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Hi, this is Annette Benedetti, your hostess for a locker room talk and shots, the podcast that likes to think of itself as the queer NPR of raunchy women's sex talk. You are about to sit in on the kind of conversations women have on their girls' nights out or behind closed doors, while enjoying delicious drinks and dishing about sex, think fun, honest and feminist as fuck, and always with the goal of fighting the patriarchy one orgasm at a time. Welcome to the locker room Ring load. Today's locker room talk and shots topic is male chastity your Loctober calendar. So we are at this point about a week away from October, which is also known as Loctober.
Annette Benedetti:If you are involved at all in the male chastity BDSM kink world, you've probably heard of Loctober. Now, if you've been listening to this podcast for any amount of time, I think we've done two male, two or three male chastity podcast episodes with Lucy, our local Russian Dominatrix, who has been practicing male chastity, and done that in October many times before We've walked through what male chastity is. We will revisit that in this podcast, but we will not be going in depth into it. So if you are unfamiliar with male chastity and you want to catch up so you can enjoy the rest of this podcast, this podcast A. There are episodes. You can scroll back to B. You can scroll down to the notes in this podcast and I'm going to link an article that will link out to all the podcasts, all of the articles, all of the products you need to get going in time for October 1st when Loctober begins. So you've got everything you need in the notes of this podcast as well. For you, there is going to be a link to my e-newsletter.
Annette Benedetti:If you sign up for it, the only thing you're going to receive is education on all different kinks, including male chastity and Loctober, at tips for better sex and sales and discounts on incredible products that are going to improve your whole life, but especially your life in the bedroom and when playing with yourself. So I advise you sign up to that and all through October you are going to be sent lots of fun things to try and directions on how to try them. So, before we move on, if you are new to the podcast and you don't know who Lucy is, lucy is one of my very, very closest friends. She is also a Russian dominatrix. She is well versed in BDSM. She's well versed in male chastity and lives it in her life. She's the key holder man.
Annette Benedetti:And she's done a wonderful job of kind of introducing all of us to male chastity and Loctober last year. And, lucy, why don't you introduce yourself and then remind them of the past episodes you've been in and the sensation.
Lucy:I feel like there's so many at this point. So hi everybody. I am Lucy, as you just heard Annette say. I've been around since the. I am the OG member, the original and yeah, no, I have been on so many episodes I barely remember all of them at this point. But the other, loctober, or I guess the male chastity we did last year, is a good precursor to this one, and then the Toys one would actually be as well a good one to listen to, because those are all the things you will need for the Loctober section.
Annette Benedetti:Now, I think, the Loctober one we did last year. You guys also, if you are listening to this, you're going to want to run to my YouTube channel, which is where we launched, I think, the Loctober one last year.
Annette Benedetti:So you were actually able to see some of the products last year, but today, Lucy yeah, lucy is here with me today at my home and has brought some toys, so we are going to be able to show you again some products and toys that you can use in your Loctober adventures. So we will do our best to describe them to the listeners. But, again, you're going to want to probably see them. You can check them out at my YouTube, which is just Annette Benedetti, and then I will, of course, be putting toys in the articles and if you sign up for that newsletter, you're going to see them there as well. But today our goal is, if you listen to the end of this podcast, our listeners should be able to map out yeah, full Loctober shenanigan activity, fun time.
Annette Benedetti:Yes, so from the time that you put the caulk cage on to the time that it comes off, we are going to have ideas for how to play. We're going to give you an explicit instructions on when cleaning needs to happen. We're going to give you ideas for reward and punishments. Now, depending on what you're into, we're going to kind of run the gamut of ideas for people with different kinks, but you're going to want to stay around to the end to find out what all of those are. I'm ready to get started.
Lucy:We are having champagne to kick off Loctober Cheers.
Annette Benedetti:I'm damn excited about this, lucy. Before we start, I just I know I've shared with you a little bit, but this last year when, when you first started talking to me about male chastity, I don't think I got it Like I was, like I'm like I don't really know why this is a thing, and then I played with it a little bit. I got to see my first caulk in a cage. I got to have a little control of it.
Annette Benedetti:I've definitely, off and on over the last year, played with it a little bit and was pleased. And now I'm like it is, it's incredibly erotic, it's incredibly exciting for in my experience both myself and the caged cock I'm surprised at how genuinely sexy it is. And it's not just, I mean, it is kinky, but it's also very, very, it's a very sexy dynamic that in my experience at least and I'm assuming the same for you actually makes me feel super sensual and sexy and empowered. And then the person wearing the caulk cage did say that actually wearing the caulk cage for him felt like probably akin to what it feels like when I wear lingerie, like he felt sexy with it on and how it looked and like the way it looked on himself and his cock.
Annette Benedetti:So that's just a little firsthand input from me. But can you quickly kind of sum up what male chastity is and then what locked over is?
Lucy:just a couple quick, quick sentences. Yes, so male chastity is as it exactly. What it sounds like is when you think you hold her, decide together with your companion. Obviously consent is a thing, please refer to that and you are putting a caulk cage on your partner, whoever they may be, and then you get to keep the key to yourself and open it whenever you so desire, and it is very fun for everybody. They get quadruple times more horny and then you get all the pleasure. So right, like that is.
Annette Benedetti:The key holder is the person who has locked the cage. Of the cage cannot come off, the penis that is locked and also the penis cannot become fully erect or come.
Lucy:I mean, in that situation it depends on the cage you have. But yes, that is the point. You should not be able to have an orgasm with the cage on Right. So that is now belongs to you as the key holder, and you are the one responsible for the orgasms of the other person Now in October.
Annette Benedetti:The goal, the ultimate goal if you are way down the line yes, in male chastity is to keep the key cage on the whole month and we'll get into like, obviously there is taking off and cleaning it and all of that stuff of course. But for people who aren't that far down the line, let's say like I think I'm going to be a great example for that. If I want to partake in October which I do I definitely do not have a partner, nor do I have the skills to keep someone in a cage for 31 days. But you know, I think you can incorporate in if you are living with the person or you have a cage that can be remotely locked and there are those things, and we did go over how to do long distance play in the past. You could incorporate the cage and activities For sure 31 days in a row.
Lucy:As well as I mean for the very beginners, even 20 minutes in a cage can be a start, like you don't have to decide that okay, it's on, and now it's on forever. Start small, get comfortable. Sometimes it's 20 minutes, sometimes it's an hour, sometimes it's just for the duration of the play activity and then you are done, so it's. I mean, obviously you're the key holder and the partner you're playing with. You'll both get to decide what that looks like.
