A-Spot Orgasm: A Guide to Her Deepest Pleasure

Do you want to have or give your partner some of the deepest and most intense orgasms she's ever experienced? Well, today I am sharing my guide to A-Spot stimulation, pleasure, and orgasms. This is a complete guide! 
In this episode, you learn:

• What the A-Spot is, who has one, and where it's located
• What's special about the A-spot
• A 3-step approach to unlocking the pleasure of the A-Spot
• The best toys for A-Spot Stimulation
• The best sexual positions for A-Spot Stimulation

Recommended guides to listen to:
How to Find & Activate the G-Spot: https://youtu.be/tczpp7qsttU
20 Ways to Touch the Clit: https://youtu.be/EQ6Vsz1XIPQ

Toy Reviews:
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Womanizer Duo 2 Review(Code EXPLORES15 for 15% off womanizer.com): https://youtu.be/a_gMOi---ZQ

LELO Enigma Double Sonic: http://lip.go2cloud.org/SH1M7

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Chapters

• 0:00 Unlocking the a-Spot
• 17:09 Exploring and Stimulating the a-Spot
• 22:59 Building Intimacy and Relationship Wellness

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:44

Do the sex. Welcome to Masturbation Monday with me, annette Benedetti, your host for Locker Room Talk and Chats. This is your invitation to join me for coffee in bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental, physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams. Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure, better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life. Today's Masturbation Monday topic is all about the A-spot. What is the A-spot? This is one of the most common questions I get from my listeners and YouTube viewers, who are invested in giving their partners who are women or who have vaginas incredible, intense, orgasmic, satisfying, intimate experiences. But before I dive into my complete guide to the A-spot, I have an announcement to make. I have changed the name of my YouTube channel and you can now find it under the handle at TalkSexWithAnnette. You can also find all of my podcast episodes, my intimate product reviews, my guides to how to have better sex and all of my information on my intimacy, sex and relationship coaching services at TalkSexWithAnettecom. So if you haven't already head over to YouTube, subscribe to my YouTube channel at TalkSexWithAnette so we can interact in the comment section of the videos that I create and so that you can receive all of my podcast episodes, reviews and bonus materials. Now let's dive into how to find and unlock the powerful pleasure of the A-spot Cheers. So if you've been listening to my podcast for any time now, you have listened to episodes on clitoral stimulation, fingering, finding and activating the G-spot. So you're probably wondering what's with the A-spot, why is it so important? Well, finding and learning how to stimulate the A-spot can enhance her pleasure intensely and immensely and could even help her want, desire and enjoy penetrative sex even more. But here are four huge benefits that come from learning how to locate and activate the A-spot. First, multiple studies have shown that increased lubrication is associated with A-spot stimulation. So once you find it and you learn to activate it, she's going to be wetter, and we all love that. A-spot orgasms can be more intense and even last longer. They can even result in her experiencing a deep emotional release. Regular A-spot stimulation can actually enhance her pleasure. It increases blood flow to her vagina, making penetration feel even better and, like I said, it may result in her wanting, desiring and asking for more and deeper penetration during sexual interactions. And one of the coolest benefits of unlocking the ace spot is that once you unlock the ace spot, it can become easier for her to experience both blended and multiple orgasms.

Speaker 1: 4:25

So what is thespot and who has one? The A-spot is also known as the anterior fornix. It is exclusive to cisgendered women and people who are assigned female at birth. It is a powerful erogenous zone that provides pleasure when stimulated, and it is located deep inside the vagina. So where is the A-spot located? The A-spot is located on the front side of the vaginal wall, approximately four to six inches deep, depending on the woman's body. It is deeper than the G-spot and it's located up close to the cervix and the bladder. So it can be incredibly hard to reach with your fingers on yourself. So if you are a vulva owner or a woman and you're trying to find this for yourself, you may have a hard time reaching it with your own fingers. So how do you find the A-spot? Now, whether you are doing this on your own body or you're doing it with a partner on their body, or you're working as a couple to find the A spot, I want to encourage you to start by finding the G spot. It's going to sort of be your location marker, if you will. I want to encourage you to go back and watch my video that is an instructional on finding and activating the G-spot. I'm going to link it below.

Speaker 1: 5:53

Once you have found the G-spot, which is located right inside the vaginal opening, for some people it can be as deep as two inches. For someone like me, it's right inside my vaginal opening. From there you're going to move two to four inches deeper. Now all of this really depends on a person's body. I hate when we put specific measurements to it because really the best way to locate these erogenous zones is by trial and error and by really turning her on so that she feels it when you do finally hit the right spot and it gets excited. If I had personally followed the guideline for finding my G-spot, I would have never found it. I would have been reaching way too deep inside of my body and as a result, of course, my A-spot is definitely not six inches inside of my body.

Speaker 1: 6:55

Now you may be wondering if you will notice a different texture or is there some sort of sign that you've actually hit the A-spot? Generally speaking, from what the research says and from my own experience, I haven't noticed any difference in texture. However, some research says for some people the A-spot may feel smoother. Some people say maybe it's a little puffier. Some research says it's the size of a penny. Says it's the size of a penny. I would not depend on any of that and I would depend on either feedback or tuning into yourself if you're doing this exploration on your own.

