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Tipsy Truths: Drunk Myth-Busting Masturbation Madness
Welcome to this special New Year’s Eve episode of Locker Room Talk & Shots! Tonight, we’re popping bottles and busting some serious myths—masturbation myths, to be exact. That’s right, we’re getting tipsy while tackling all those ridiculous, outdated, and downright bizarre beliefs about self-pleasure that society just can’t seem to let go of. So, grab your favorite drink, settle in, and get ready to laugh, learn, and maybe blush a little as we toast to truth, self-love, and leaving shame behind in the new year. Cheers to pleasure and breaking down taboos, one myth at a time!
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do the sex. Welcome to Masturbation Monday with me, annette Benedetti, your host for Locker Room Talk and Chats. This is your invitation to join me for coffee in bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental, physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams. Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure, better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life. Today's Masturbation Monday episode is out with the old and in with the oh, oh, oh, and end with the O-O-O Breaking pleasure myths in 2025.
Speaker 1:And this Monday I am not masturbating alone. I have my very good friend, carrie, here masturbating with me. Clearly, obviously, we would never do that together. Um, look, it is almost the new year and I have been celebrating the holidays, and Carrie and I decided to celebrate together today and then do this very special new Year's masturbation Monday episode for you, and we decided we are going to focus on the still somehow prevalent myths around masturbation. Obviously, you all know that I am a big proponent of masturbation and self-pleasure, love worship. In fact, I love it so much that if you go over to OF yes, my OF spicy site, you can find me there as TalkSexWithAnette at TalkSexWithAnette. That's my handle. There. You can find me on OF, like you can everywhere else.
Speaker 1:I am going to be sharing some guided self-pleasure meditations, that's right. I'm going to talk you through how to take care of yourself, how to explore your pleasure in 2025. 2025, if you are over there, if you're over there with me, we are going to be having so many adventures. I'm going to have guided self-pleasure meditations for masturbation. I'm going to have tutorials yeah, that's right A lot of my how-tos that you have seen on this channel, such as the 15 ways to touch a clit, the how to finger, which may or may not have been taken down on a certain site. I will be doing those on my OF page, but I will actually be showing you on a live person how to execute the how to's that I've been teaching you verbally on this audio podcast and on visually in the PG realm on my video podcast on YouTube. So, anyways, love masturbation. Probably going to do it later tonight, how about you?
Speaker 2:Carrie, I think.
Speaker 1:I think probably it's my, my nightly routine, my nightly routine and if you stay tuned tomorrow, actually, Carrie and I are going to be doing another podcast tomorrow on our revelations and resolutions sexy, sexy resolutions for 2025. But I know you're going to be touching yourself a lot, right? Yes, and so am I. Anyways, what I want to do for the new year is share with you the top myths I think I've got 10 here that we looked up that are still prevalent and encouraging people to not masturbate, which is so problematic in my world.
Speaker 1:And so Carrie and I are going to go through them and we are going to discuss them with you. Of course, what we would love for you to do is to listen to our take and why we're debunking them and weigh in and write into us so we can take your questions, comments, revelations and respond to them right here on my podcast.
Speaker 2:Ready, ready Feels like high school debate team.
Speaker 1:I'm ready, I'm ready to debate after a couple cocktails earlier. It's going to be great Cheers, yeah, mind you, we have been celebrating New Year's early. We will be spending New Year's together, in fact, so we've had a couple little drinky-boos.
Speaker 2:A couple drinky booze but we're gonna.
Speaker 1:We're gonna dive into this anyways, because we believe in our ability to give you some sexy facts, even under the influence just a little. Two drinks, two drinks, just two, just two. We're only if, if only the orgasms, right, maybe I've. I'm pretty good at fucking myself. I think I've had some moments where you blacked out a little bit. I did. I have had a couple of moments actually masturbating where my heart is beating so hard and then, like my, my, my vision pinpoints a little bit but I don't think that's going blind.
Speaker 1:I think that's almost like fucking myself so well, I almost pass out.
Speaker 2:That's different right, I feel like that's different, but I could see how they could get completed, yeah they can get, so sometimes they so.