Annette Benedetti:Right, and so what you could make October for you is just playing every day in one way or the other with the cage.
Annette Benedetti:So there are a lot of different takes on October, but the idea is that every day of October we're going to just call it October you do some sort of kinky cagey controlling thing. Any, yeah, yeah. So we're going to get started and we're going to start with. You did bring some cock cages, so we're just going to show you guys and I haven't I don't know that you showed these ones before. These are pretty Wow. I don't think I've seen them. So Lucy brought some cock cages and I'm going to describe them to my listeners and, of course, you guys can come see them. Right, it's black and it's got a almost like it. What is it made out of, lucy? This one is just a plastic. Oh, interesting.
Lucy:Yeah, so it is Careful it will. It's not attached. And then it's a similar one, but this one is a metal one. This cock cage goes only on the top of the end of the penis, so it holds the most of the penis and the head and does not go around the balls. And this one is the fancier one because this one does come with a Prince Albert piercing. So getting this one off is very hard because it's attached to you partially.
Annette Benedetti:So the one that has the Prince Albert, the second one that she showed, if you want to hold it up again to the camera, is made out of what?
Lucy:So this is stainless, medical, stainless steel, and it has a beautiful decoration in the steel.
Annette Benedetti:It kind of goes up the upper shaft of the penis and then it has a head on it where the lock is. So the head kind of clamps over the top of it and it comes to keys and it comes with keys and it has Prince Albert piercing. For those of you who don't know what that is, it's a piercing through the head of the penis, correct? Yeah, I have not yet seen one of those in real life, but apparently Lucy has. Now, the black one is made out of plastic. I really like this one. It's really beautiful. I had held it up to the camera. It's also kind of a lacy, I don't know pattern.
Lucy:You'll have some pictures of this as well.
Annette Benedetti:It also has a head that clamps on the top of it, that has spikes in it.
Lucy:Yeah, that's for funner times, it's for a little torture, a little torture.
Annette Benedetti:It's going to poke the tip of the tip of that dick. It's hot as fuck. I like it.
Lucy:I like this one, and these guys are made by Evocean. They are a custom making caulk cage production. These are quite pricey, but they are for you specifically. So you, as a male person with a penis or person with a penis, will measure your penis to the specifications of the instructions that they give you and then they will make you one. Yeah, they're beautiful.
Annette Benedetti:However, those are not the only. I would not start with that necessarily.
Lucy:No, these are about $1,000 per cage, so start with something simple and normal.
Annette Benedetti:And I have. We'll have a list of starter to intermediate caulk cages. Caulk cages for you to check out. They are made out of all sorts of things. Right, you've got stainless steel. You've got a silicone, soft silicone ones, plastic ones like the black one we have.
Lucy:These are 3D printed. As I understand they yeah, they come. I think there's even leather ones. Those are obviously not as secure, right, because it's leather.
Annette Benedetti:Right.
Lucy:But also they. I'm sure they're beautiful on a. They're sexy. I've seen some leather on a caulk and fuck man. All right.
Annette Benedetti:But the whole point is, as we go through our 31 days of playtime with Loctober, I would suggest you listen to some of the activities that we talk about and then consider which caulk cages you want to have throughout the month there are. We're going to offer up ideas that could involve silicone squishy cages or leather cages, ideas that your metal cage would work, but the bottom line is you're going to want to probably have a variety for the 31 days. The one one cage is I. It would be hard, I would think, to get through 31 days of a variety of play if you only have one cage.
Lucy:For sure, or I mean if it is like the one of the permanent fancier versions, it probably will work as well.
Annette Benedetti:If you pay a couple thousand dollars, she'll be yes but it's that's. That's when it's a lifestyle folks, that's when it's like it's like that, that's, that's like a wedding ring right there. It's just a locked cage on a caulk.
Lucy:It is, since the person yeah, my person doesn't have a wedding ring. He lost it some time ago, so we replaced it with a cockroach. Makes perfect sense. Now, that makes sense to me. Yeah, lose this one.
Annette Benedetti:This does not surprise me, but let's launch in. Let's just start with day one. We are on lock, october 1. Here we are, we're excited. We wake up in the morning. And how does that look for you, lucy?
Lucy:I think it's a nice little gesture to make a little ritual from it. I'm not sure what the October 1 is this week this year Hopefully it's a weekend, because then you can have a lovely breakfast in bed and some champagne to celebrate the fabulous activity you're having, and then make a little ritual where the person you are with brings you the cockroach on a velvet pillow being romantic here with a key, and then you can put it on them or they can put it on you. That's another thing you probably want to do practice putting it on and off before the locking situation actually happens.
Annette Benedetti:Before you get into the ritual, because you don't want the ritual to be awkward and October 1 is actually.
Lucy:Or it's.
Annette Benedetti:It's Sunday. It's Sunday, oh, fantastic, so you can. Here we are Like the key holder can stay in bed and be served breakfast in bed along with the cage and key on a pillow, and then do you get them off right before you cage them, so at least they get one release.
Lucy:So they. It would be a good idea to actually do a pre the day before, as probably as many orgasms as you can get, to make sure everything is drained properly. And do remember that you can still have orgasms, obviously not in a cage, but that is not part of October necessarily. You can let them out and make sure everything is drained properly. So we don't want to get any lovely gentlemen injured and whatnot. So Right.
Annette Benedetti:So one thing we didn't mention in the beginning, I don't think, is that the ultimate goal for some people in October is no orgasm for the caged cock, but that doesn't have to be a goal for everybody.
Lucy:For sure. I mean the non-orgasm is for November. There's the no, no, not November, and that whole activity is where you don't get to come for a full month. There's the October's. Less about the. I mean you can still have an orgasm.
Annette Benedetti:You can still.
Lucy:Yeah, but it's yet again. It's up to you. You have to decide what you wish to do.
Annette Benedetti:Well, it is fun to, like you know, restrict orgasms.
Lucy:For sure. And also you can ruin some instead of you know getting.
Annette Benedetti:Right. Well, you explain the ruined orgasm really quick.
Lucy:So a ruined orgasm is an orgasm that still ejaculates but does not get that fuzzy pleasure feeling from. So you stop right before is what's happening. You do have to pay attention to that, or you can do a milking activity where you just do that. I'm sure there's a.
Annette Benedetti:Milking. I have not done a milking podcast.
Lucy:I should do that one too. We will need to have.
Annette Benedetti:Yeah, are you good at milking?
Lucy:I've always wanted to. It's quite fun. We will definitely come back and talk about milking because, Ooh, sexy as fuck, All right.
