Locker Room Talk & Shots Podcast
Locker Room Talk & Shots Podcast
Improving Sex with Food: Taste the Orgasm
Ready to spice things up in the bedroom? How about doing it with a little help from your pantry? That's right, we're serving up a delicious discussion on the erotic intersection of food and sexual health with one of my favorite guests: renowned Dr. Deb Lano. We're talking aphrodisiacs, libido boosters, and the surprising ways your diet can affect your sex drive, all on the menu in this episode.
Ever wondered why a juicy fig or creamy avocado can ignite desire, or how a simple strawberry can transform an intimate moment? Dr. Deb Lano is ready to dish out the answers. We'll be cooking up some tantalizing tips for a sexy culinary experience and exploring foods that support testosterone and sexual health.
Dr. Deb Lano guides us through the path of healthier choices for a sexier life. Learn how to avoid the pitfalls of the American diet and discover the potent power of raw vegan desserts, certain supplements and even why it's crucial to limit alcohol intake. As a treat, she also introduces us to her book 'Sex in the Kitchen', a compilation of delectable recipes that combine gastronomical glee with sexual pl
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Hi, this is Annette Finnadetti, your hostess for a locker room talk and chocks, the podcast that likes to think of itself as the queer NPR of raunchy women's sex talk. You are about to sit in on the kind of conversations women have on their girls' nights out or behind closed doors, while enjoying delicious drinks and dishing about sex, Think fun, honest and feminist as fuck, and always with the goal of fighting the patriarchy. One female orgasm at a time. Welcome to the locker room. Today's locker room talk and chocks topic is improving sex with food. Taste the orgasm.
Annette Benedetti:By the end of this episode, you're going to know what to eat to have better sex. Did you know, for instance, there's a fruit that will get a dick hard? True, I just learned this myself, but you got to stay tuned to find out which one it is. You'll also know which foods to bring into the bedroom you know, for a little yummy sex play and which ones to leave in the fucking fridge. And to help us with this conversation because I am no expert is one of my favorite returning guests, Dr Deb Lano. She was with me for the podcast on relationship red flags. You definitely want to listen to that one and why we, or some people cheat, so scroll on back. But today Deb Lano is a sex and relationship expert. She is an author, a professor and a major media contributor. She's also written a book that's kind of on this topic. Deb, will you reintroduce yourself to my listeners?
Dr. Deb Laino:Well, thank you for having me back, because I love you and I love this podcast. So you pretty much said everything. Deb Lano, sex and relationship therapist professor, private practice media contributor. You know, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah blah. Let's get into the nitty gritty of this topic, because I will tell you this is one of my favorite topics to talk about.
Annette Benedetti:Yeah, we've been talking about doing this for a while, so I'm excited to do it. I'm still drinking coffee and it's noon. That tells you a little bit about me, deb. What are you drinking with me? Where are you at?
Dr. Deb Laino:I got water, though it could be vodka, but no, it's water Cheers.
Annette Benedetti:Let's talk about sex.
Dr. Deb Laino:Cheers to you.
Annette Benedetti:All right.
Dr. Deb Laino:Okay.
Annette Benedetti:Let's just jump in. Can we start with food that improves sex?
Dr. Deb Laino:Yeah, so you know this is pretty basic, but we all know about the standard American diet, right. So you know we don't. It's pretty much probably what the majority of people are eating, okay, like high fat, bad fat, high sugar, carbohydrate foods, right. I mean, you know we live in that world, that you know it's fast paced and we want something quick. So you know we run to the through, the drive-through, and you know we get that. You know hunger fix.
Dr. Deb Laino:But the more you do that kind of stuff, the more not only is it going to have an impact on your health, but it will definitely have an impact on your sexual health, because the two are linked. Even brain health is linked to sexual health. So in the years in private practice you know one that I've, you know, been in I've always asked people like what their diet looks like, okay, and among many other questions, and I've noticed just over the years that a lot of people with sexual function issues, you know, are eating just kind of really crappy, you know crappy diets, and even when we change some of those things, we see an improvement, okay. So I mean, obviously sex is driven by so many different things, but you also need a healthy brain and healthy body physiologically.
