited dirty talk, we’re breaking down the things that make us cringe, roll our eyes, or bolt from the bedroom—because, trust us, not everything flies when it comes to intimacy. With plenty of unfiltered laughs, personal stories, and a few surprising revelations, we explore how preferences, boundaries, and the right context can make or break the mood. Buckle up—it’s a wild ride of sass, honesty, and more than a few raised glasses! Cheers! 🥂
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Do the sex Think fun, honest and feminist as fuck, and always with the goal of fighting the patriarchy. One female orgasm at a time. Welcome to the locker room. Today's locker room talking jets topic is sexual icks from a woman's perspective, a vulva owners, a pussy owners perspectives. So today I'm here with my two very beloved friends to discuss with you sexual icks that women have.
Speaker 1:But before we dive into our sexual ics, which come up with wonderful stories, I want to remind you that I launched a spicy site, a spicy profile if you will, for you on the O and the F, only man's. And I did that because I was getting censored on the tube and other places for my how-to videos on how to improve your sex life. But I thought, as long as we're there, like, let's be there, right? So along with my how to videos, you are going to find erotic readings, masturbation meditations and confessions. I needed a place to. You know, confess, and you know I'm an ex Catholic schoolgirl, so lots of fun stuff going on over there, and you can find me there at the handle at TalkSexWithAnnette. Now, if you are not ready for super spicy Benedetti energy, that's all right, because I'm also posting those how-to videos that are designed to really help you improve your sex life, give and receive pleasure better on a free, a free, non-spicy spice site. The handle for that is Annette Talks Sex. You see what I did? I switched things up there. You don't have to subscribe, meaning you don't have to pay the other, the other OF site you do and you're going to get all that information.
Speaker 1:But for today, I am here with my good friend, andy beautiful friend Andy and my good friend Sloan, who also has a spicy page, and actually she cameos. She cameos on my site in videos that are tutorial videos, meaning we are demonstrating some really amazing techniques to make you come. Now, sloan. You can find her on the O and the F at the period Sloan S-L-O-A-N-E period experience. She will be tagged in all my videos and you will be getting to know her well soon if you are watching those. So today I'm here with my good friend Andy, myself and Salone to talk about our sexual icks, things that happen during sex. That are icks that make our clit literally shrivel up and run up inside of us and say not today. So I want to remind you that, andy, what is a podcast episode? You've already been here. They should know you if they've watched everything recently. Do you remember the last episode you were on, I think, dating?
Speaker 3:When we went over. Well, we talked about flirting, flirting flirting.
Speaker 1:How to flirt andy. If you want to find out how to flirt with women like me and andy and others, then you're gonna go look for the flirting. Just scroll back, you're gonna find us.
Speaker 3:She was on that and we had talked about things that in bed are just like bad, like that hurt us yes painful things men do in bed.
Speaker 1:People with penises do yes, so you'll find her there. Sloan, this is her first time uh coming on the podcast. She is partially anonymous and Is she coming already?
Speaker 1:She's partially anonymous, but if you go to my OnlyFans page, you'll get to know a very important part of her. So she's off camera today because that's how it works and the part that can go on camera. I don't have the accommodations for it. So she is going to talk to us and share her sexual ics. So these are things that happen when women are in bed, and I think we're going to focus on penis owners, but it could really apply to anybody. Today that make us go. Oh, like it's really gross. It's the ick. Yes, today I'm going to just warn you because this is not our first we are drinking champagne the three of us, because we've got three women together. We've definitely had one or two glasses ahead of time. So this episode is a throwback to my original days where we came in hot and left a mess.
Speaker 1:So that is go back to episode one and you'll know what I'm talking about. But hey, ladies, let's inform the masses about what makes us go and not come back for seconds in bed. Cheers, so diving right in. I'm gonna start. Start the one that comes to mind just like that is like spitting and slobber and saliva everywhere. And this is a good one to start with, because what you'll find is an ick for one woman may not be an ick for everyone else, but when I have a guy who launches into like if I'm asking turn-ons and they're like I want you to spit in my mouth or I want you like, I want you know they're into your like saliva and drool and stuff like that, I'm instantly like I might not be your lady.
Speaker 3:So so you know, I've never been in the situation where I've been with a man who wanted me to spit on him.
Speaker 1:This is Andy speaking for my audio listeners? Andy is not necessarily opposed to some.