Annette Benedetti:so again, you decide how many orgasms your cock owner gets. That's up to you. So you're going to have a ritual. You decide when, where and how that looks like. If you are going to restrict orgasms, like maybe the day before, as Lucy says, you know, jack that cock off and let it come a lot.
Lucy:Yeah, a good two, three times probably.
Annette Benedetti:I mean, my preference would definitely be a few days without orgasm. I think I would make my cock suffer a little bit. That works. That would be probably what I would want to do. So that day one is cage on breakfast in bed. Day two Now we're getting into it, we're ramping up to what we want to do.
Annette Benedetti:Oh, I like the idea of starting the kind of torture right off with you enjoying pleasure, and my first idea was watching the kind of porn that I like and having my caged cock watch it with me, and I think that you can have throughout the month you can this isn't just a day one thing. I think you can incorporate this. I mean anytime Throughout the month, anytime, anytime you can watch porn.
Lucy:It's just ideas. This is just what we have for day one.
Annette Benedetti:Just for what day one, and here are the ways, the variations you can take on it. If you want to add it into the other days for something to do, I think they can be eating you out with you watch your favorite porn. Or if you have a suite of toys that you like used upon your body and clit when you're doing this alone, you can have them do it. So you are hands free to relax. I have, I love pleasure air tech, the clit sucking toys. You know, typically that's what I use when I'm watching porn, which is on my phone usually, and then I'm holding my phone with one hand and I'm taking care of business with the other hand.
Lucy:It would be lovely to hand over you know some of my favorite pleasure air tech toys and let yeah, and if you are not super into porn another exciting thing you can do on that same vein find a nice erotica story and have them read it, and have your partner read it to you as you masturbate as well. I hadn't even thought about that.
Annette Benedetti:That's a great idea. Have them read to you, or, or while you're reading, you can sit on their face, especially if you have a. What is it called? The chair, the, the cleaning chair. Imagine if you now, if you had, did you we?
Annette Benedetti:I think we showed them your, your cleaning chair and if you go to YouTube and you scroll back, you will see the cleaning chair and it allows you to sit comfortably while the caged cock lays on their back under the chair and eats your pussy and you could read your erotica and relaxing while they service you as they should service you as you should. I like that idea.
Annette Benedetti:And then we, and then we also brought up the face sitting you could sit on their face while you watch porn, especially if you have porn on a TV in front of you or whatever you want to watch, that's going to get you off. So right there, that is an. You know that will cover a couple of days. If that's something you're into, well, let's talk about. I think something that could be really fun to do with someone who's in a cage, during the times that you take them out of the cage, is restraining them first and while you so, tying them up using rope and Lucy has some great rope here, I know I should have broke out. I've got my little Velcro wrist restraints that I love primarily used on me Beautiful leather restraints as well.
Annette Benedetti:Leather restraints, there's Velcro restraints, there are under the bed of restraints. For sure, if you ask me, I will get you links to all kinds of good stuff like that. My vision, and then you can tell me your vision, would be to have them starfished out, cock up on the bed fully restrained, and then taking them out of the cage and then, just for fun, playing with the cock or torturing it. I like to slap a cock.
Annette Benedetti:Or some balls or some balls. I mean, know what you're doing if you're going to slap some balls you don't want to like yeah. No injuries, guys. We do love the cocks that are being caged, but, yeah, I think that that is something that can be incorporated throughout the month really easily.
Lucy:Frankly, you should, if you are on the further down the line section, that it should be what you do every time you need to take the cock off, because it's yours and they shouldn't be touching it because it's yours, so you in an intermediate.
Annette Benedetti:so what you're going to be getting for me folks is probably a very beginner. What?
Lucy:Lucy You're getting for me is to the max, cranked up to 11. Yeah, you're going to be intermediate expert level stuff.
Annette Benedetti:So what you're saying is in your situation throughout October, because you do do it every day right throughout the. Do you take the cock cage off at night? No, All right, so you just are washing. Yes, so you don't ever take the cock cage off. No, you do take it off for washing. You take it off. He's not allowed to touch it, he's not.
Lucy:I take it off. He's restrained, he's not allowed to touch it. We shower together, I wash everything. He's not allowed to touch anything Penis-y, just me. And then back restrained and I put it on and it's back to locked until I take it off again.
Annette Benedetti:All right, so that would be intermediate or expert level, october 31st. So restraints are a must. You need to go get some restraints. They're going to come into play at least at some point during October.
Lucy:I mean, unless you read, your partner really doesn't like restrains, then obviously.
Annette Benedetti:Right, then you don't.
Lucy:But tell him to just lie on his pants or something.
Annette Benedetti:Right Now. I have to believe that anyone that's willing to put their cock in a cage is going to be slightly interested in restrains.
Lucy:Well, I mean, yes, it is a restraint in itself, it is.
Annette Benedetti:But hey, if you're a person with a penis who's like I like October, but I don't like any kind of other restraints do message me. You can email me at annette at shakesplurrslifecom, or you can scroll down and I do have a voicemail that you can leave your voicemail, but message and send it to me without leaving your name and explained me. I think you only have like three minutes to do so, but do it All right, I'm going to be honest. One of the things that I have enjoyed about the cock cage play in my experience is that the cock cage that we primarily use, that we both like, is actually it's metal and it's rounded metal, so it's pretty smooth. It's kind of like using a still toy or dildo, but we actually incorporate like I will, I will hump, I will bang the cock cage and he'll start to get engorged. He can't get a full heart on, but it's so smooth and I actually like still toys.
Annette Benedetti:I like glass toys because I like the cold, crisp feeling that starts out and then feeling it warm up.
Annette Benedetti:But the thing that's lovely about this cage as well is all of the ridges, so there's these smooth, cool ridges that then give way to the flesh, the warm flesh and I can feel that, which is it's just a magical cage for me. So he gets up in front of me. I typically, in this situation, lie on my back and he's on his knees in front of me and we get the cock cage in and there's like click play and then I just have him move exactly how I want him to. There's just a real thrill knowing that he can't get fully turned on, but that he's turned on and his body is wanting to, but then it gets like squished and stopped. And then I also learned from Lucy's partner, who has had input on this. So this calendar we're putting together actually not only has input from us but from a cock that is regularly caged, and something that he mentioned that I have not tried yet, but I have found some is that there are actually some sleeves.
Lucy:There are and I don't know why I didn't bring one actually that you can put over the cage. Yes, depending obviously on the size of your companion and everything else involved, because cage also has size. Yeah, there are different types you can use and then that is as I understand, for the male person of the penis. It's very exciting because you're still fucking your person, but then the actual feel is so subdued that it's just a complete mind fuck.