Speaker 1: 7:38

She will definitely know once the ace spot has not only been found but is excited. So what does the ace spot feel like when it's finally located and you're stimulating it? So if she has not turned on ahead of time and you hit the ace spot, it may just feel like pressure without any pleasure at all. I can tell you from my personal experience that when my ace spot is hit, activated, touched, pushed on, pounded on and I'm not aroused, it just feels like pressure and it can actually feel uncomfortable to me. However, when it is approached and activated properly, it can be incredibly arousing, very stimulating and cause a lot of lubrication. Not squirting, this is totally different, but extra lubrication and eventually intense, sometimes deeply emotional orgasms. That can go on and on and on.

Speaker 1: 8:41

Now here's my step-by-step guide to finding and activating the A-spot. Step one we're going to turn her on and we're going to do that by starting with clitoral stimulation. Now, as with the G-spot, the A-spot is much easier to find and locate and for her to feel and feel aroused by when she's already turned on. And we know that most women become aroused and become orgasmic from clitoral and vulval stimulation. So that's where we're going to start Now. I have already created a full guide to clitoral stimulation. I'm going to link it below so that you can head down there and you can listen to it. But what's most important here is that by pleasuring the clitoris, we're going to unlock access to the pleasure of the G-spot, because once she becomes excited, that G-spot is going to become engorged and it's going to make it easier to feel and find. Second, now we are going to start stimulating her G-spot Again. I have a full video on how to stimulate the G-spot for her pleasure. I'm going to link it below.

Speaker 1: 9:59

But once you start stimulating her G-spot and she starts to get more excited, this arousal and pleasure can unlock access and excitement in the body forever. That is the A spot. A good example of this is during penetrative sex. She might start asking for you to go deeper. She might even do this during fingering. You may even feel her vagina start to widen as she gets aroused from the G spot stimulation. That's going to start unlocking access to deeper pleasure and the A-spot. Step three, once she is asking you for deeper penetration or you're asking her are you ready for deeper penetration? Do you want me to go deeper? You're going to go deeper into the vaginal canal and you're going to focus on that area deep inside the canal, about two inches deeper than the G-spot, and applying stimulation. You can do that with the come hither motion. I am not a huge fan of saying that because I find that a lot of people overdo the come hither motion, which can be very painful and take away from the pleasure. But that is where you are going to start focusing, adding stimulation as you move deeper. I encourage you to continue stimulating her clitoris.

Speaker 1: 11:36

The A-spot is associated with blended and multiple orgasms. Some women will not be able to orgasm alone from A-spot stimulation. They will still need you to be stimulating the clitoris or the G-spot, but they will feel the orgasm that comes from deeper within and that A spot erogenous zone, a spot orgasms, can be incredibly intense. First, because they are located so deep within your body, they may feel very different to a woman who has not come regularly from internal stimulation. On top of it, oftentimes they are blended with your clitoral orgasm or your G-spot orgasm, and that's why you may also find that she experiences multiple orgasms, because she can continue to write off the different types of orgasms that are occurring at the same time. She may also feel overwhelmed and need you to stop, and that can come either from a physical place of overwhelm and exhaustion or from an emotional place of deep, deep release.

Speaker 1: 13:52

So to sum up my three-step process think of clitoral pleasure as the key to unlocking the G-spot, and G-spot pleasure as the key to unlocking the A-spot. The A-spot and then the A-spot. Pleasure is the key to unlocking multitudes of ways to orgasm and experience pleasure together. My top tip for finding and pleasuring the A-spot is practice makes perfect and keep the pressure low. A-spot orgasms may take time to achieve and you may never achieve a A-spot orgasm on its own. Be consistent with practicing finding the A-spot. If you start to get frustrated because you aren't finding it, then back off. Enjoy a G-spot orgasm or clitoral play. Also, start with light pressure and then slowly build up to more intense strokes if and only if it feels good.

Speaker 1: 14:57

So here are a couple techniques you can use when trying to find the A-spot and when learning how to pleasure it and bring it to orgasm. First of all, I'm going to say in the beginning always include clitoral stimulation. So if you have a partner, this can be a little bit easier. Have your partner use their fingers. You can use your fingers on yourself when exploring your A-spot. It just may be a little bit more difficult, depending on your comfort and your reach, but if you have a partner, they can use their fingers. They can stimulate clitoris through oral sex while they use their fingers to enter you, or you can help them out by stimulating your own clitoris while they use their fingers inside of you. You can use a toy on your clitoris while they explore inside of you as well.

Speaker 1: 15:54

Another way you can explore your A-spot and you can do this on your own or with a partner is to use a vibrator that is designed either for the G-spot or A-spot and reaches five to six inches inside of your body. I can suggest one like the WeVibe Rave 2. You can see it is long enough to reach inside and activate both the G spot and the A spot, and the cool thing about this vibrator in particular is that its vibrations radiate all the way down the shaft of it. If you are listening on my podcast, you can go over to my YouTube channel and see the RAVE 2. I have a full review on it and I will link it below. So it will stimulate your A-spot, but the body of it vibrates, so it's also going to stimulate your G-spot and it will most likely, depending on how you position it reach your clitoris as well. So if you are exploring your A-spot on your own, this is going to be a great wand for you to use. If you are a partner to someone and you're helping them find their A-spot, this might be a nice tool when your fingers get tired, because they will.