Speaker 3:I enjoy it Um like I said I have never. I have never been asked by a partner to spit on them, but I do enjoy being spat on if you will Spat upon.
Speaker 3:Spat upon when I mean it really could be anywhere. Don't do that thing Like I don't know. Just make sure you've had a lot of water and you're very well hydrated. Don't do that. Oh, oh, don't do that, please, please don't. You might think it's going to provide more lubrication. It's just gross. Has someone done that to you? I mean, they've not to you. Wait with the.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I've definitely I've been in a situation where they, like, went deep throat. They went deep throat for this bit.
Speaker 3:Really really cold it up. No, that's a loogie, Exactly that's not. So I would say that's not spitting.
Speaker 2:Okay, hold it up. Exactly. That's not um. So I would say that's not spitting um. Okay, I'm sorry. I'm I'm sorry that that happened to you.
Speaker 3:I was too, I was too. You never deserve that now spit downstairs does not make up for lube, like you're still gonna need to use lube. That's why they spit uh, not always, I think. Sometimes they like to spit just because they like to spit.
Speaker 1:Like it's a disrespect kind of thing Right.
Speaker 2:Which I kind of have a I like I'll walk back to lutey, things Like, if you're into it, that's one thing, but coming in hot with a negotiated lutey is.
Speaker 1:You got to negotiate that shit, it's a lot, just so you know, the new sexy voice coming in is sloan and I agree you've got to negotiate all of that up front. But look, I'm gonna tell you where my it comes in and this is why you want to negotiate it up front. Like I am literally like I have to be in the dirtiest headspace, like you've got to have me edging on an orgasm for a little while and because, like you've been, you know my pussy and you've been talking some daddy shit to me and maybe you have punished me and have me begging for your fucking praise.
Speaker 1:And then and then, if you want to get dirty with a little, a little bit of spit, like I'm talking about, you shove your dick down my throat and like some spit comes up and you want it like on your cock and you want to like, like, get a little like fluidy with it a little, a little, but no, that's still going to interrupt the the the sexy kinky shit going in my head. I'm going to be like, oh, like that someone spit on me. You know so and I hear that maybe I'm on the extreme end of that. But you need to know your person, because if your goal is to give and receive pleasure and you are doing that to a woman like me and you're suddenly you spit on. I have had this happen and I'm telling you something you think, oh, like just dirty people do that, or whatever I was.
Speaker 1:It was like early on in my get dirty phase and I met this doctor on I think it was Tinder or something, something like that. He was Polly and had this like lots of money, this house on the Hill, um, and I met with him there and we're having sex and that guy, just he, just he, he literally like kind of the Hawk thing. Well, first he spit like drool, it dripped, it dripped down upon my most beautiful private parts, which freaked me the fuck out like I wanted to smack him. My instant response thought for response was like how rude. And then, as and then we got back and it was, you know. I thought I thought this is pretty hot. And then he did like where's the lube?
Speaker 2:Where's the lube? I must make a note at this point that we are in the post-Hawk tour.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 2:Oh, good point.
Speaker 3:So maybe we could talk about that A little give and take there.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, let's do talk about it. What the fuck so, men, just really, oh I.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they might just be going for it, but oh, whoa, that's.
Speaker 1:What is so? What do you feel like? Where are you on that? Because I'm like I want to just grab your dick and like squeeze in a bad way, not a good way, you kinky motherfuckers.
Speaker 2:Okay. So yeah, I see what I mean. I was starting to think about it differently when you were like I'm at the edge and you're taking me there and maybe I want it because I want to be a good girl.
Speaker 1:Okay, I'm like okay maybe I should maybe maybe, maybe I should be spitting on more pussies.
Speaker 2:Okay, okay, and let me just give me give you a little plug, because Annette had mentioned her sexy meditations and, oh my God, I listened to one that she had made for a client and I was like I.
Speaker 1:I was enthralled client and I was like I.
Speaker 2:I was enthralled, Like I tend my. I was invested in what she was going to say. Next, it made yes, it made me tingle. I was like how are you not rich from doing this already? It's incredible.
Speaker 1:Anyway, that's my plug.
Speaker 2:All right, going back where we were I'm talking about okay, so I could see. When I get to the moment I could be like oh God, yeah, and like I'm into it, but I don't know. Just some like you know, this is my personal experience. It's like I'm not, you know, just spitting in my mouth. I'm just that's, that's, I can't do that ever.