Annette Benedetti:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Annette Benedetti:So they're fucking you, but they can't really feel it yeah so, on that note, I think another version of that that I had listed later on in the month and you can do these any day you want to Something I think would be really hot is having a strap on on above the cage and your partner fucking you with the strap on while they're in the cage. Now the feedback I got is that it's a little bit tricky. You need to find the right harness and the right strap on in advance and make sure it fits with the cock cage.
Lucy:I have one of those strap ons.
Annette Benedetti:And we have a strap on that you can use here.
Lucy:Lucy brought this, I did oh the nipple clamps got caught up in it, Right so here's a strap, and this one is nice because kind of the back area is open and kind of goes through your legs only. So this section at the front will have enough space for the cage to stay there, because the strap on whatever ring section that holds the dildo of your choosing is quite a bit higher on the pelvic area.
Annette Benedetti:And, if you're listening, this harness is made of leather correct leather-ish at least and what she showed was in the back of the harness it goes around the leg, so like the butt area is kind of open, and so it allows you to manipulate where that harness is on the front of the body so it can easily go above a cage.
Annette Benedetti:You're just gonna wanna have that figured out ahead of time. And again, there are so many harnesses out there to check out. I will make sure that you all have a list of possibilities, harnesses of all pricing ranges, because I do know L'October can be expensive depending how in it you are. But you don't have to go in at the highest price. You can start with starter materials, see which things you like and then level up from there. So I think that would be hot. Yes, having them fuck you with a dildo and not being able to use their cock and just have it. I like the mind fuck of it. Ooh, I get that. That would be great for some good dirty talk too.
Lucy:Absolutely.
Annette Benedetti:Well, we're now several days into October, clearly, with all these ideas. How often are you washing the cock? What is the schedule on the calendar?
Lucy:You should definitely. I guess it really is dependent on what cage you have. The softer cages need to be cleaned a little more. The plastic ones need to be cleaned in a little more. The metal ones are more resilient just because they are metal and they don't absorb all the bacteria and sweat. So, but every four days minimum.
Annette Benedetti:And you kind of shared your ritual. Do you have any other rituals? Are there things on wash days that you like to incorporate in two wash days?
Lucy:I think that I just enjoy the fact that I get to take everything off and then have my partner in the shower with me. So that's some play. You can do in the shower whatever you want, especially if you get some waterproof handcuffs and handcuff them behind their backs so they can't touch anything. It's getting up. Yeah, it's the expert level version. Yeah, but other than that, since the caulk is out anyways, you can just play with it to your heart's content, whatever you want to do.
Annette Benedetti:So I had some ideas. I felt very inspired by October. You have to admit you're a little bit impressed by the list of activities.
Lucy:You did great.
Annette Benedetti:Yes, dude, I've really gotten into it. So I was thinking about wash days and I'm like let's really make the most of them. Here are the two approaches I've thought about, and it will incorporate some things you can put into the rest of the month. Number one if we are gonna be washing, and especially if I am going to be doing the work and washing his caulk, then prior to that I want him washing everything else, maybe in a little apron, with nothing else mopping the floors, doing the dishes, cleaning the house Well, I direct him with a crop. I got that idea from Lucy's caged person. I'm like fuck, yeah, I will sit and watch you clean and slap your ass or whatever I want to with a crop, I think a crop.
Lucy:I think you guide with a crop. Yeah, so you do wanna use a? Well, we use a crop because it's just slightly less impactful. It's a gentler version than the others that we have, so it's not as destructive. And you don't accidentally wanna. They're washing the dishes and you hit them really hard and then the dish flies away and then it explodes and then you have to clean that up. Not ideal, Not ideal.
Annette Benedetti:So I'm like maybe cleaning days are cleaning days. My other thought is this I'm a fan of ass play and I definitely think ass play and butt play if your caged person is into this, if this is something that's consensual in your relationship, I think that wash days are a perfect day to really get into some anal stuff, right? Oh, for sure. So throughout the month, and let's see, you've got I don't know how many wash days do you have in October If it's a four-ish, five, four or five-ish yeah, yes, four or five-ish Minimum, minimum.
Lucy:Caged depending also. Just be mindful hygiene is hygiene.
Annette Benedetti:Hygiene is hygiene. Take care of that cock.
Lucy:You are gonna want it out of the cage. You know what?
Annette Benedetti:Weird infection. Oh, god forbid, god forbid. We are taking care of our caged cocks, but my thought is it's a good time to incorporate butt play If they are new to it. You're going to want to definitely buy some butt plugs in graduating sizes, and this would be a great time to start. At the beginning of the month, you start with the smallest butt plug and you have them wear it earlier on in the day, or throughout the day, or for a certain amount of time, while they have their cock cage on and while you're doing whatever else you're doing, and then in the evening. It's a good time then to get everything really cleaned up, because you've been playing with the butthole.
Annette Benedetti:As the month goes on, you start in the morning with a small butt plug, then around noon you go to the next one, and then, as you get deeper, deeper, into October you get bigger you get bigger, you get the bigger butt plugs that they learn to take. And if they learn to take those bigger butt plugs, there could be like a reward for them, like what are some more rewards you could give for?
Lucy:them. You can peg them as a reward.
Annette Benedetti:That is definitely intermediate and expert level stuff. Well, unless you've been pegging already, then pegging you probably don't even have to do the small butt plugs For sure.
Lucy:I mean, paging the Patriarchy is a podcast that you can listen to as well, and that was with Lucy. That's a good one.
Annette Benedetti:We talked all about pegging, which is hot.
Lucy:Embrace it, gentlemen, embrace it.
Annette Benedetti:And we did say, well, I did say when I was putting together to Lucy this calendar if you're a beginner in the butt play, then sort of by your last wash day that would be the big pegging hurrah, Like now you've done the butt plugs and the butt beads and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, and today you're gonna take it like the little bitch you are and then you will be rewarded by being able to eat me out. Sounds lovely. That's my reward. That's a good reward. But you have listed other rewards like that. They could be 10 minutes out of the cage, or yeah, so what?
Lucy:other rewards I was thinking about when we were thinking about rewards is for you can make a stipulation in your activities where, for every orgasm that you get, your lovely person in a cage gets 10 minutes out of the cage. I love that idea.
Annette Benedetti:I love that idea.
Lucy:So that is in their best interest to give you as many orgasms as possible.
Annette Benedetti:What I love about some of your rewards over the years that we've talked about is you're really good at finding a reward system that motivates. Like you hand out rewards, like if you clean the house or you do so many chores, then you get whatever the reward is. And could you then also, would a ruined orgasm be considered a reward? Absolutely, because you still get to almost come, you get a little something, something you do right.