Annette Benedetti:Right, and this is actually something that's come up in many of my podcasts that have to do with libido, sex drive, being orgasmic. When I have talked to doctors, OBGYNs, generally speaking sex experts, they talk about how, when there's dysfunction, the first thing they ask about is food. So perhaps you could start with which foods are just known for being detrimental to sexual health and let's start with, like libido, sex drive, which ones are known to sort of damp? Put a damper on your sex drive.
Dr. Deb Laino:Yeah, that's a really good question, and the primary one is refined sugars. Okay, because of what it does to your blood sugar, what it does to you know, the various hormones that we have, and even what it does to neurochemicals. And you know refined sugars are, you know, not only cakes, cupcakes, ice cream, all of that kind of stuff, but it's also breads and white rice is. And you know, even potatoes to some extent. Okay, I mean, potatoes have some health benefits to them too. Okay, I mean, I would choose a potato over, you know, white rice any day of the week, just because of the. You know the minerals in the potatoes. But those types of things that the American diet is based on, okay, like sugar in the morning, you know. Sugar in the afternoon, sugar in the evening is going to completely screw up your sex drive, and a bagel with cream cheese is all sugar for breakfast, right.
Annette Benedetti:Right.
Dr. Deb Laino:So a lot of people will go to Dunkin Donuts right, bagel with cream cheese and a large coffee, you know, and they put the cream in it, more sugar, you know, and sometimes even sugar, and potentially just as worse, if not worse Splenda or sweet and low, right, and then they go to work, they're sitting down, you know, lunchtime comes along, they have, they go out, they have a sandwich with French fries, okay, and then they come home and they have, you know, some pasta. I mean, it's pure sugar, you know. So that is not only going to impact your gut, okay, which also is connected to, you know, sexuality, but it's going to impact every hormone in your body, as well as neurochemicals. Okay, so we want to stay away from, you know, the sugars as much as possible. Okay, Like my recommendation, I stick with the American Heart Association, where we're, you know, 20 grams and under, okay, but just to give you an idea, you know how small banana is, you know 15 grams.
Dr. Deb Laino:All right, so, but there's a caveat there If you're doing more movement and exercise, you can have a little bit more sugar. If you're just sitting, you know, obviously. You know, you want to be mindful of that.
Dr. Deb Laino:Then we move on to the trans fat type things like the bad fats, all those rancid oils that are inflammatory. And I will tell you the popular one right is canola oil. Right, and people don't realize. You know canola oil is marketed like this is heart healthy and obviously your heart is involved in sex in multiple different ways, but canola oil is one of the most inflammatory oils that exist. So you should be, you know, using olive oil pure or coconut oil pure, organic, unrefined.
Annette Benedetti:Yeah, and the good news is you can use the coconut oil also as a loop.
Dr. Deb Laino:I mean, I don't do that, but yeah, I mean it's the best, and you know your skin, your hair. I mean, you know many people can use it on their face. I don't use it on oil on my face for whatever reason it breaks me out, but you know for other people like it does wonders, you know for their skin.
Annette Benedetti:Right.
Dr. Deb Laino:Okay, yeah, so we want to stay away from those things. And you know, I'm obviously big on protein. I think protein is very important and I think that if you are not vegan, you know, or vegetarian, for you know specific reasons, okay. And if you, there's some people that need meat, okay. And if you are going to eat meat this is the other thing that people don't necessarily think about Um, you need to make sure that it's grass fed. If it's not grass fed meat, you are getting the hormones and the chemicals and what they actually do to the meat.
Dr. Deb Laino:Okay, so I was a vegan for a few years, a raw vegan, and for me, I realized that wasn't good for my health. Okay, like I needed to throw some meat in there for the copper and the iron and the amino acids. Okay, so protein is the building block of neurochemicals Right, I mean, if you are not getting enough protein, those amino acids, okay, they're not going to be building your neurochemicals. And a great. The perfect example outside of red meat would be turkey, right, tryptophan. Turkey has a lot of tryptophan in it. Tryptophan gets synthesized into 5-HTP. 5-htp gets synthesized into serotonin. Serotonin gets synthesized into melatonin and on the bottom over here is niacin. So you need to make sure that those amino acids are being built up.
Annette Benedetti:And what do those do for you? So you kind of listed out all those things that gets turned into, but could you, in layman's terms, tell me what that does for a person?