Speaker 1:maybe that's why this is so prevalent, because some of you, um are fucking yourself so well that you have moments of thinking you're going blind and really you're just about to pass out, because you're experiencing so much pleasure, but um and congratulations to you if you're doing it that well we support you and if there were a way in which you were going to go blind.
Speaker 2:That's not a bad way.
Speaker 1:Not a bad way. I mean, if I were going to go, that's how I'd want to go. I think so. Yeah, all right, yeah, but I would like you to know, according to all of my research the deep, deep research I've done on this topic there is absolutely no science that is backing it up. However, it sounds like, from what my research says, this idea originated in the 1800s and it was just fear mongering from, like you know, I imagine, some sort of religious group. I'm sure.
Speaker 2:Where, where is this deep, deep research that you dug into?
Speaker 1:Maybe. Well, there is no scientist. Come on, there is no scientist out there going. If you masturbate, you're going to go, but there is no funding for that kind of research.
Speaker 1:So we're just saying whatever, try to fuck yourself blind. This year, I goddamn double dare you, and I will do the same. We'll research on ourselves, all right. So, uh, yeah, that's where we're at. Myth number two masturbation drains your energy. So the more that you do this and I feel like this is more on like the weird, like um, male empowerment, uh sites, I've seen this where it's like if you give your seed away drains your energy, you are giving the woman your life, your essence. Oh God, have you heard that I've actually hadn't had men say that to my face, my face, like do you know how hard it is to respond to a man who says that to you?
Speaker 2:I feel like you know I get the idea of like an energy exchange, and I also understand the idea of feeling drained after sex because you either had a workout or because there's the oxytocin that's flowing through your body afterward. That's going to make you feel relaxed and maybe tired a little. When you're always in this hustle and bustle world, you're already cranked up to 10 and this maybe takes you down a little.
Speaker 1:I can understand that concept, but maybe people don't know the difference between relaxation and feeling drained. I mean, true but true. But. But I guarantee you, if anything, this sign and truly it's science backed that sex and orgasm, all of the hormones and chemicals that are released in your body after you have sex, even if you don't orgasm, because even without the orgasm your body's releasing these pleasure hormones. We've got dopamine, we've got oxytocin, we've got I mean there's, there's just a fucking list your cortisol levels drop. None of that's energy draining. It's all eventually energy boosting, right, but I think for some people, especially men, judging by how quickly they go to bed after coming, I think your first experience is going to be relaxation and then you'll be energized after that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think so, but I guess everybody is different.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Maybe you're drained, which means you're doing it wrong. I wouldn't have said that on one drink but now I'm just fucking honest. I'm just fucking honest. Myth number three women don't masturbate as much as men.
Speaker 2:I don't know where this I guess I'd want to know what are the real numbers, what's the raw data?
Speaker 1:What is the raw data? You know, honestly, we could probably look that up. What is the?
Speaker 2:raw data and I guess, as you look that up, my background thought is like I think we as women and I'm kind of speaking generally for the most part there's not a lot of byproduct we have to deal with when we pleasure ourselves. You mean mess, mm-hmm, but I can't say that for everybody, because what if you're a squirter? I mean, then maybe? Oh yeah, I don't want to be super exclusive in my language because again, everybody is different.
Speaker 1:All right, I'm looking at the research here, okay, and let's go ask.
Speaker 2:I guess.
Speaker 1:I guess my question is this Well, I mean, it's close. So Google AI sort of congregates all of the? Is that the right congregates or, yeah, it like Google gathers all of the information? It gives you like a roundabout answer, and here is what it came up with lifetime masturbation. A study found that 98.9 percent of men and 85.5 percent of women have masturbated at some point in their lives. Men typically start masturbating around 12 to 13 years old. Well, women start between 13 and 14.