Lucy:It's. But then and the great thing about ruin orgasms unlike the regular, where it takes 20 minutes to God knows how long for some Lovely gentleman, not nothing bad about that. That's really fine. With a ruined orgasm it can take to like five minutes and they're back on track right right because you don't get that All the hormones that pulse through your brain and everything else are not quite there, meaning that you can get back to, you know, having your cock ready to go in like five, ten minutes right, I love it.
Annette Benedetti:The other thing I wanted to talk about a little bit here and this is a good time to do what we're talking about rewards and ruined orgasms and this can be incorporated into your play throughout the month is edging. So I don't know how much you all know about edging. I first learned about it in relationship to women edging themselves and Using edging to kind of learn Pleasure and how to orgasm and multiple orgasm and all that stuff. But edging is something you can also do with men. Do you want to talk a little bit about it and then I'll expand?
Lucy:I'm sure let's.
Annette Benedetti:So I'm edging us just like we were saying it's getting your companion just very much on the edge of orgasm for as long as possible right and, and the thing you do have to be careful about is edging is like literally writing the edge of a orgasm, so you're getting them to the point where they are just about to come, but not and then pulling back from it a little bit and then, and then getting back there and pulling back from it.
Annette Benedetti:There's always the risk that they're gonna come, but if they do, then the beauty of that is you get to punish them and that's maybe where you can break out your paddles and your crops and, yeah, you can bend them over your pains.
Lucy:Canes and punish them whatever else, or you can punish them in some other way as well.
Annette Benedetti:What are some other ways to punish them?
Lucy:I mean you can put them back in the cage for longer, or their punishment can be washing dishes, or oh, look at that. What about this?
Annette Benedetti:All right, guys now this you are definitely gonna want to go to YouTube for, but I will describe it just so you know. Guys, I want you to stay tuned because I believe next week I actually have a cock and ball torture podcast coming your way With a expert sexologist who is very well known for her knowledge of Cock and ball torture, and there you can learn all about it. Why, how, all that stuff? So if you want to punish your cock Lucy brought this I'm gonna let you open it.
Lucy:This, this is a toy device.
Annette Benedetti:It is like it's a cock ring with. Situations spikes in it. It is made out of what it's metal one Hold it up there real close so they can see the spikes. So it has spikes on the inside. It's about what an inch wide. Yeah, give her take, give her take, and then she's going to close it and then hold up. So you can see here.
Lucy:And then you can see the teeth right. Yeah, and then you have the little lock.
Annette Benedetti:So it stays on and you can lock it and they can sit there and probably not want to move very much with that on. I can't imagine it's definitely pokey.
Annette Benedetti:I touched it and I was like, oh my cock, that I don't have, but I can still fill sometimes. That's a whole different podcast. It's right, I have a phantom penis. Did not like the look, that, but that's a great torture device. But there are a lot of. We have some nipple clamps here. Why don't you show them? These are metal nipple clamps. You can stick on their nips and torture them because they were very bad. Oh shit, yeah, you put that under balls for sure yeah for ball torture.
Annette Benedetti:I know you could clip those, those babies, anywhere on them and this is where you get to like get out some, you know, get out some Feelings now if you're not really sure how to punish, and maybe you want to try spanking. Head back to the spank therapy podcast episode where a Professional disciplinarian really walks you through all of that stuff. But yeah, I think and I think the fun of October is getting to kind of play into different dynamics and try some of this stuff out again. I want to preface this and we do this and I know that it's a given in this podcast, but all of this stuff really should be discussed in advance of Locktober, meaning you're gonna listen to this podcast and you're gonna need, if you plan on getting into October activities, you need to sit down and discuss them now, not when you're five days into October or ten days, and then be like, hey, I want to torture your balls and they're like you know, they've had a cock cage on for days and they're like whatever you want to do, do it.
Annette Benedetti:Yeah, make sure you have the safe words Figured out the safe words, the safe signs, the safe emotions.
Lucy:Yeah, it's consent.
Annette Benedetti:remembers a thing, please use it accordingly and enthusiastic full-body Consent and not consent that is asked for in the middle of an activity. Yeah, that especially new activities. You do not ask about new activities in the middle of your play. It's got to be when you're both Level headed. You're having coffee in the morning, you're well rested.
Annette Benedetti:You're in touch with your bodies and then you're like, hey, I would like to put a spiky cock cage or at your cock if you don't do X, y and Z at the end of tonight. How do you feel about that?
Lucy:You know for sure. Yeah, I mean, we want to make sure everything is as safe as possible and then this October does not Result and you in a divorce or someone really really getting hurt, or yeah.
Annette Benedetti:Traumatized. I thought her partner had mentioned something about really needing to talk ahead of time because, especially if you are withholding orgasms for the whole month Right, sometimes people With penises I don't think people with glitz do this as much but while be so frustrated, they'll start to consent to things that maybe they wouldn't otherwise, just because they're so pent up, and so it's not a good idea to ask them after they have been, you know, withheld from having an orgasm for a week or a week and a half. I mean, come on after four days, guys, if you're like pleading for anything, that's your own weakness.
Annette Benedetti:But no, I think that that was good insight from someone who does have a penis and balls and and comes that way. So that's sort of something to keep in mind. But let's move on. I this is where I want to talk a little bit, and I don't know if you've played in this at all, but I definitely know that the idea of this has some appeal to me. I think, starting with Having them do some quote public play meaning you take them out with their cock cage on, and maybe you start by going to a strip club and watch a restaurant, restaurant, just a restaurant.
Lucy:Just go out with your cock cage to a dinner and then maybe you can put your hand on his Leg and go up the leg. You know, just be a little naughty, but not super naughty. That's I, this one. This is the beginner version. Yes, and then the strip club, then the strip club.
Annette Benedetti:That's the 2.0 version. Apparently my mind is ready for 2.0, and then 3.0 is a sex club. Yeah, so my thought was yes so 3.0 is sex up. But yeah, I like the idea of taking my cage cock to a strip club and then at some point buying them a lap dance, oh, and so this the stripper is not gonna know, but we're gonna know. And how fucking hot is that? It's like you enjoy that stripper baby. You enjoy it, oh, but you can't fully enjoy it, can you no? So sinister. I love it.
Lucy:The other laugh.
Annette Benedetti:And then I think that working up from there is you. You go to a sex club and this is where I think and I do have a podcast coming up about this, I know we haven't talked about it a lot, but some cuckolding comes in like Meaning that your caged cock Watches you. Maybe you go to a sex club and you make out with another man in front of them and they see this other man or woman.