Dr. Deb Laino:So, like that particular one, is mood stabilization okay, and the majority of serotonin is in our guts, okay, so whatever you're putting into your gut obviously is going to have an impact on your overall mood. Okay, so we and sleep right, because serotonin gets synthesized into melatonin. So whenever somebody has sleep issues, they are very likely to have serotonin imbalances. And then you can trace things back, okay, to the amino acid tryptophan.
Annette Benedetti:Okay, all right. So we know now that sugar, sugars and the bad fats can really put a damper on not only your health but definitely your libido, and it sounds like specifically your libido and energy, and then sleep, which affects everything else. So if we are looking at if you are struggling to have sexual energy in bed to get turned on interest, your libido is bombing out. What are some foods that you can start integrating into your diet that are known for helping with specifically your libido and your sexual interest and feelings of love, amorous feelings?
Dr. Deb Laino:Beats okay, beats are a wonderful, wonderful food for nitric oxide production. Nitric oxide allows blood to flow right. In order to get an erection, in order to get a vaginal lubrication, you need good blood flow. Okay, it's called vasocongestion when blood flows down into the genitalia. Not only you know beats like that, but watermelon is another really, really good one, especially, you know, when it's in season. Okay, like they call watermelon the natural Viagra because of the citrulline okay, another amino acid, l-citrulline, that is in, you know, watermelon.
Dr. Deb Laino:Okay, in addition to things like and I'm just gonna throw all this stuff out to you and you pick, you know, I guess, the ones that are interesting to you, but like wild blueberries okay, like the antioxidants and something called de-manos okay, that is incredible for you know, fixing the cellular lining of you know, sexual organs. Omega-3s are imperative and most people are low on omega-3s. Most people are high in omega-6s from you know, the rancid oils and that kind of stuff. But you know the omega-3s are incredibly important for brain health and brain balance, which is going to help bring, you know, sexual balance. It also increases nitric oxide, you know it lowers anxiety, you know, for people. So you know those yep, yep, got it.
Annette Benedetti:And where do those come from? The omega-3s? What foods?
Dr. Deb Laino:Yep, good question. Fatty fish okay, and you have to be careful with fish just because of high mercury content, because then you're going to be dealing with a whole other host of, you know, heavy metal toxicity, which we don't want. A lot of people have always a good idea to do a heavy metal detox, which you can do with wild blueberries and cilantro okay, but that aside. So, like salmon, you know, at least once a week, okay, is a great one. You know, flaxseed oil is nice omega-3. If you are vegan or you can take a nice fish oil supplement, all right. If you don't like the taste of fish, there is an amazing one called Barlings and you can get like lemon swirl and you know it does. Are you familiar with Barlings?
Annette Benedetti:It's so yummy. I love lemon. I love the lemon flavor and their lemon flavor. Like I could just spoon that into my mouth all day long like candy. Don't do that, but yeah, I love it, barlings.
Dr. Deb Laino:Yeah, it tastes like a little. I put it in the refrigerator so it's like a cold little, I don't know treats.
Annette Benedetti:It's really good. It's like a dessert. Yeah, it tastes like lemon meringue pie, without the meringue.
Dr. Deb Laino:Oysters are another good one, right? Oysters have a lot of zinc in them, right? And zinc is a precursor to testosterone. All right, so we always wanna have ample zinc in our system, okay, so any foods that have high zinc even nuts, raw nuts and seeds have zinc in them, yeah.
Annette Benedetti:Yeah, so to point out to people and correct me if I'm wrong I think what a lot of women specifically, but people of all genders don't understand is testosterone is what fuels our sex drive. Right, it's a big motor engine behind getting horny and oftentimes libido's dropping has to do with our testosterone dropping, correct?
Dr. Deb Laino:Yes, and testosterone also is responsible on some level for mood. Okay, so I know, for me it's always a red flag when males have low sex drive and they have low mood. Okay, like at that point, 80% positive. We've got some hormonal imbalances.
Dr. Deb Laino:Now, with that being said, hormones are very volatile and a blood test is the worst way to get an accurate view of hormones. Okay, so they don't really mean anything on a blood test. So the best way and of course insurance does not cover this is either dry urine or saliva. Okay. So when you get one of those hormonal kits okay, and you do like urine or dry urine or saliva, and of course you have to have a medical doctor to view them, even though you could probably understand them yourself you do a test in the morning, mid-morning, afternoon, late afternoon and evening. Okay, because that gives you a much fuller picture of what's going on, because hormones change throughout the day, right? So, and a good example is, testosterone is higher in the morning, okay, so if you go, if you go to the lab and you get your hormones tested by blood at seven o'clock in the morning, your testosterone could very well be normal, even mid-range normal, but by three o'clock you bottomed out.