Speaker 1: 17:09

The next way you can explore and try to find the A-spot is, obviously, if you are with a penis owner. They can use their penis to try to stimulate that A-spot. I suggest only moving on to this level of exploration. Once you've already sort of found it with fingers and they know what they're shooting for, you can of help them out by stimulating your clitoris. Or, if you are the partner with the penis, you can stimulate their clitoris with your hand, your fingers or a vibe while you enter them. I will be talking about positions that are best for this in one minute Now.

Speaker 1: 17:44

Finally, if you are exploring your A-spot on your own, you are a vulva owner, a woman, and you are wanting to find your A-spot on your own, you are a vulva owner, a woman, and you are wanting to find your A-spot on your own, there are tools that are going to really help you do that, and I've got them right here. I highly suggest using dual stimulators, and the kind of dual stimulators I like are ones that give pleasure air attack to your clitoris while having an arm that reaches inside and hits your G-spot and or A-spot. My favorite dual stimulators that I use, and regularly use to play with my A-spot and find my A-spot, are the Womanizer Duo 2. I have done a review on this baby. I talk about it all the time. If you've been listening to me for any time at all, you know that I love this dual stimulator. You can see she has a little bit of a longer arm so I can push her deep inside, and I'm going to give all the credit to the Duo 2 for my very well-rounded knowledge of my A-Spot. This is going to be a great toy for you to use if you are on your own and you are wanting to find your A-Spot. Another one that's actually new and I just tried for the first time this last week and it activated my A-Spot, much to my surprise, is the Lilo Enigma Double Sonic, and if you are watching on YouTube you can see it has a very flexible arm. I will provide a link to it below, but it blew my mind and it made it very easy for me to find my A-spot in like next to no time at all, for me to find my A spot in like next to no time at all. And finally, one of the last dual stimulators that is perfect for hitting the A spot is by Tracy's Dog. It is the OG Stimulator. It has an arm that reaches deep enough it stimulates the clitoris and all of the vulva around it and it's going to give you a good shot at feeling that pleasure deep, deep inside.

Speaker 1: 19:59

Finally, the best A-spot positions during sex. The number one position for exploring the A-spot during sex is the lifted missionary position. So she is going to be laying on her back. You can get a wedge or a pillow to put under her hips. It may give your partner or the penis owner better access to moving deeper inside. So give that a try Again. I highly recommend, if you are the person entering her or on top, make room for her hands or a toy so she can continue to stimulate her clitoris while you stimulate her G and A spot.

Speaker 1: 20:45

The second best position is doggy style. When she's on her hands and knees in front of you, you can insert your fingers from behind, with your fingers curving down. It will allow you to access directly that A spot area and you will be able to go more deeply inside of her. You may also quite easily access her clitoris on the outside and the G-spot. Also, when she's in doggy style position, she may be able to prop some pillows under her chest and stimulate her clitoris on her own as well. If you are having sex again, it's the same for the penis owner. They're going to be able to move more deeply inside of her and hopefully stimulate that A-spot as well.

Speaker 1: 21:34

And finally, one of the best positions for finding the A-spot is cowgirl her on top. If she is on top, she is going to be able to move her body and position the penis when it's inside her in the place it needs to be to reach that deep A-spot location. Also the angle of the bodies and the way the penis enters. Actually, the natural curve of the penis is going to be more likely to hit the A-spot as well. She can also, when she's on top, use a vibe to activate her clitoral pleasure. This might also be a good time to wear a cock ring. I love Fun Factory's nose cock ring. It has little prongs that stick out and will hit her clitoris and give it that continual vibration while she moves against you and you reach her A spot, and the chances of having a blended orgasm in that situation are high. I can say that from some serious personal experience.

Speaker 1: 22:44

The bottom line is the journey to exploring and discovering the A spot is one that can help you unlock more pleasure and deepen your connection with yourself and with your partner.

Speaker 1: 23:00

It can help you and a partner have a more orgasmic, intense and closely bonded relationship and if you are on this journey on your own, it can really help you process emotions, release stress and trauma and build a more trusting and loving relationship with yourself. A drop a comment below the video. If you are on my YouTube channel at TalkSexWithAnnette, you can always scroll down and click on my SpeakPipe link and leave me a voicemail. You can email me at Annette, at TalkSexWithAnnette as well. I am happy to answer as many questions as I can, either in upcoming podcast episodes or short form videos. So let me know. And if you are someone who is looking for assistance in your intimate life, either with yourself or with a partner, or you just want someone to help you on your path to finding or maintaining or improving the relationship you're in, remember my books are open for sex, relationship and intimacy coaching, and you can find out more about that at talksexwithanettecom. So until next time, I'll see y'all in the locker room. Cheers.