Annette Benedetti:I think that with I mean to be fair. I do think, depending on the sexuality of your partner, that Cuckolding seems to be more of like a man watching another man with his female partner. I do think that it would be really fun to have a threesome With another woman especially if you're bisexual like me and then have this threesome, with the third person Restrained in their cock cage and just serving you while you two play with each other. I didn't even put that in the calendar. Throw that motherfucking one right on the calendar.
Annette Benedetti:I think that that's a great idea, but the cuckolding is something you could depending on if that is something your partner is open to and I think this is where your Partner through and the advice of like don't bring up cuckolding halfway through October, because it's something you've been wanting to do and and he's like whatever you want. Yes, can I get ten minutes out of the cage? That has to be something that you know, because watching your partner with someone else, if it's not your thing and you're not ready for it, can be really it could be traumatizing.
Lucy:Oh yeah, and yet again will result in all around not good situation.
Annette Benedetti:Not a good you get jealous.
Lucy:This is not for you. Yeah, you can't be jealous. Yeah, this is not. This is not a thing.
Annette Benedetti:That's something that you have to work on and be okay with. But If you are with someone who's open to that or someone who's? By a buy cock owning partner. That could be super fun, which I hadn't even sat and thought about to now for our by men out there. Wouldn't it be fun to have a threesome with another man, who then can take your partner, who's in his cage, from behind and have sex with him while he eats you out? Oh my god.
Annette Benedetti:I have the fantasies, currently the best you guys if I don't get a big fucking thing. Thank you from some of you.
Lucy:No, that is a. That's a fantasy I have.
Annette Benedetti:Oh god, that would be amazing, I'll get there. That would be amazing.
Lucy:So if you are also wait yeah you can peg the cock that is caged and they can fuck you.
Annette Benedetti:You can peg oh and the other guy can fuck you. Yeah, well, you're pegging the oh. I like that.
Lucy:That's well. Yeah, I really haven't done that yet, but it's on my list or you Can.
Annette Benedetti:You can peg the locked cage and they can suck off the cock in front of them. I really like watching a guy suck dick.
Lucy:Hmm, yeah, I have to be a, yeah, my sexual person.
Annette Benedetti:I think so. I watched a guy who did not define himself as bisexual suck on the cock you would have to be open, oh, but open, like you have to understand you can suck a cock and still be straight and if you also back to the pegging, they can suck your silicone cock.
Lucy:Yes, I forgot, they peg you. That was a great.
Annette Benedetti:That was a great little piece of advice that Lucy's partner also sent. I hadn't even thought about that and I think that's something I would let. I have a strap on and I have Harness, I think, watching a caged cock owner suck my cock. It's so hot I think I just got an erection? Have you ever done it with a strap on dildo that has a vibrator on your end?
Lucy:Yes, I have a harness that also has a magic wand attachment and, yes, you can definitely get off by just fucking. You know the face of your person. Fake cock.
Annette Benedetti:Oh my god, yeah, october is so much better than December. You know the advent like. This is so boring. How exciting. Which brings me to wanting to oh, you had brought Some black light and some black light markers, can you?
Lucy:yes, so these are Just light bulbs, but they are black light light bulbs and you can just put them in any fixture you have. This is for things to do. Well, you know, your cock is on the cage and you're like, what can we do today? Um, we discovered that this is quite fun. Well, I have a whole rigged up system where everything is black light, because I'm awesome. But you can buy one of these and then get some just UV paints that are super fun, just on Amazon, and I'm pretty sure this whole situation was maybe $12. And then you can have the black light and draw on your partner and they can draw on you A big part, and it doesn't always have to be.
Annette Benedetti:But I think that people relate L'October male chastity and all of that a little bit to the humiliation kink and a lot of people do not get it, and so I have an article that is out. It's a guide to the humiliation kink and helping people understand it, especially if it's something that you secretly find kind of turns you on the idea of and that makes you feel weird at like what's wrong with me that that turns me on blah, blah, blah. No things wrong with you, you're fine. There is. I've put together a great article on it explaining it how it can even be for some when used with consenting communication in a therapeutic manner. So check that out because my thought was something, a fun activity that I know some people are into.
Annette Benedetti:This isn't something I'm necessarily into, but I could probably work up to it, people like to have naughty things written all over them, like being written label of slut or cum slut or whatever, so you could write things on your caged cock and they could decorate your body and write messages of adoration all over your body, which I think would be really fun.
Lucy:I also and it could be right before the washing activity, because then you're gonna go take a shower together. Yeah, you could so you wash all that off.
Annette Benedetti:That's a great idea. Schedule it for wash day, mm-hmm, and then they get to wash your body afterwards, right?
Lucy:I like that.
Annette Benedetti:What about people with foot fetishes, or incorporating the foot fetish into your monthly calendar? Now, this could include having your caged cock. Is there a name? I'm calling them the caged cock. What do you call them? I think that is the name.
Lucy:I like it. The caged cock suck on your toes kiss your feet, wash your feet, rub your feet, massage your feet especially if anything else too, you can massage, if you enjoy massages Since this is your month, lovely lady or gentlemen, friends, who also enjoy the cock holding, I mean they're your person. If you like massages and you wanna massage that day, be like, hey, 10 minutes out of the cage and I need a 30 minute massage, foot massage, regular massage, whatever else massage you like, you can afford that massage. Yeah.
Annette Benedetti:I like that and I think that when it comes to the foot fetish stuff, like knowing how much feet turn them on and having them do those things, yes, then you could restrain them as a reward. Restrain them and then you could give them a foot job with your feet. You could even have them give you a pedicure and make your feet all nice and soft. They can learn, they can Google that shit if they want to you can add them.
Annette Benedetti:And treat your feet, get them all nice and soft and paint the toenails. They can do that and then the reward is you use feet on their cock and balls. I think that that could be a lot of fun. Now, this can also be incorporated in to if you're doing some cock and ball torture and they're into that. You can then use your beautifully pedicured feet to squash their balls Again. You don't, this is not one-on-one shit. You're gonna take a class. You're gonna read up. You are not going to ruin their balls.
Lucy:Yeah, those do break, they break. We don't want that to happen. And then it's an emergency room, and then you have to explain a cock on a cage and an emergency room. Not a good idea. Bad it would be uncomfortable conversation to have.
Annette Benedetti:I mean, nothing would surprise them. You might even end up with a new caged cock. If it was a cock owner doctor. That now I'm just going into my own fantasies. But you could step on their cock with your newly manicured feet, so that could be incorporated. So we have one toy left that we haven't talked about but that, if you've been watching the YouTube channel, you've probably noticed something strange in the background, and it is a swing.