Annette Benedetti:What are foods that support testosterone in people of all genders?
Dr. Deb Laino:So foods high in zinc Okay. So again, pumpkin seeds are great, Oysters are great, Role nuts and seeds are great. Clean grass-fed protein Okay, whether it's in a shake or whether it is, you know, a piece of meat, Even protein in general. Like I said, if you are vegan, there are protein shakes that are going to support testosterone. Okay, just because protein in general does.
Annette Benedetti:If this podcast has taught you guys anything, hopefully it's that your sexual health is tied to your whole health and your mental health and the whole system goes together. So anything that's good for your sex drive is good for you In my unprofessional opinion and your professional opinion, correct.
Dr. Deb Laino:Yeah, well, yeah, but I mean you're into that kind of stuff and you know I think people know for the most part in general that they need to have a healthy internal body, both mind and body, to have longevity with sex and vitality with sex, and ultimately that's what we're getting at here.
Annette Benedetti:Are there any last foods that you ingest? We're going to move on in a moment to the bedroom and what we can bring into the bedroom for fun sex play, but before we move on, are there any foods you want to make sure my listeners know about in their quest to be like hornier, dirtier folks?
Dr. Deb Laino:Yes, two in particular. Okay. So, and the second one is probably going to be shocking, but the first one is limit alcohol. Okay, because alcohol is a central nervous system depressant and the more of it will cause erectile function issues, it'll cause lubrication issues. So keep the alcohol to. You know, a drink to absolutely max, okay, if you want to take the edge off, you know, or whatever, and that is you know. You know, six ounces of wine, 1.5 ounces of hard alcohol, okay, because it's not going to give you good, good sex. Okay, in the beginning it might Okay, but the more you use that, you know, during sex, the more dampened your sexual or central central nervous system is going to be and in the long run, your anxiety is going to end up getting higher. Okay, so then we get more alcohol and then, before you know it, you don't want to have sex. Okay, and you're looking for, you know, different things to bring arousal to the situation.
Dr. Deb Laino:The second thing is chocolate. Okay, like, chocolate is probably one of the biggest marketing scams ever, for you know Valentine's Day, right, you know chocolate is love and you know all of that. And you know, first of all, the milk chocolate is pure sugar. It has none of the benefits in it that what's called raw cacao, okay, which is chocolate actually has, which nobody wants to eat raw cacao because it tastes so bitter, okay, and you know. Again, it gets mixed down, you know, with sugar and all of that kind of stuff, and there's plenty of recipes you can do with raw cacao to make it amazing.
Dr. Deb Laino:But chocolate, dark chocolate, let's stick with dark chocolate and raw cacao. They have two chemicals in them. One is a natamine and the other one is theobromine. Theobromine is the chemical that you know kills will kill a dog if they eat chocolate. Um, anatomine is a TH. It binds to THC receptors, just like THC does. Okay. Now, the interesting thing about chocolate is the very few studies that have been done on dark chocolate and women. That women would choose dark chocolate over sex. Okay, because what theobromine does and what anatomine does is it makes you feel fulfilled. So you never want to give your lover dark chocolate before sex because it's going to lower performance, because they're already going to feel satisfied.
Annette Benedetti:Oh shit, I hope you guys are listening to this one Chocolate, you motherfucker stealing our lovers and our hard dicks and wet clits.
Dr. Deb Laino:Yeah, take, eat the dark chocolate, you know, after sex, okay, or if you know you're not going to have sex, because there's amazing benefits to dark chocolate, okay. Lots of antioxidants, okay, and even those two compounds are very healthy for you, but it is not an aphrodisiac by any sense of the word. I always make this joke if you want to get your partner into bed and have good sex, go to a clean sushi place. Make sure that sushi is grade a, okay, because you don't want parasites, the whole other story. So have a little bit of sushi, okay, sashimi maybe, like, not a lot of rice, a little bit of sake. Don't fill yourself up. You've got just, you know, enough to not be hungry. You've got all that zinc in you and you've got a little bit of sake to take the edge off.