Speaker 1:I think, though, this is like super inaccurate, because I started touching myself. I think I started touching myself and exploring much, much younger than that, but I didn't have words for masturbation. So it's not. And, and I also know as somebody who worked with children of all ages for years and years and years and all sorts of settings yeah, that's right, guys, I had a life before this. One of the things that, um, a lot of people don't talk about and there's taboo around is that, I mean, children masturbate all of the time, and some parents freak out about it, but it's actually very common. It because, for them, it's a sensory exploration, like they don't understand different parts of the body. They don't understand sexual pleasure versus pleasure pleasure. So I'm just saying google and science, science researches this shit with a puritanical background and not, yeah, concur, I mean, I know, I do, you do, you know, I do know there are some women who have never touched themselves for sure so I don't know any man who hasn't grabbed his dick and winked on it, do you?
Speaker 2:I don't, no, but then again I haven't had a lot of those conversations with all right.
Speaker 1:So maybe this is a little bit true. Maybe it's not a myth women we do masturbate a lot, but possibly it's true that if you were really to get to the nitty-gr, more men may masturbate than women, but it's by a fucking fraction. Women touch themselves all the time we fuck ourselves with all sorts of things.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I am also wondering about it because of stigma and shame.
Speaker 1:Yeah, sure, sure, you don't want to be the outlier in the study. One point in time I thought it was interrupting my life and what I realized was it was just my body's way of saying hey, I need you to stress, relieve and take a break. Please go masturbate. So now, when I feel that urge, I just like take a break and masturbate, and then I'm much more productive. Do you ever go to the bathroom at work and masturbate midday?
Speaker 2:just to like get it out of your system. The bathroom is far too busy for me to even dream about doing that.
Speaker 1:But it has doors that shut right and the stalls.
Speaker 2:The stalls, but it's like a foot and a half may not have.
Speaker 1:When I worked at a corporate place, yeah, regularly taken 15 minute breaks that weren't necessarily allotted as 15 minute breaks. To like knock it out in the stall, wow, yeah.
Speaker 2:I admire that commitment to your job and your pleasure Lack of commitment. They did not clock back in.
Speaker 1:They did not pay me enough.
Speaker 2:All right, I earned those breaks, all right. So, anyways, that's like a cigarette break, but it was exactly.
Speaker 1:Except for good for my health, we could get to those stats. But we need to go to the next myth, which is sex toys will cause you to become desensitized if you use them too much. If you use sex toys too much, they're going to numb your lady bits. Your lady bits? I don't think this. You know, maybe it also is applied to men bits, but it's never seemingly directed at that. Now I want you to know I actually have really dug into this one, because I'm such a proponent of sex toys.
Speaker 1:And here is what I can tell you guys there is no study out there that supports the idea that there can be long-term desensitization or damage done by a sex toy. However, I did watch a woman use a magic wand in such a way that bent and broke its neck because she needed so much stimulation to get off, uh, that I thought I was like there's no way your pussy is ever coming back from that. Like you need to do some work on like feeling your feels where you want to feel them. That's interesting. Yeah, yeah, that's some.
Speaker 1:that's some blockage here going on if you're using a toy like that. But there is absolutely no, no medical or science backing to the idea that using sex toys is going to desensitize your lady or man or person bits. But what there is study that backs is if you are using one type of stimulation. So, for instance, going back to the magic wand, because if you know, you know right, like it is the one of the most intense vibrational toys you can get. I don't know if I've ever had a toy that vibrates at the intensity and strength that the you know, og magic wandas.
Speaker 1:And there are people who only use that to get themselves off, because they learn, you learn how to have an orgasm with a toy, and so you do it again and again and you and you, your body, gets conditioned to that sensation and and and you can get to the point where you need it ramped up more and more. And so the suggestions that I have heard is it's really important, especially if you want to be able to have a lot of different orgasms in a lot of different ways, not to use the same toy all the time or the same sensation all the time, to mix it up, like sometimes, you know, I use the vibrator. Sometimes. I like klitzeki toys, and there are different types of klitzeki toys. I like the dual stimulators. You got klitzeki going on and you've got like g spot uh simultaneously going. But it's really the point is, you gotta mix it up.