Speaker 2:I don't know. You know, what affected me was a long time ago I saw this YouTube video and it was a bachelor's party and these men had been brushing their teeth and they all spit into a little Dixie cup and you know what the groom to be had to do was drink it. What? So that has haunted me ever since and I'm not cool with other people's spit in my mouth. At least they brush their teeth first. That's why you gotta find out what people like, because that I'm not cool with that. But you know what, if it's really hot and it's in a moment and like he's, I don't know, I might, I might be okay with somebody spitting on my my lady bits right in the moment.
Speaker 1:I mean, I know that it's not lube.
Speaker 1:It's not lube, no look, I know I can like make it work because I've had to, I've had to, I've had to because it's happened and I've had to be like am I gonna freak out or am I gonna suck it up and keep going? And I, typically, you know I'm, I'm well. It's a shame to admit that. But I think the thing about this podcast is I don't fucking bullshit, you guys, I do keep going and sometimes I'm like maybe it was kind of hot, but generally speaking, I would like to not have to force myself over that line. But you know I. And then there is I I do, yeah, you're into it, I do like for my?
Speaker 3:what is it? Does it feel my mouth to be spat in Intimate?
Speaker 2:Does it feel really intimate to you?
Speaker 3:Tell me about it, I mean so it's only when I'm like deeply in a subspace and it's like open your mouth.
Speaker 1:Right, oh, okay, all right, okay, I see I see, I see what's Open your mouth and they stick their fingers. Yes, they stick.
Speaker 3:You almost tried to stick you just tried to stick your finger in my mouth, but I wouldn't. I know, I know you're not there.
Speaker 1:If I opened my mouth, would you have done it?
Speaker 3:I feel like I know you well enough. That might not be so they stick there.
Speaker 2:I know, maybe I should try that.
Speaker 1:But if you were, I don't think I could spit in your mouth. I'd be like I catch it.
Speaker 2:But if somebody was about to hock to it.
Speaker 3:No, no, no, no, that's different.
Speaker 1:I do want to note, ladies, that this spitting in the mouth is not just a guy thing. Actually it became. It was like a thing, especially in the queer woman lesbian community for a long time and I was still like I don't care what your gender is, Mm-mm, no.
Speaker 3:I wasn't.
Speaker 2:I've never run into that with another woman.
Speaker 3:personally, I've just only been with men that I don't know. Maybe I'd give off a Maybe spitting feels like a manly thing. Like a real, more masculine Maybe. Well, I mean how often like I, but outside and you've been told like think about not ladylike?
Speaker 2:famous movie scene. Somebody says something like very authoritative and then they yes, at the end of it.
Speaker 1:Oh lord, I had a girlfriend once I'm gonna share the story.
Speaker 1:I had a girlfriend once, like when I was new to portland, and um, we were walking down the street and she kept spinning, she kept spitting hockey loogies and spitting and I stopped. Did she have dip in her lip? No, I don't know why she was doing it, but I looked at her and I finally, after I don't know a couple of weeks of dating, I said to her I'm like I just find that so repulsive. And boy, she didn't know, like that, she like started double timing. The goddamn spit. Boy she didn't know, like that, she like started double timing the goddamn spit.
Speaker 3:I was just like it's just a healthy relationship.
Speaker 1:I felt so dirty. We clearly are no longer together. I woke up one day and that was like done. But so women do do it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm just like, and we may enjoy it under the right circumstances.
Speaker 3:Correct.
Speaker 1:I know I'm telling you the right circumstances, correct.
Speaker 2:I'm telling you 2025,.
Speaker 1:I'm going to surprise each of these bitches with a suddenly like can I spit on you Just to see what happens? I would let you. Yeah, all of a sudden, from the spitter's point of view, I'm like, oh, coming in from left field.
Speaker 3:Well, interesting See, and I've never like I, definitely I've never even considered really spitting on a man, oh God maybe the idea Well, okay, not totally true, Like I'll spit on a cock on a man. Yeah, or you know, in my hand, absolutely.
Speaker 1:You have the all right. Andy, I'm going to call you out on this one.
Speaker 3:I'm going to call Andy out on this one, but I've never spit. I've never spit in a dude's mouth, though I've definitely never spit in a dude's mouth.