Annette Benedetti:That resonates with me. I feel like after I've had sushi, I I have a little bit of a buzz going on in. Just I feel awake, alive, alert, energetic, and I've noticed this repeatedly over the years. I'm like dang, like sushi treats me well, yeah, so that actually makes sense. If you are a sushi person, you just got to go ahead, make your date, take you out and promise them sex after.
Dr. Deb Laino:Yeah, and look, if you're not a sushi person, because not everybody is You're going to make at home, naked, okay, um, some salmon, and have a glass of white wine, okay. And you know, do make it in your high heels or whatever. And and underwear, males and females, males, females, whatever. Make it a sexy cooking experience too, yeah.
Annette Benedetti:I love it. That's a great idea. All right, guys, now you have a dinner idea before you're going to have sex. Is there a reality to Aphrodisiacs? Are there actual Aphrodisiacs? I guess the sushi would be Aphrodisiac, but are there other at Aphrodisiacs you can list off for us?
Dr. Deb Laino:Yeah, I mean, I think you know it's not a hard science, all right, but you know, I think that when you look at certain, say, fruits, okay, and vegetables, they resemble body parts, all right, and the ancient thought is that you eat the foods that resemble body parts and it helps those body parts, okay. So, for example, you know figs and testicles, okay, do I think figs are Aphrodisiacs? Sure, okay, because, again, whether they resemble a testicle or not, they are filled with fiber, okay, they're filled with, you know, just, chemicals and antioxidants that are just good for you know, the body, okay. So oysters, I think, because of their zinc content, right, so they're going to be an Aphrodisiac. So avocados, okay, are said to you know, look like the womb, okay, so they're supposed to. You know, kind of excite. You know females, and again, you've got that really good fat there, okay, so any. So you know a cheeseburger isn't going to be an Aphrodisiac, right? I mean, it's all shit.
Annette Benedetti:All right. I mean, you do know that right now there's some dude listening to this podcast, holding up a watermelon going yep, that's about right. No, it's not, sir, but I like your confidence.
Dr. Deb Laino:Watermelon is a gift from the gods. I mean, watermelon is amazing for sex, okay. And again, is it an Aphrodisiac per se? I mean, there's compounds in the watermelon that are going to get blood flow going. You know the elcitrulline. If you don't like watermelon, okay, well, you know, you know, maybe we find you know something else. Maybe take a citrulline supplement or LRGene supplement. But if you like watermelon when it is in season, you should be eating watermelon as much as you possibly can.
Annette Benedetti:All right. So let's move into the bedroom with food. What are you got suggestions for food? Sex play, or, you know, it doesn't even have to be in the bedroom yet like from cooking to in the bedroom. What are we adding for our sexy night?
Dr. Deb Laino:So probably my favorite thing to add into the bedroom is warm honey. Okay, now, some people don't like honey, that's fine. There's other things. But warm honey because and not like overly heated, don't boil it, but, you know, warm it up, you can pour it on each other, okay. Whenever it comes to sugar, they say, keep it above the waist. Okay, I to some extent agree with that, but I think there's variations. But you know, you can suck honey off nipples, right. You can suck honey out of belly buttons, right.
Dr. Deb Laino:I mean, I personally think that a little bit of honey on a penis is a wonderful way to give a blow job, because honey is a wonderful way to give a blow job, because honey makes you salivate, salivate and don't get it in the urethral opening. Okay, just put a little bit, you know, on the shaft of the penis, you know, and you know, start kind of sucking away. Okay, you don't want to do that in a woman because of yeast and you know that kind of stuff, but you can use a definitely a little bit on a penis, all right. So warm honey is incredibly important. I like some of the basics, like strawberries, you know, I think kissing with strawberries can be, you know, very erotic. I think that even putting a strawberry in a little bit of vaginal fluid and then, you know, kind of eating it while looking at your partner's eyes, can be very erotic. Don't put the strawberry in the vagina, okay, again, because of you know, sugars, but on the outside of it, you know, you can certainly, you know, tease with a strawberry and then get really erotic and eat it. I also like to bring ice, you know, into the bedroom and recommend it often, because you can do anything you want with ice. Okay, that can go anywhere on the body. It's water, for God's sakes, okay. And again, it gives different sensations, right, and some people don't like the cold sensation, okay, and some people do, but it's a real nice sort of I don't know erotic change. You know, I think you know a little bit of whipped cream can be fun, you know to, maybe on the nipples or you know something like that I like to.