Speaker 2:You gotta mix it up, you gotta fuck yourself in all the ways possible, with all the sensations possible. You got to wonder what the narrative is going on there, that there's the comparison. But also think about your hands. Like that also are meant to touch and interact with the world, and like we're touching vibrating things all the time with our hands. You know whether you're working with a jackhammer at work or all the other things you touch throughout the day, the like lawnmower or whatever, and nobody's ever like whoa. You got to take it easy with your hands. You might lose some sleep If you jackhammer too long.
Speaker 2:I mean, unless there's some jackhammering people out there that want to comment and say I have lost sensation in my hand.
Speaker 1:Yeah, If you jackhammer so hard, we want to hear from you. Please do not hesitate to reach out to us. If you jackhammer, only two drinks, I swear to.
Speaker 1:God guys, two drinks and like an hour ago. All right, so there you go. That's our take on that myth. Out with the old guys, in with the new, out with the old, in with the jackhammer. See what I'm saying? All right, the next one. So okay, you should feel guilty about masturbation. How could I even? How could I even? I mean, do you want to feel guilty? I mean, that could be kind of kinky, like we could take your guilt and then punish you for it. A little spanking, yeah, like if you want to feel guilty that way.
Speaker 1:Work with the transmutation of your own guilt, that's right, turn it into your next best orgasm, or you could roleplay it. Seriously, who wants you to feel guilty about your own pleasure that you get from your body, even if you're a Christian? God gave you this body and you've got a spot that gives you pleasure. Come on, I mean, I feel like he would be disappointed. Like I gave you that button so you could push it. Yeah, and you are wasting the opportunity to push that button, to, to stress, relieve in this right, right. Instead, you want to like spend money on insurance and go to the doctor to give you a pill when you could push the button. Push the button, push the button, amen.
Speaker 2:Yeah, your body's a temple. You should spend some time in it Worshiping it. Yeah.
Speaker 1:It's a temple. Spend some time with it.
Speaker 2:Worship it.
Speaker 1:I mean, that's what we do. That is our take on that myth. Right, okay, all right. Masturbation reduces your libido. It's fucking insane. I don't know. That's not how it works for me.
Speaker 2:No, I felt like it opened a door. It kind of like you know, every time you do something it creates those neural pathways in your brain and the more you do it, the more it strengthens those neural pathways.
Speaker 1:So this sounds like fake news, fake news. My neural pathways are like fucking. There's lots of them, there are a lot of them, and all of those pathways lead to a super high way to pleasure, a super high way to pleasure right up here, and you know how I build them repetition yeah, I get a gold star.
Speaker 1:I build them with my fingers and hands, and while I do have, I have a lot of tools Indeed, she does A lot of tools, in fact, it's becoming a problem. Anyways, it's a problem. It's a problem, right, she can vouch Is it a problem?
Speaker 2:Yes, I'm holding on to some of you for you right now, and you don't even realize it.
Speaker 1:True, true story. I'm like are there any we could reach like an arm's distance? Probably probably. All right, masturbation is only for single people, okay, yeah.
Speaker 2:I just don't yeah, Do you have you? I don't know if you haven't done it with a partner like one of the most intimate things you can do beyond having sex is like masturbating in front of them, and letting them see as you pleasure yourself in your way, and you're not being performative for it, with it, it's just. It's really an intimate experience to share that with somebody.
Speaker 1:I think yeah I like to have a partner like on their knees in front of me, like masturbating I want to watch, I want to watch.
Speaker 1:And how much you learn about how they like to touch their bodies educational oh yeah, don't overlook that nope, all right so, but it's fun with a partner, it's fun with friends, but single, okay. So single you can do with a friends. In a relationship, you're with your best friend, right, yeah? Also, like I don't know, my last couple of relationships I had to masturbate all the time Because you aren't together all the time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, or just to like you got to bridge the gap Bridge the gap. All right.
Speaker 1:So there you are, oh, oh, oh this one. You need a partner to experience real pleasure. You can't get the same kind of orgasm from fucking yourself that you get from fucking someone else. I, I know I've had some like I've had my strongest orgasms with myself.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think so too. Again, for me it's the no-transcript, so I I can understand that it might feel different but it's different, right you? Know, if you want to rank them like, an orgasm is still pleasure and goodness for your body. So you don't want to be like oh, this one's better than the other. It's all good, it's all in a spectrum of pleasure to pleasure.