Speaker 1:No, but now that Sloan's like, oh, you could spit on me, I'm like, oh, from the spitter's point of view, huh, well then, all right, maybe that does sound kind of hot. All right, guys, I've got to go and mull this over, have I? Oh, I've spit on anyways for a different podcast episode moving on from spit. Yeah, we've spent a lot of time on spit, I know. So, andy, what give me an ick? Do you have an ick?
Speaker 3:I mean, I've got a list of icks, but I would like to hear your ick so I think actually I know one thing that feels icky to me is if you say something disrespectful to me and we've not negotiated that first. Like I've not said to you, I enjoy a little bit of.
Speaker 2:Like are there words? Are there words specifically?
Speaker 3:I know I have some words words specifically, I know I have some words, um, like at hey, you little slut, or like I like that stuff. If we've talked about it and I've let you know that I'd like to be in a subspace, but if we don't know each other well enough yet, that that's even come up and you're just, you're just trying it out on me. No, that's not gonna feel.
Speaker 2:That's not gonna feel safe to me it feels maybe a little bit objectifying without me having given you. Yes the permission, the permission, the consent for you to put me in that space, where it's been negotiated, and then I tell you I feel safe for you to do that with me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I get it. Yeah, humiliation without a prior conversation doesn't that's like, don't do that. Yeah, don't do that. And I think in general like things without consent, like suddenly you shove your finger in my ass, or even if you just start circling it and I'm like in the situation it's not like it's easy for me to go. Oh oh, no, I mean I will, but like that kills the libido, like why not have those conversations up front?
Speaker 2:right, if you have those concert conversations up front, then you can let go and relax you know what to expect that's when you can have the most fun, because you know the play space you're in, instead of this uneasy territory that you might be like tiptoeing into and it could backfire like have the conversations. It makes it like for a hot play space. I agree yeah, so.
Speaker 1:So I know you brought a list of ics.
Speaker 2:I did, and some of them are not going to be surprising.
Speaker 2:They're going to be with themes that I've already heard you talk about, but one of them is like the overly aggressive behavior and I just think sometimes so much of that is born out of, like watching porn and I get that like porn has become the way for people to become sexually educated in this country and I understand that. I just want people to understand that there is like real life sexual situations that are outside of what you can experience in porn and it requires a conversation Like think about most of that like hard and fast you can experience in porn. And it requires a conversation like think about most of that like hard and fast stuff you see in porn. It's not going to be something that satisfies a woman. It's it's all for show and it's all made for the male gaze. Like women they're being paid to moan and do all these things you. So I just it's again really an opportunity, an invitation for a conversation with a partner on what feels good. What do you like. Let's explore that together.
Speaker 1:So I'm going to follow that up with an ick. For me is when I hear someone make porn noises, now people will jump in and say maybe people do that and that's truly how they sound. But I feel like, even like I've been with people who that's kind of the sound they make during sex and I can tell the difference between that and like oh, okay what kind of?
Speaker 2:sounds do you guys make?
Speaker 1:I mean, if I'm faking it really does.
Speaker 3:It depends on who I'm with and what I'm experiencing, what I'm feeling. Um, I've made it a promise to myself that I'm not gonna fake it anymore. Um, so, even if something is not working, rather rather than faking it until you know, just to speed things along, I'll just say this we got to try something different.
Speaker 1:I mean the sound. I'm thinking of that. I've heard that's the sound, and especially the hypo, and I'm like, and when I hear that that that's not what it sounds like right, oh yeah, I mean I've heard it sound like a lot of things like I've had over the years.
Speaker 2:I'm sure we've all been with our share of women and I think I can be really quiet honestly.
Speaker 1:I can be really quiet honestly.
Speaker 2:I can be really quiet Because I'm very inside and like in it Silence and stillness is actually a sign of us getting hot and when I'm making like real sounds like I'm really into it, it gets actually a little more guttural for me.
Speaker 3:I was totally going to say that it gets guttural and I'm just like I can't even help it.
Speaker 1:Those are the noises coming out of me, so let me just hot tip, hot tip, is that when a woman goes high, like and that is like 90, I would say I'm going to say 90. Tell me if you guys disagree Percent of the time, I feel like that's bordering on fake. Now, when a woman goes low and guttural and primal, primal, it's like, oh, it's like you know, oh, you know. It's like this deep feeling, that is the sweet fucking spot.
Speaker 1:oh god, that's your takeaway, that primal noise primal noise and you'll feel it in the energy because, as she's making those noises, you will feel the connection. But this high, like, do it, do the sound, do the feet that I'm going to use, that I'm going to clip that sound? That is not real.