Dr. Deb Laino:I like food in the bedroom, in the bedroom, quote, unquote, right, I think it's a. I think it can be very just erotic, okay, using your hands and feeding each other and, you know, licking and sucking and chewing in. You know, hopefully you're not chewing with a crap ton of food in your mouth. That's erotic, but you know, you know what I mean and, for your listeners, never, ever put a whole bunch of any of this stuff in your mouth and think you're going to be erotic. It's nibbling. Okay, the nibbling is the part that's erotic, and feeding each other is is Erotic and it's it's caring and it's sensual, you know. So there's a lot of fun things. With regards to Bringing food in the bedroom, I Love that.
Annette Benedetti:Yeah, I hadn't thought about the strawberries and the vagina and stuff like that. That's yes, but something to Remind listeners of is don't go shoving a bunch of things up a vagina that you cannot get out or you know really. Just don't shove things up the vagina. Sometimes they get lost up there. We've mentioned in previous podcasts.
Dr. Deb Laino:Yeah, and you'll be able to get it out, because you know it's not going to go up into your brain right, the body doesn't, you know, work like that. But you know it's still like knowing that you have a strawberry in there somewhere and hopefully you remember to get it out, because there have been plenty of times, I'm sure, that ER doctors have taken taken very interesting things out of anuses, and vaginas, for that matter.
Annette Benedetti:Yes, I think we've talked a little bit in past episodes. Someone mentioned broccoli. One time I was like broccoli, that's when. The discussion of food in the sex like broccoli in the bedroom. That's just not like my first thought.
Dr. Deb Laino:No, you know, if you have a sense of stomach, it'll. You know you can be Gassy. You know you want to stay away from foods that are going to make you gassy. If you know, if strawberries make you a little gassy, then you know you can do mangoes or cherries, okay, they're all you know, really really good. And I'll tell you Another one that I think can be kind of sexy too is adding a little bit of heat. So if you put a little cayenne pepper on mangoes, okay, and you know, eat that. You know, sometimes when you eat, the myth is okay. We don't know if it's, if it's true or not. The rumor is, I should say, is that if you eat some spicy foods, that it's going to increase your libido as well. I would always choose cayenne pepper over everything, because cayenne is medicinal in so many ways. Cayenne actually makes your blood flow All right, it burns fat. I mean. You know cayenne is, is medicine and it's a.
Annette Benedetti:It's a wonderful spice too and do you have any foods outside of fruits that you think Make a sexy addition to the bedroom and sex play?
Dr. Deb Laino:to the bedroom.
Dr. Deb Laino:No, because fruit is light, it's sexy.
Dr. Deb Laino:You know, I don't want to see people bring in pizza into the bedroom, you know, like that, I mean all this like heavy stuff and I'm sure there are okay, but just, whatever it is, make sure that it's clean and light.
Dr. Deb Laino:That is the goal, okay, and not hard to eat, for that matter. Okay, you don't want to be bringing like I don't know walnuts in their shell into the bedroom where you're like you have to crack those bitches, you know, to even get the woman out of it, right? I mean, you don't want hard to eat food. You don't want a heavy food, you know, you want light and easy Food. That, just in case you have a little bit of a stomach pang of you know, hunger, it can be lightly settled and it will give you energy, because you know Food is actually supposed to give you energy. If you eat a meal and you feel fatigued Afterwards, you ain't the wrong thing for your body, okay, and your body is telling you I did not like that, right? Yeah, food is meant to give you energy, not to make you go to sleep.
Annette Benedetti:Right, and? And if you eat too much, your stomach also then starts digesting all that and all your blood goes to your stomach, and that's not where you want your blood.
Dr. Deb Laino:I would also say stay away. You know, because, as I'm sitting thinking, somebody out there right now is thinking about charcuterie boards. I know they are. You do not want to bring because it's finger foods, right. You do not want to bring dairy into this mix. Okay, number one, because of the sugar and the lactose. Number two dairy is is inflammatory. Some people can get gas with dairy and it's just gonna slow down, you know. Slow you down a bit lesbians listen.