Annette Benedetti:It's a yoga swing but really it's a sex swing and it's in my place. It was brought to me by Lucy I have rafters up above that it is attached to and talk about the sex swing and how you would incorporate it into.
Lucy:I mean, it's just for all the funsies you can have. Yet again for purposes of you can be in the swing and then they can have your way with you with a fabulous strap on. Or they can be in the swing and you can have your way with them with a fabulous strap on, and then actually, one of the ways I use this swing is for leverage purposes when I am above the person, since it has such lovely handles. There they are. It helps you just hold on, so the handles that are hanging down.
Annette Benedetti:There are for the hands, correct.
Lucy:I'm like yeah, I mean for legs too. Like there's two sides, are those lower ones for legs? Yeah, you can use those.
Annette Benedetti:So you could almost have kind of like a Hovering sex, hovering sex, hovering sex so the feet could go in. So there's four straps that you can kind of see behind me, and so the feet can go into some, the hands can go into others, and then the person can just swing you back and forth and fuck you. Yeah, that's awesome. There are like a large variety of swings and we will get you links for swings that are affordable and that can be hidden. Well, I mean assuming you have to hide it. I know that not everyone has kids, or you know, as a guest sober ever it's a yoga swing Right.
Annette Benedetti:No one will ever know. No one will ever know, so you can incorporate that. The other thing that we haven't talked about a lot here but that you can incorporate throughout the month of October is service. We've talked a little bit about it, but maybe, lucy, you can share some ideas for what that means, some of the things that you that I enjoy. Yes, that you and making him do.
Lucy:So some of the things I enjoy. I think my personal favorite is having them in an apron, nothing else on except the cage, maybe a butt plug. It's always fun and they just do the chores around the house, be it cooking your breakfast or washing the dishes or the floor. There was a suggestion made from my person that you can have a humbler, which I also did not bring, but you can Google it.
Annette Benedetti:Will you describe the humbler?
Lucy:So it is a S type shape device that goes around the balls and the behind of the leg, which does not. It makes it very hard to walk around, so you have to crawl on all fours Because it restricts your.
Annette Benedetti:I'm going to find one of those.
Lucy:Yeah, I should have brought it. It was. I knew where it was. Even I don't know why I got it.
Annette Benedetti:Lucy will send me a picture of the humbler. I will, and I will include it in my newsletter so that you guys can see what it is. In fact, I'll make sure that the newsletters that go out will have all of these products and then pictures of what's actually here and then links and pictures of other things, so that you guys get a good idea of the variety and can pick what is best for you. I think that that's a good idea.
Lucy:For sure. And then that gives you the option of having them, you know, wash the floor on their hands and knees.
Annette Benedetti:Knee pads would be good for this month.
Lucy:Yes, I mean depending on what your floor looks like. But yes, knee pads is probably a good idea.
Annette Benedetti:I think there's a lot that's going to be happening on the knees, so you probably want to do that, or a pillow for other knee related activities.
Lucy:Another thing is fun to do, just back to the service of foot rubs and back rubs, neck rubs. Another nice one is on the washing day. They can draw your bath and wash you very well in like a very sensual, sexy way, with candles, a bath bomb. You know all those exciting things that one enjoys in baths. Unless you don't have a bath, you pour some back in.
Annette Benedetti:So one idea I found that I thought was fun, and definitely comes with a warning, is cold play with the cock having your locked up cock owner sit on a bag of frozen it could be vegetables, it could be fruit, whatever it is but you have to be careful Because, especially with the metal cages, you don't want penis frostbite.
Annette Benedetti:You don't want frostbite and so on that note like you really shouldn't. If they're very frozen, you cannot keep that on skin for more than like I can't remember what it is, but it's like 10 minutes plus and probably less for balls and cocks, but you can have them get up and down and do something in between and keep coming back and sitting on it. Then, once it's melted, you cook it and they eat it, or they cook it and eat it. It's just one. I thought I was like I mean I don't think it's my thing. Well, I mean some people are and I mean maybe we should be honest and fair. Some people really are into things like golden showers and stuff like that, which actually would be-.
Lucy:There's a podcast about that as well.
Annette Benedetti:This would be the time. If you are into golden showers, like you've got someone in a cock cage pissing all over them, I could see how that would be part of humiliation play. If you're new to this and like the idea, just have them, like right before wash day, get in the bathtub and stand above them, straddle them, pee on them. Yeah, you can do that Totally and they're all With consent. With consent, don't just be, like get in the bathtub, I'm gonna piss on you. I mean that'd be weird.
Lucy:Yeah, please don't do that.
Annette Benedetti:There are also sports sheets, so if you wanna do it in a bed, I feel like, for me it's like what too chancey. You never know how much pee is gonna come out but people are into that. So if you're and we do not yuck people's yum, no. So if you wanna pee on your caged cock, we support you.
Lucy:We're just trying to help you do it, just do it in a cleanest way. Yeah, it's cleanest way. You don't wanna clean that up later. I mean, unless you want to make them clean that up later.
Annette Benedetti:Oh.
Lucy:It's also a thing you can do Brilliant.
Annette Benedetti:Yeah, so you know, fuck it. Just do it, however, and put them to work cleaning it up, if that is your thing. I mean, I think that you and I go into like the mode of all the cleaning. As women who have been mothers and wives, the first thing we think about is all the work we have to do, but the reality is we don't have to do shit. Exactly.
Lucy:It's a great month for all the people because you can. You know, every five chores you get an evening out of a cage. Make sure the chores are long though.
Annette Benedetti:Make it work awhile Look.
Lucy:I did the garbage.
Annette Benedetti:No.
Lucy:No, it's two minutes. Like I can do the garbage, like stop it. That's not good, it's not a real chore, that's a nonsense chore.
Annette Benedetti:I guess, when you take the work out of a lot of some of the kinks that I'm like, why would I ever want to do that? Then I'm like, oh, I'll do that if I don't have to clean up or take care of the dirty details. Sure, really changes a woman's perspective. Yeah.
Lucy:We clean way too much. We clean way too much we do.
Annette Benedetti:We're going to wrap this up with a final couple ideas, and I'm also going to show you some more products and toys that I have here, because there are so many that you guys can use and incorporate into this 31 day adventure. But I want to start with go back to cock rings, and I know that we showed you this cock ring. That is a torture device. That is expert level. I've got some cock rings that aren't quite this frightening that we can start with, and actually the first one I'm going to start with. It is by Wee Vibe.