Speaker 2:But you can still make it your ringtone if you really want to.
Speaker 3:Oh, absolutely. I mean there will be a fee for that. But, I mean, it either sounds performative to me or painful, painful, or like just come, just come, just come.
Speaker 1:Like, work that into what that sounds like. That's a huge ick for me. Work that into what that sounds like. That's a huge ick for me. Like, I have definitely been with women that were programmed into that sound and like, primarily when I've been with women who haven't been with women before and I was just like no, like dude, no, like I'm no, please, girl Like you and I are the same. We have the same stuff going on Another. So I want to talk about one of the biggest eggs for me.
Speaker 1:Look, guys, middle aged guys, I understand that there is part of you that really Desires youthfulness. Like you're like staring down the barrel of your limited life and you're just waking up to the fact that that's happening. I get it Hard. And you're like to be with a younger woman. Like it feels like it's breathing life into you, right, and sometimes you think that youth needs to be like 18, 19, 20, 21, 22. If it's over 18, it's fine.
Speaker 1:Oh, it's like I find it if I know that someone I've been with has like, like their thing is like they're fantasizing about or not even like not fantasizing. Look, you can, I'm going to, I'm going to walk that back. If the person I've been with can't distinguish fantasy from reality and has pursued and been with like very, very young girls and it feels like they have what is the word for it? A taken taken advantage of these young girls, because you know't know like it's gross to me, like at some point, if a man of a certain age has been like with girls, young women of a certain age, it just it grosses me out. It's not I. I in no way feel personally like I'm not competing with younger women. I love younger women, I want to empower younger women and if I feel like a man has disempowered younger women so that he can feel good about himself, that's a massive ick for me.
Speaker 2:I hear you on that. I think I see it from the perspective of this person. I guess isn't looking for their emotional maturity match, maybe maybe the emotional maturity where they should be, and maybe they're going for younger because it's a more comfortable space for them, because they can't meet a more mature woman where she is, and I think maybe perhaps the dynamic of a younger woman might take some of the pressure off.
Speaker 3:I wonder if that's it Absolutely. I feel like I mean, a 19 year old girl is not, she's not going to be able to hold the same kind of quality conversations because she's just not been in the world enough, you know, like not even her fault.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's just it feels like a concern, but here here.
Speaker 1:Here is what I would say. I don't think it's not that she can't hold the same quality of conversation. I think it's that her perspective is going to be based on information and an age that we are outdated to.
Speaker 1:To be honest with you. In some ways it's like she's coming from this place that we cannot be at and we're coming from this place where we have an overview. But that is not my ick. My ick is an older man preying on a younger woman. That's my ick. I don't care if you match up emotionally. What grosses me out is the idea that the power imbalance and that you get off on it, Because I cannot imagine any other reason. I see 20 year olds. I see 30 year olds that look like 20 year olds. So go find a 30 year old. I feel like there's a power imbalance and that's my ick. Like if I know a man in his 40s and 50s is banging like 19, 18, 20 year olds, 21 year olds Like that's, like it's unnecessary. You know she does it, she's not ready. You know that. You know she's just left the nest, if she even has, and you're, it feels like you're preying on that.
Speaker 1:And that's gross to me, that's fucking gross to me. And the ironic part of it is, I know 18, 19, 20, 21, 22-year-olds that are way more awake and interesting and bright than these men at 40 and 50. And for me it's like, if that's your thing, it just doesn't work with. Where I'm at Right, that's yeah, like, and I've just had and look, this hasn't come up for me a lot, but it's come up for me enough where I've just, I mean, and relatively recently, I met a man who was like flirting with me and it became clear that he was like hitting it with someone who had just turned 20. Oh, and I like my, and the ick that pursued was yeah.
Speaker 1:I couldn't, and it wasn't like I didn't have a problem with her. It was him. I couldn't, and it wasn't like I didn't have a problem with her, it was him.
Speaker 2:I found him like repulsive Because he was older than you and going for this.
Speaker 1:And I think also A. I would never have been like A, I wasn't interested in him. And I'm like, oh, you'd have to take advantage of someone younger than you to get them to buy into. Like you know, I don't know, that's an egg, I'm just saying like I. What's hot to me as a man within my age range who's like Like An equal being, equal right. Like I would not. I have zero interest in in men under 30. Yeah, like no 30.