Annette Benedetti:Lesbians love their charcuterie bar boards and no one can whip together a charcuterie like a lesbian. Can I have had my heart one over by a lesbian who put together the most Amazing charcuterie ever. So lesbians, listen up. What about olives? What about olives?
Dr. Deb Laino:Oh, that's absolutely, Absolutely. I can't believe I freaking forgot that one. Olives are amazing. You can certainly bring olives into the bedroom.
Annette Benedetti:Look at me olives for the win.
Dr. Deb Laino:Yeah, I mean think. I mean you know it's a really good fat, you know it's a, it's a sexy. You know food, it's very Mediterranean. Okay, some people don't like olives. That's fine, I wouldn't even be I. I'm okay also with like like an olive tapenade on like a nice like seed cracker. Okay, like you know, and you can play around with some of you know that kind of stuff too, because it's light, it's, you know, healthy and it's not going to have a negative impact on, you know, sex and sexuality.
Annette Benedetti:I this Conversation just made me think of. Do you remember the trend of a sushi being served on naked women, do you? Do you remember that trend? Yeah, I just want you to comment on it.
Dr. Deb Laino:Yeah, I never thought it was a good idea. I mean, you know there's there's too many links to Women and fish, which is completely not true. Unless a woman has a bacteria infection, okay, then it can be a little. You know, her vagina can be a little fishy. Yeah, I mean, I me personally I didn't find much sexy about it.
Annette Benedetti:I thought it was so weird the idea, especially because sushi is supposed to stay cold and it's on this body like a warm body. But it was very popular. But it's kind of interesting now that you talk about the aphrodisiac effects of having sushi before sex. It's like, oh well, I guess they could go together. It just grosses me out. The idea of fish on a warm body doesn't seem sexy.
Dr. Deb Laino:But I choose warm honey, like a warm raw honey with sex, because honey is actually antimicrobial, it's anti fungal, it's antibacterial. Okay, matter of fact, if you have like an infection, you can use manuka honey and it's, it's better than you know a lot of antibiotics. I didn't know that, you know. So there's properties and some of the things that we've talked about that are that I've carefully sort of curated and, you know, picked over, you know, over the years, for their benefits and their you know their powerful, you know components, sure.
Annette Benedetti:So let's wrap this up with the takeaways for my listeners. What really quickly just round up your top picks for what to stock their refrigerator pantries with, to be ready at any moment for sexy food play with their partner.
Dr. Deb Laino:Okay, watermelon, wild blueberries not regular ones, wild blueberries, they're small, they're tiny. And omega three supplements a nice French wine, I would throw that in there. A raw local honey, pumpkin seeds Okay, so you have zinc. Throw a zinc supplement, you know, in your pantry. Make sure you have that. Stop buying highly processed foods, if you are, that are laden with sugar. Make sure you have a tub of organic coconut oil, because another gift from the gods in your pantry.
Annette Benedetti:I love it and then can. So the name of your book is Sex in the Kitchen, not your mother's recipe book, and I am going to put a link to that. Do you want to? Just really quickly, I don't even know Tell me and the listeners what's in that.
Dr. Deb Laino:Yeah, so that book was written when I was a raw vegan, so the majority of the recipes in that book it's a recipe book are raw vegan desserts. Okay, so it's desserts and cocktails. Okay, so that's it. I started getting into and I still do most of my desserts raw vegan because they're just utilizing like super foods right, Like you can make a chocolate pudding out of raw cacao, dates and avocado and mix it all in a blender. Have you ever had that?
Annette Benedetti:No.
Dr. Deb Laino:Raw vegan. Oh, my God, it is to die, for it is so rich. You could literally eat it for breakfast or lunch or dinner, because it's all super food. Because raw cacao is, you know, a super food and it's, you know, thick like pudding. It's this simple you use 12 dates, a teaspoon or two of raw cacao and two of ripe avocados, okay, blend it all up, put it in the refrigerator for, you know, a couple hours, okay, and you will have an amazing food, not for sex per se, because of the raw cacao, and, you know so, all those types of desserts that were just really built for health and that you could eat and not feel guilty about.