Speaker 1:Right, they're different. It's different orgasming, but I feel like we shouldn't undercut the ability to have a relationship with yourself and good sex.
Speaker 2:We should not poo-poo it, we're not going to do that.
Speaker 1:All right, we're going to well. Only one more, because I think that's all I have. Only certain types of people masturbate. I agree with this one. Only fucking amazing people masturbate.
Speaker 2:I think maybe people who don't just um there there either could be, like I, my brain tends to go with like kind of something religious going on, something, the way you were raised, some shame, or you know like. There are so many things I'm not thinking of, but I feel like, yeah, most people.
Speaker 1:You feel a lot of compassion for those people.
Speaker 2:I do because I think they might be missing out on something amazing.
Speaker 1:But amazing people masturbate. Masturbate alone With friends.
Speaker 2:Right and whoever's telling you not to masturbate? Why would they tell you that Right and then go back to like are they trying to control your behavior?
Speaker 1:Yeah, there's control there and you should join us Come.
Speaker 2:Come with us.
Speaker 1:Literally Come with us. Literally Come with us.
Speaker 2:Be one of us.
Speaker 1:You are one of us, yeah. So yeah, certain kinds of people do masturbate and we're awesome. And if you're not one of us, I feel like we're well adjusted adults.
Speaker 1:Look at us. Look at us. All right, all right guys. So this is your New Year's Eve. Out with the old way of thinking and look sure this is not packed with a lot of, like you know, names of researchers and articles you can go to. This is backed by our own opinions on close to New Year's Eve. Is it New Year's Eve tomorrow? No, the next day, right?
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:We're real close. So by the time you listen to this, this is packed with personal experience, plus some research and a lot of opinion. And a lot of opinion because myths. Come on, guys, they're all silly. Go masturbate. For 2025, what I wish for you is a lot of masturbating. I'm going to be masturbating a lot.
Speaker 2:Right, we could all do with more pleasure in our lives. And you can find it with yourself and you can bring more joy. And all you need is yourself.
Speaker 1:And if you're not sure what to do, again, if you go to my spicy site, then look up my handle. Talk sex with Annette. I am going to have guided audio self-pleasure meditations, also video how-tos, that's right. You're going to see the equipment and what you need to do and you'll be able to try these at home.
Speaker 2:folks at home Is equipment, what you call your bits my lady, bits my lady bits.
Speaker 1:I'm trying to get in less trouble on all the platforms this year. It's real hard, guys. It's real hard. You have no idea how many times my hand gets slapped and I don't like that. You can slap my ass. You can slap my tits. It's weird when you do, but you can do it With consent, but don't slap my hand when I'm just trying to like help the masses, right.
Speaker 1:So, anyways, what I'm trying to say is I want to be your partner in your pleasure journey in 2025, whether it is as a pleasure coach which I love doing it's my new passion whether it is as your video instruct dress, it is as your video instruct dress Showing constructus Instruct dress, Demonstrating how to do stuff, or whatever. The other thing that you will find over there is if you have a singular question about intimacy you want to ask me, you're going to be able to do it there and I will answer it. I get a lot of questions. They're hard to keep up with, so, all right. If you have any myths, questions, opinions on these myths that you would like, uh, to interject, is that a word?
Speaker 2:Interject Interject.
Speaker 1:Uh, or if you know, whatever, you know how to get ahold of me. You're going to email me at Annette at TalkSexWithAnnettecom. You are going to scroll down to my speak pipe below. You're going to send me a voicemail. You're going to go over to my spicy site at TalkSexWithAnnette and there we could just chatty chat. Or if you are on my youtube channel and not just listening to this, uh, in your car or your headphones at work which, if so, I wouldn't I want to hear about that too. Um, you can drop a comment below the video that accompanies the audio. Any, any last things to say?
Speaker 2:No, happy New Year to everyone. Happy what Happy New Year. New Year Happy.
Speaker 1:Happy New Year. Cheers, cheers, ring Loot.