Speaker 3:Like no, no, oh, no offense to any of my listeners.
Speaker 2:It's not about you, it's just like no.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I get messages from like no.
Speaker 2:I've seen women our age who are really enjoying some younger men. So it's not 30 in 20s, could you?
Speaker 3:You know, I'm never going to say never.
Speaker 1:All right. Well, there you go. There you go. All right, I look, I know that I do have some listeners who are younger, and I've had, I've gotten some emails and I'm just like I can't, I'm sorry, I'm so sorry, can't do it, I can't.
Speaker 2:Although, you're never going to say never, you know?
Speaker 1:look me in the eyeballs Right.
Speaker 3:Oh the circumstances might be just so.
Speaker 1:Five years ago was different. I know you're out there. Five years ago was different, so All right. So look, folks, we have lots of icks we want to share with you. However, we have party to go to. We have one more ick that we are going to share with you, and it might be the coup de gras of icks and cologne is going to share.
Speaker 2:Okay, man, um and I, I'm gonna recognize this might be a cultural thing, but I really appreciate some great hygiene, that you're clean.
Speaker 3:Smell good, smell good, smell good.
Speaker 2:I think for me, like I just noticed, when we're getting intimate I can get really distracted by some strong body odor and maybe, maybe, some breath If you have dad breath. Never. It's, it's more, sorry, retirement, home breath oh granddad, if you have grand home breath. Oh, granddad, if you have granddad breath, you've got some bacteria in your mouth, you might need to address Absolutely and that'll really take me out of the moment. So, oh my gosh, like a good nice clean. I mean, what are your guys' thoughts?
Speaker 3:Clean, yes, body odor Nobia, his thoughts Clean. Yes, body, odor, hmm.
Speaker 1:No Bia.
Speaker 3:And.
Speaker 1:I like it when a man wears a scent.
Speaker 3:I love a scent.
Speaker 2:Wait, is there a scent you don't like? I like an expensive scent, Spend some money. I don't know what were the scents that you know it's been a while before I've seen a magazine ad and rubbed it on my skin.
Speaker 1:I like I like it to be spicy.
Speaker 2:I like it to be earthy I like, I like earthy, I like earthy warm and if you don't know, just go and ask the lady at the counter and don't get a cheap bottle, get a big bottle, like really put your a month's salary. You don't even have to get a big bottle.
Speaker 1:You can get a travel size now for like no, I want you to consistently smell like that every time I see you, but what if it's not something you love?
Speaker 3:oh yeah, start with the travel size, right, but but I won't tell you I love this it makes me wet.
Speaker 1:Look, I'm gonna be honest with you. I have fucked literally in my lifetime I've had more than one person I've fucked. I hated them yes, casey, casey shook from high school, casey shook. If you're out there I feel like you're probably gross now but back in the day I hated you because you were like spicy and like a rubble and stuff like that.
Speaker 3:But he smelled so good that I that was the first time I realized I can relate.
Speaker 1:Oh, we were, I mean look guys, this is not dirty high school. I'm a senior, junior or something like that, and I ended up and I told my friends afterwards I'm like I hate him so much, but God, he smelled, he had this cologne and I couldn't help it. And I still can't help it. I can't.
Speaker 2:It was like that person I was crazy about for the longest time. Oh God, like I could just like inhale his skin. And then I remember I smelled it again with like I think it was, was it your confidence or something?
Speaker 1:And I was like that's it, and I was just like I may or may not have put on a clone. That I know is the thing that sets the car on fire because it makes me melt, right?
Speaker 3:so scent huge. Oh well, it's also. It's one of, that is one of the uh strongest senses tied to memory.
Speaker 2:Oh.
Speaker 3:So if you smell good and it is good, there you go. We're going to remember that Core memory Unlocked.
Speaker 1:We need to like do a whole podcast on. If you want to tire down, here are the things Core memory scent plus Consent ahead of time. Yes, Just don't spit on the first date. Like you fuckers who like like it on the first date. Like you fuckers who like like it's the first date and you like that shouldn't be the first trick, like finger up the ass like, at least spit on it first, please, and spitting in your mouth and you want her to come back.
Speaker 1:She's like in shock and like I thought we, I don't know, yeah, no, but yeah. So a good scent and maybe a variety of types, but like, go for warm and spicy that would be. I'm like you're not not going to go wrong with that.
Speaker 3:Don't smell like bio I also just like a really clean scent.