Dr. Deb Laino:And then the alcohol the cocktails in that book are really sort of unique and you know, there's nothing worse than going to get like a margarita. And it's laden with this fake margarita mix. Okay, like they suck, If you like them. You've never had a real margarita, Okay. So I made this one margarita and it was called a cellarita. I know it sounds crazy, it sounds gross, but it is, it's awesome. So it's a celery, white grapes, tequila, and you rim the top with sugar and it's just, it's an awesome cocktail. And there's another one in there called beat you up, and it's a beet juice and white grapes and you can use vodka or tequila.
Dr. Deb Laino:And I made these because, like I, I did number one. I don't want to feel guilty if I'm drinking alcohol, okay, like this is doing my body so bad. I also cannot wake up with a hangover. I cannot. I have to be on point, you know, for the most part every day. So I wanted fresh ingredients, okay, and I also like to have energy when I'm drinking. I like to have a boss, but I like to have energy and you know the, the classic drink that will do that for you is like the red bull and vodka, but it's freaking horrendous for you. So if you do like the beet juice, right, you're getting all that nitric oxide and B vitamins and iron and all of that, and you know a bit of vodka and you throw some white grapes in there for for sweetness. I mean you're getting a buzz and you know you're getting, you know your. Your head stays clear and you know it's just, it's a good drink. It doesn't sound like it, but it is a good drink.
Annette Benedetti:Well, I'm going to leave the link in the notes of this podcast for my listeners, and I feel you 100%.
Annette Benedetti:I'm sure we all are familiar with wanting to have a drink while being sexy and being concerned about oh, am I going to get too drunk, am I going to be hungover, is there too much sugar in this? I think most of us by now know that the sugar and I love sweet cocktails, I love cocktails, but I also know that the sugar in a lot of them makes me feel like shit. If it doesn't, in the moment which, after two or three drinks, I will start to feel the sugar like worse than the alcohol, it will the next day. So this makes complete sense to me, and to be able to have a sexy cocktail and know that what you're have it not only taste sweet and good, and know that what you know is wrapped around that alcohol and and entering your body is going to be healthy and good for you is, I think, will also make you clear your mind a little better for what's at hand, which is sex.
Dr. Deb Laino:So yeah, yeah, and just on a side note too, like with wines, I stay away from all California wines because of the high glyphosate in them. I stick with only French wines. I'll do a little, you know, kind of shout out here. I'm a company that I use. It's called dry farm wines and they are all touted by like the paleo people and they have no sugar and they are super clean. They've all been tested for pesticides, glyphosate, you know numerous others, and when you're drinking them they are very clean. A lot of them come from France. I like a good French wine, but some of them come from other places. But if you're, if you want, like cases of wine, to order online knowing 100% that they're going to be clean, dry farm wines is absolutely amazing and you know you're getting, like I said, clean wine. If you don't, when you go to the liquor store, you know, choose a wine from France because they do not use the glyphosate and the pesticides that we use here in America.
Annette Benedetti:Well, I feel like you've given us some great information and applicable tips that we can start using in our life and sex life, and specifically starting today. So thank you so much for that. Can you tell my listeners where to find you?
Dr. Deb Laino:Yes, your sexcom, just my website is the best place and you know all contact information is on there. So yeah, have at it.
Annette Benedetti:Thank you so much for coming back and attacking this topic with me. I have learned a lot from it and will be having a lot of watermelon. I usually don't eat watermelon, I don't know why, but I'll tell you what. Also, all my people out there better get ready because I'm going to be feeding you water.
Dr. Deb Laino:You are going to be at the sushi bar tonight and dessert is going to be watermelon.
Annette Benedetti:My partner and I will be eating sushi and watermelon from here on out all the time. I love it.
Dr. Deb Laino:A lot of sex girl.
Annette Benedetti:That's the goal. Hey guys, you know where to find me. I'm on Instagram and Facebook. She explores life and locker room talk and shots. You can find me on TikTok at locker room talk podcast. I just started threading. I don't know what the fuck I'm doing and it's pretty sad. So if you want to go over there and cheer me on or talk to me there, that would be rad and I'm there as being Benedetti. That's also my personal Instagram. You are invited to join me. So scroll down, check out the recipe book and enjoy dining for sex. So thank you again, Deb, for joining me.
Dr. Deb Laino:Thank you for having me.
Annette Benedetti:And until next time, listeners, I will see you in the locker room. Cheers.