Annette Benedetti:It's not just a cock ring. It goes around the cock and the balls and it has become part of a regular part of my sex life and I am going to be doing a review on it that you will be able to watch and really understand fully how it works and why I like it. But essentially it goes over the cock and balls and the vibrating end of it. It looks very much like a super large cock ring, except the vibrating end of it, which curves towards the body, goes down on the perineum and so it vibrates on the cock owner's perineum and the underside of their balls. So you can put this on the cock owner. You're going to need to take the cage off. You put this on, you turn on the vibration and you put the cage on it. Now what I have found in my experience with this is that it causes an erection, and when I use it during sex, it causes an erection that lasts for a very long time and it makes for me when the cock is in me. It makes the cock feel longer and harder than ever before.
Annette Benedetti:Now, of course, the person wearing this is not going to be able to get a full erection. And the nice thing about the vibration you can have it at all different levels. It has an app that attaches to it, so I can control the vibes on my phone from anywhere, and it's not directly on the penis. It's not like it causes this numbing vibration, right, it's beneath everything else, and that would be just a super. This would be a fun way to just kind of like arouse, torture, frustrate your partner while they've got their cage on. I love this device. It's pretty fun. It's kind of fun A lot of the toys that I've played with so far. The vibrations are controlled by the cock owner, so it's really fun to have an app device where I get to control the vibes and torture them until I decide to reward them there.
Annette Benedetti:The other thing that I have found I and I will go into this, I'm gonna go into this in a triple X episode is I found a E-stem cock ring, and so E-stem is it provides shock, electrical shocks, to the cock and there is a vibrator that you can put on the cock that provides the shock.
Annette Benedetti:Even I was like oh my God, I had my first experience with E-stem. I will tell the story of that in this week's triple X If you wanna know more about that and why. I found it incredibly pleasurable and I imagine I'll be getting into it more. But yeah, so this is a device that will do that to the cock and you will have control over it. Again, you probably just don't wanna just launch into shocking anybody's cock, but I thought that that was a pretty exciting thing to do.
Annette Benedetti:Another thing that you can incorporate throughout the month one of two situations you can say you have the choice of being released from your cage, but if you are out of the cage, you are going to be wearing these sexy little panties around and walking around in front of me, and there are panties for cock owners. There are panties that can say all sorts of different things. You can look them up, but I was given the idea of. Also, you can get lacy panties that can be worn while the cock cage is on, that enhance and show off the cock cage. So incorporating that. If you want to incorporate humiliation, play with that or dress up play.
Annette Benedetti:Finally, you can if it's something you're into, it's not something you have a lot of experience in and I will definitely be getting an expert in to go over this. This might be a great time to incorporate role play. Now there is, I think, a role play element that's natural to doing the cock cage. But I mean you can up that level. You can get into medical play, nurse play school teacher play maid play.
Annette Benedetti:I mean, there's all sorts of stuff you could have a different role for every week. If it's something that you are into, start planning Now. There are lots of costumes at Love Honey. I have a great relationship with them and you can use my code explores 15% for 15% off Products at Love Honey. They have lingerie and costumes there, but that also then ties in beautifully with the Halloween theme.
Annette Benedetti:You're going to be getting costumes anyways. You're going to be wanting to go to costume parties, which is a great time to have your caged person dress up and have their cage underneath Exactly A costume. How would that be? And finally, I wanted to show you guys and I don't know that I've shown you guys. I bet you I have these before. If you're on YouTube these are my favorite butt plugs. I have some glass butt plugs here, since we have talked about butt play a lot. I have a lot of fantastic content on butt play and I will definitely be sending you out lots of information on that. If you are going to embark on it, embark on the butt adventure during October, which is also known as October, also known as kink month and you're going to want to get into butt play, you're going to want some good butt plugs. These are my favorite. They're glass and I already told you I love glass and steel toys.
Annette Benedetti:They aren't very heavy. This one is quite small, it's a beginner one, and then you can see it graduates up to this one. So the next one is like it's a decent increase, don't you think? Yeah, so you can see, I'm holding up now the middle one and it's graduated. It's not that much bigger, but if I take the middle one away and you hold up the big one, it is quite a difference. Yeah, so be mindful. So be mindful.
Annette Benedetti:But again, make sure you have your equipment ahead of time. Make sure you listen to this podcast with your partner prior to embarking on October. Figure out what you guys want to try this month. Do a boundary checklist. If your partner who's going into the cage is like hard nose at the beginning of the month, then it should be hard nose for the entire month If they're open to trying things that you guys haven't tried before. I think we talked about at the beginning. Don't spend a shit ton of money on product On things. Yeah, get some introductory products. I will get you lists to options, both cheap and high end. Right, depending on where you are. Probably if you're already intermediate or advanced, you've got the expensive stuff and be playful.
Lucy:This is a fun activity. It's not a chore you're trying to do, unless your person is doing chores for you. That's a chore, yeah. So just enjoy yourself. That's the point of this whole situation.
Annette Benedetti:And get creative, get creative. This is like I mean it was so funny because when I first said to Lucy, let's come up with a 30 one day calendar, she's like I don't know if I can come up with 31 ideas. And then we got started and I'm like holy shit, I could feel out of a year worth of I mean some things, repeat or variations, and it takes a while to get good at things. It's not like what you do on one day one only happens on day one. For sure. You can use it all throughout and, look, we are going to get you all the things tons of information so it can be a really fun kinky month for you.
Annette Benedetti:Any final thoughts on October and the locked October calendar.
Lucy:No, I think that is pretty much it.
Annette Benedetti:Yeah, If you guys listen to this and you have questions, comments, you want us to do an episode on something specific? Please Let us know.
Annette Benedetti:You can email me your questions. You can leave the voicemail. I have the link to the voicemail. You can scroll down for that, or you can go to locker room talk podcast. That's got everything there as well, and I will have Lucy come back and answer your questions. We will find someone who can answer the questions and we'll get it all mapped out and have us all having amazing kinky exploratory fun.
Lucy:So absolutely Well, happy October, everybody, happy October.
Annette Benedetti:Cheers. I feel like we didn't cheers for a long time. We didn't cheers enough but. I drank my drink. Yours is still full.
Lucy:I know I was, so yeah, excited.
Annette Benedetti:We're excited. So until next time, listener, you know where to find me Instagram Locker room talking shots. Facebook locker room talking shots. Also, she explores life on both of them Tick tock. I'm over on tick tock. Come join me, make comments, I'll respond directly to you. Or YouTube Head to YouTube. But until next time, I'll see you in the locker room. Cheers, cheers.
Lucy:Thank you.