Speaker 2:Clean like oh, and make sure. Oh. Have I seen so many posts lately about men who think it's manly to not because they don't want to touch their ass and don't wipe it properly. Your ass has to be clean. Oh my gosh, do not make me smell any fecal matter while I am going down on you.
Speaker 1:That's not going to be okay.
Speaker 2:That does not make it sexy. I do not want to be thinking about poop while I'm trying to like put something into my throat, it automatically is like gag reflex, like make sure, oh my god, please if we're doing 69.
Speaker 3:Oh god, please make sure. Actually, that's one of the reasons I won't even do it I love 69.
Speaker 2:I love 69 when it's done right and things are clean, and I don't. I am not over it, because the only thing you can breathe out of during 69 is your nose. Please be sensitive to the scent that is in that area. Oh my gosh, please wipe.
Speaker 3:One of my first serious boyfriends Please clean between your cracks, please wipe. One of my first serious boyfriends was there was that we were doing that number position and, yeah, there was a sweaty butt crack in my face and that has turned me off from that position for a really long time.
Speaker 1:Okay, so that's why you don't like it. Yes, that is fair. A lot of people don't. Sorry, now we have bubbles. I've got candy in my mouth, hot tamales I blame Andy.
Speaker 2:She's a hot tamale.
Speaker 1:Okay, we have a party to go to, so we could come up with lots of other icks, but I feel like we hit some really big ones on the head. What I want to know for my listeners is what are your ics? Because I would love you to drop them in this episode and I'm going to come back and I'm going to read them all off and we can weigh in on them, Because I'm pretty sure, as we hear other people's sexual icks, there's going to be a unanimous yes. But listen, I also recognize that one person's ick is another person's kink.
Speaker 1:So, what I'm trying to bring you around to as a sex and intimacy coach is let's say, you come together with a partner and your kink is their ick.
Speaker 1:Is there a way to meet in a place where you can both enjoy yourselves participating this, and I would argue that there is a way to do that because with every ick that we mentioned, there was one of us that was like oh, but this is what's hot about it, and that's what's hot about it, and it's about how you approach it, how you integrate it into your sex life.
Speaker 2:Being open to it.
Speaker 1:Right and how you think about it, and so what I want to do is get some feedback from you guys and then help you guys in your personal life If you have a kink that they find is an ick, or you have an ick that your partner is really into how can you turn that into an aphrodisiac for your relationship, and I guarantee you that there's at least, I'm going to say, a 90, 85 to 90% chance that we could figure out how to do that.
Speaker 3:I mean, I don't want to yuck anyone's yum. Nope, it may not be for me entirely, but I'm open, you're open, I'm open, I'm open to hearing what makes sense If someone's communicating with you. And I'm open to hearing what you love about it. What turns you, what like, what really?
Speaker 2:Because I kind of want to turn my partner on at some point there's going to be like, if you have that kind of connection, be like what do you want baby?
Speaker 1:You want to spit on me. You want to spit on me. Let's talk about how that's going to happen.
Speaker 3:I don't understand exactly what it is that just really gets me going about this particular thing.
Speaker 1:I kind of want to spit on someone now. Like now I'm like ah, I want to be the spitter, Like that actually seems kind of hot when I think about it that way. Did you not consider that? No, never.
Speaker 3:I mean I'm going to like be spitting on y'all.
Speaker 1:We're walking down the street. You know I'm not going to say no.
Speaker 2:See the different ways we've opened up this. See what's happened.
Speaker 1:Now we are late for our party. I love you listeners, we all do. Thank you for listening to this and letting us I.
Speaker 1:Every once in a while, I really like to do a throwback to literally the locker room talking shots. Three years ago, I started this podcast with my girlfriends and we would have crazy drinks and talk about sex and end the podcast pretty fucked up. Um, so this was like a really fun time to have my girlfriends with me and talk about something that we've been talking about a lot. So please do submit your ex, because I think we'd have a fun time talking about them. Also, remember I am actually a sex and intimacy coach and I would we'd have a fun time talking about them Also, remember, I am actually a sex and intimacy coach and I would love to help you on your journey to having better sex, better intimacy, all that stuff. Uh, so also, if you're feeling spicy, you know where I'm at on my spicy site. And if you're feeling spicy but afraid, andette talks sex on the spicy site. So until and until next time, I'll see you in the locker room. Time to go. Party cheers.